The most precious company of life whether you are alone or among
Do not overcomplicate
You want something? Great! Create a plan to make it yours. Keep your eye on the prize
and do not get distracted by other peoples noise or by your own ability to over-think
Focus on what you want
Confident people keep a positive vision in mind of the future. They expect good things to
happen to them, and as a result they do, as expectation is a very powerful force
Act as if it's already yours
People who are self-assured allow their language and actions to be in line with their
outcome. This inspires confidence in others
Use words with intention
Consider the difference with two people discussing their new blog. One could be, "Yes, I
am a blogger. You like vintage purses too? Awesome! We must connect -- check out the
new images I posted at..." vs. "Well, I am trying to blog but am not sure I am doing it right
(nervous laugh)." Who do you think gets the most views and shares?
Listen but don't pay heed to others'
Other people are well meaning and sometimes err on the side of caution. Confident
people listen to other people but do not let their difference of perspective take them off
track. It's your life!
Dedicate time to what matters
Confident people are happy to say no to things to make sure they have time and energy
for their priorities. Funnily enough, people treat them with more respect as a result
Know failure is sometimes inevitable and
don't fear it
Worrying about failure can keep us from doing anything at all. Confident people are still
confident even when they fail. When the chips are down they know it will pass
Confident types don't talk endlessly about their successes. I was once at a large corporate
event and I was speaking to an outgoing and likeable woman who said she "worked in
publishing." I found out later that evening that she was the editor-in-chief of one New
York's most influential magazines. Confident people let their success speak for itself and
don't need to vocalize it
Repeat all of the above!
Confidence building takes a lifetime. The more we practice confidence as an attitude,
the easier it becomes.
The most successful and happy people are not born the most rich, beautiful or talented.
They just believe in themselves and go for what they want. Confidence is also a highly
attractive quality in others as we all secretly aspire to have more self-assurance. "I can"
and "I can't" thoughts create very different emotional spirals, as the mind is very obedient
and follows whichever path we direct it. Which do you choose?