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Dear Friend:Please accept warm regards! I am humbly corresponding with reference to thematrimonial enquiry for your kind rational assessment purpose for a closed but healthyfriendship at the beginning and then possible match in the near future, if both of us aremade for each-other upon our compatibility and comfort! I am a Developmental andManagement Practitioner by training and profession. This year, probably after fewmonths, I am thinking and planning for my marriage with at least a "University Graduate,but preferred Masters Degree and Job Holder or Self-employed, Pretty Looking, WellCultured Girl."If the lady is unemployed at present, she should have career-oriented mind after marriageto use her education as well as in enhancing for balanced marital life. The main reasonfor setting all these minimum practical criteria is to thoroughly empower the prospectivelife partner and acquire a reciprocal synergy for our lifelong personal growth anddevelopment. For this rationale, I wish to emotionally, morally and psychologicallyencourage and motivate my ideal life partner for her professionalism, edification andoverall personality development. But, what I only expect on her intrinsic lady persona is:natural compassion in the heart of a well-cultured lady as well as positive attitude andoptimistic mind since she will be the source of an inspiration for a man during difficultcircumstances as well as for a positive transformation in our lives.However, the reality talks lauder than dreams! At present, I represent the working classeconomy: we both must work for our livelihood. Currently, I have some hundreds ofbooks in the name of property in my own name with a four-roomed cemented home andsome pieces of land in Tarai-Sunaul Bazaar, Nawalparashi, which is an outcome ofpurely my personal income! But, I was grown up and educated around Jawalakhel fromthe age of 10. Consequently, at any cost, we cannot settle in Terai and must dwell in themetropolitan urban areas. Our sisters and all relatives have already established their ownhomes in this valley and I/we also must construct a permanent residence in Kathmandusoon, although for at least few years, we have to happily live in a rental flat on temporarybasis, especially around Lalitpur Municipality.As far as my core profession is concerned, I am actively involving with the internationaldevelopmental organizations since 1990. When I was exactly 16 years in ninety, I starteda career with the UK Governments DFID/Enabling State Programme Nepal; Office ofthe Prime Minister and Council of Ministers; Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC)Radio Station; United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team forSouth and West Asia (UNFPA, CST for SAWA Countries); DFID/Rural Access Program(RAP); Japan International Cooperation Agency/Japan Medical Association (JICA/JMA)funded School and Community Health Project (SCHP) and Save the Children-Norway(previously Redd Barna, Norwegian semi-government international humanitarianorganization). (Please refer the enclosed resume, working certificates, recommendationletters, health report, security clearance, World Bank recognization, etc. and/or click theink http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000).
Moreover, I was also temporarily implicated as an independent Freelancer Consultant forUNICEF/ROSA, USAID/IFES and USAID/NDI for two years. Lately, I was workingwith the Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA)/Nepal Office in the capacity ofan AS Officer until I shifted to an UN Agency in 2008.At present, I am working with one of the Specialized Agencies of the United Nations(UN) System, based in Nepal, at Harihar Bhawan, Pulchowk, Lalitpur, in theAdministrative Capacity, which is a long-term permanent fixed job.As far as my pedagogical background is concerned, I have completed Double MastersDegree i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS) and MA Rural Development, both in firstdivisions. Moreover, at the same time, I am also pursuing third masters degree in PublicAdministration (MPA) course. I have simultaneously made my mind to enroll for MPhilcourse as well to upgrade myself for PhD in a long run of my life, which is one of themost pertinent future dreams for me.Regarding my social background, I am Single (Never Married), Chhetri, 1974 Birth,Aries, 60 kg weight, height 53 with fair complexion. (Please see attached photos and/orclick links: http://s737.photobucket.com/albums/xx13/rajkpandey2000 for my700 photos in total 20 pages without downloading them and/or click another linkhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/rajkpandey2000/ for my 200 snaps). I am none-alcoholicbut occasional smoker, extroverted and determined laborious person for a set-goal. I amonly son with two married and one single sister. Our father used to be local levelpolitician in Triveni-Susta VDC during his youth up to 1970, which is nostalgia for us inthese days. On the other hand, he is also an Indian retired army with the pension fromIndia (70) and mother is housewife (67). They both live in hometown to look after homeand land and quarterly visit us for a week as well as collecting their pension from Indianembassy.Finally, if you feel comfortable to happily live in a rental house for few years; if you arealso seriously searching an ideal life partner; if your inner soul considers that we bothmight be like minded friends for lifelong and our matching will be the perfect one; if youtrust me as a gentleman by the hub of your heart and curious for a matrimonialrelationship, we can meet as a very goodfriend at first and should try to sincerelyunderstand each-other thoroughly. When our inner chemistry, feeling, manner, interestand ethos are compatible and comfortable for both of us, we will spontaneously andunknowingly feel emotional attachment based on heart-to-heart relationship, then we canrationally decide for our marriage-life as soon as possible, basically after obtainingmutual consent and concurrence from our family members and parents.At a very fine and lucky moment, a meeting even with a stranger sometimes may bringmajor transformation in our lives! Optimistically speaking, who knows future: we bothmay prove to be the ideal lifelong friends and exact dream partner of each-others! Forthis purpose, you may contact me without any hesitations at (977-01) 98510-86884/9841813529. Then, if you feel comfort and secure, I will invite you along with your bestfriends and parents for a courtesy coffee meeting at Jawalakhel for our formal
introduction that will be the best way to initiate our long lasting cordial relationship.Beside this, you can assign your reliable relatives and parents as your representative foran initial discussion with our guardians or myself. Furthermore, alternatively, you mayforward your latest snaps and accurate information to us in making a logical familydecision for the possibility of amicable relationship, which is based on the bond of trustand honesty.By the way, being an only brother of three my most respectable and loving sisters, I caneasily understand that it is extremely difficult in approaching to an unknown person,particularly for the lady. I, therefore, would like to ensure you that: 1) Names of severalreferees will be provided at any time in exploring the facts about me and my familybackground; 2) Several meetings among parents/family members will be organized toproperly familiarize both the family members; 3) Medical health reports will besubmitted; 4) Academic credentials and working certificates will be presented; 5) Yourparents/guardians can independently inquiry and research to verify my background; 6) I/we will certainly facilitate for the acclimatization process to easily adopt our new roleand responsibility in the totally new environments; and 7) Sufficient time will beallocated to closely recognize and understand each-other from insight but the finaldecision is yours: madam!If your family members wish to meet my parents/guardians to seriously discuss on thisissue more broadly, please let me know so that I can provide you their direct contactaddress for further detailed discussions. I can also arrange a series of meetings among ourparents/guardians to materialize our lifelong visualized dreams into the reality. Finally,please refer all the attachments with this e-mail and looking forward to hear from you avery positive response soon!With Warm Regards!Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)Jawalakhel, LalitpurGPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884Mobile: (977-01) 9841 email@example.com@firstname.lastname@example.orgMY SUPPLEMENTARY PROFILEProfession: Raj K Pandey started his career in 1990, at the age of 16 with: 1) Save theChildren Norway (Redd Barna); 2) Japan Medical Association (JMA)/School andCommunity Health Project (SCHP); 3) UK Governments Department for InternationalDevelopment (DFID)/Rural Access Program (RAP); 4) United Nations Population Fund,Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia (UNFPA CST for SAWACountries); 5) Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station; 6) Office of the
Prime Minister and Council of Ministers through Strengthening the Office of the PrimeMinister and Council of Ministers Project funded by DFID; 7) DFID/Enabling StateProgram-Nepal.Moreover, he was also implicated as a short-term Consultant with: i) UNICEF/RegionalOffice for South Asia (ROSA); ii) USAID/International Federation of Electoral System(IFES); and iii) USAID/National Democratic Institute (NDI). Prior joining one of theSpecialized Agencies of the United Nations (UN) System in 2008, where he is workingas an administrative staff in these days, he was involved with the Japan InternationalCooperation Agency (JICA) Nepal Office in the capacity of an AS Officer.Education: He has completed his Double Masters Degree i.e. Masters in Business Studies(MBS) and MA (Rural Development), both in the first division. Simultaneously, he isalso perusing his third Masters Degree in Public Administration (MPA) Course in theearly morning in these days. Moreover, he has strongly made his mind to enroll for MPhilCourse as well sometimes in the future to upgrade himself for PhD in a long-run of hislife, which is one of the significant long-term dreams of his life.Personality: He is liberal minded, independent, honest, talkative and extroverted person.He often trusts people easily but they exploit his gentleness, soberness and softness fortheir own vested interests, which makes him sad. He prefers simple life with the betterhuman capital for own inner satisfaction purpose.Ideal: He respects women and men who are simple, gentle and liberal, although he likesstraight forward nature and speak of mind. However, he disgusts and immediatelydiscontinues even the humanitarian relationship with the liar, hypocrite, arrogant andsadist persons as they are good for nothing for others.Weakness: a) He is, however, not a perfect household manager particularly for cooking,laundry, ironing and other domestic work as he never practiced such activities in hisentire life due to sufficient love and take care rendered by his mother/sisters. b) Whensomeone behaves dishonest, sadist and egoistic way, he completely ignores him/her andnever attempts to reestablish any further humanitarian relationship.ANNEX: WHY E-MARRIES PROPOSAL?Dear Friend:The primary cause for using the webmail based information technology (IT) system for ageneral matrimonial related enquiry is due to the distance induced bravery. I am directlyand personally approaching for the lifes most sensitive, difficult and challenging issue ona supposition that the marriage is the most natural, psychological, emotional and socialdire need of both — male and female, sometimes once in a life. Moreover, each familymay have an eligible bachelor — family members, relatives, social networks, colleaguesand friend circles — who might have informally searching a suitable match for theirgrown-up children through existing traditional social network approach due to the
push/pull factors, but they might also have not been completely able to find out the rightcandidate for their fully grown-up children in consideration of several other issues.We are aware that all unmarried persons, including us, have an imaginative image for anideal life partner on our subconscious minds/dreams from the very early teenage of ourlives. To find our lifelong envisioned ideal/dream person into the reality, our minds/soulsunknowingly keep on searching/exploring around with an expectation that s/he, who isimaginarily living with us in our subconscious minds from the very early age, will comesoon even in the reality of life. We hope that s/he will be the right friend to spend rest ofour lives together for the better aesthetic values, which will permanently end the bitterloneliness feeling and inner vacuum within ourselves.Likewise, both arranged and love marriage have certain pros and cons but like mindedvalues and ethos based marries, where both will have total freedom of choice for therational selection of an appropriate life partner, is the best approach since decision ofsocial-knot directly affects both. Moreover, we have limited social networks, family tiesand relatives, where we can hardly find the dreamed and qualified partner due to lack ofan easy and direct access with her/him. On the other hand, our extremely busymechanical routine life from early morning to late evening for our other daily priorities,has limited us for the better option to expand the social network. As a result, thetremendously competitive world, especially in the fast metropolitan life, has made usextremely lonely even among the huge mob of the people, as we can hardly mix-up withthem due to their varied nature as well as lack of sufficient spare time with us.Similarly, we are totally option and voiceless to select a suitable right partner, whenmarries proposal is put forward from our closed relatives since we can hardly say no tothem despite our several reservations. The marries facilitators also unnecessarilyexaggerate on the qualities of the possible grooms/brides, which may not be realistic inthe practical life. But, marries decision that we make only once in a life is for the sake ofentirely ourselves, not to make others happy since it determines our future. Moreover,even a self-chosen love marries and/or arranged marriage can hardly be guaranteed forlifelong success, durable and happy relationship until our death. Subsequently, it isalways a creative tension as well as hidden mental stress to make a marriage relatedsingle decision with a totally unseen person, which is exactly like a gambling, either wewill be winner or looser!However, we have to ultimately trust an unfamiliar opposite gender and select a totallyunseen person as a lifelong partner out of six billion plus population on this earth.Although, we are not sure yet, who s/he will be, where s/he is now, what s/he is doing,how s/he will approach to us and when s/he will be our real friend as well as how ourfuture relationship will go with her/him. We, ultimately, need to focus merely for his/hercomfort/happiness until we die as soon as s/he enters into our life as change maker, whowill impart significantly differences throughout our life.Beside this, what we are mainly lacking to find out our lifelong visualized opposite idealpartner is — easy access, effective negotiation, two-way communication, sufficient time
for interactions and most importantly inner courage and self-confidence to approach herand directly propose for marriage due to fear of rejection. However, the sky is unlimitedand six billion-plus populated world is beyond our horizon, although we dont have aneasy access to directly contact her. It is not a wrong idea to creatively but gently approachher and exchange our mutual information for an enquiry since s/he might also have beenwaiting for the entry of a right person into her life for her marriage purpose — whoknows we may be the hero by mistake as we both may have been made as an ideal lifepartner for each-others! As marries is one time great event in our life and we can try ourlevel best to invite the proposal from the most eligible, well-cultured person/familybackground as far as possible.But, we should never enforce/persuade the second party to make a decision favorable tous since the marriage relationship must be based on independent personal decision ofboth — without external influence, pressure, threat, hanky-panky and so on — even fromfamily members. Lets continue our dream till we get the best one, when dream is overand shattered, we will really suffer for loosing hope in life. We should not easily acceptthe cowardice defeat, without waging another effective war to achieve the lifelongvisualized person as we can find exactly the same what and whom we dream, if marries istruly made in heaven.I, therefore, have used atypical modus-operandi in exploring ideal life partner and it isexpected that s/he will be the exact lady, whom I have imagined and retained in mysubconscious mind from early teenage. Lets see how general people in our conservativesociety will perceive such a different method as individual interpretations/judgments arethe outcomes of our backgrounds. But, I am certain that she will be the lady with exactattributes, who will positively accept not only such a unique process, but also otherseveral social transformations as mediocre narrow mind can never welcome any changesin the new environments since they are totally happy to live in the traditional status-quasituation due to fear of unwanted social criticism and likely risk in life.The most essential pre-requirement for possible happy marital life is that both male andfemale, first of all, should have natural attraction from heart, without external influence,at a preliminary face-to-face meeting — both should feel click in their minds to seeeach-others at the first sight. The first meeting and its overall impressions generallydetermine whether the further contacts will be strengthened/interrupted. If both feelcompatible and comfortable with each-other during introductory conversation process,their minds and hearts will spontaneously but unknowingly admit as like-mindedprospective friends despite other several men-made gaps and obstacles — economical,social, educational, psychological and professional — as both have emotionally, mentallyas well as psychologically accepted without any pre-occupied minds and persuasions.If both are honest, respectable, loveable and acceptable, a kind of special feeling, thoughtand emotional rapport will be developed within ourselves, which will further enhance forthe deep-rooted love, affection, interdependency and psycho-socio belongingness toreinforce the post-marital life. Subsequently, both will heartily accept not only the rosesbut also the thrones since couple has strong emotional and sentimental heart-to-heart
bonds based on natural attraction, trust and self-commitment for the life-long associationuntil death, which nobody can easily alter. As the human relationship is related with themeeting of like-minded minds and the common wave-length can further enhance for theretention of long-term marital relationship in our life.Moreover, if we find exact dreamed partner, all our senses might be positively persuadedand heartbeat might be amplified due to an unique feeling within us — exactly the samenatural process that we can closely observe among animal kingdom — where innernatural chemistry between them determines their attraction/repulsion for furtherrelationship at a very first meeting of both.We can also boost pleasure of mind, inner happiness and satisfaction through naturalprocess, if couple has liking minds and web length for each other via — reciprocalunconditional love, caring, sharing, mutual understanding and respect for feeling andemotion of the husband and wife, which should based on the ground of mutual trust andhonesty. It is a general human tendency that whatever we perform, we simply act upon inorder to avoid the pain and gain the pleasure. We, therefore, generally worry and fearwith the likely change process and reluctant to renounce the comfort zones, but we haveto eventually accept new roles and responsibilities despite uncertain results in our life.If spouse have certain common grounds, particularly in terms of their socio-culturalvalues, ethos, interests, likings, disliking as well as shared dreams and visions, the post-marital life will enhance better synergy, positive energy, creativity and prosperity forboth. However, if marriage is completely based on compromises, conditionality, baselesscommitments and dishonesty, it may prove counterproductive at any time in a long runsince the relationship must be based on the bond of trust and honesty as it is simply thebeginning of relationship not the end. Moreover, if we establish a marital relationship onthe ground of untruth, dishonesty, exaggeration and hanky-panky, it will mentally hurtyour partner due to a betrayed deal, which will make her/him lifelong regretful that willnever keep your partner happy. If your partner is not happy at all due to your dishonesty,it is obvious s/he can never keep you/your family members happy as well.Moreover, approached person might not have made her mind for her marriage at thisparticular juncture and/or she might have settled. Similarly, both might not have met theirpre-occupied basic expectations and criteria as well as both may have differences interms of their so-called socio-economy, socio-cultural and family-based values, whichmay indirectly affect post-marital life, particularly during elderly age because of thelikely cultural socks. Consequently, everybody has freedom of choice for the rationaldecision for her/his marriage without external pressure and persuasion since being self-master we should not feel regrets for our self-decision.Finally, if your eligible unmarried lady family members, friend circles, relatives andfemale colleagues — at least an university graduate, job holder/self-employed and well-cultured pretty looking lady — is thinking for her marriage within this year, pleaseconvey and forward this information. As a result, she/her family members can rationallyassess our suitability from different prospective for the perfect matching as far as we can
make it, if marries is a matter of choice! Your tiny efforts will directly support us toreduce the information poverty and search of an ideal life-partner of two persons will bepermanently over. If your interested lady friends/their family members wish to contactme/my parents/sisters to discuss more seriously, please feel free to contact us.Please refer all the attachments and looking forward for a positive response soon.Warm Regards!Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)Jawalakhel, LalitpurGPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884Mobile: (977-01) 9841 email@example.com@firstname.lastname@example.orgDear Friend:(A) Please click the link http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000 to refer 500 Plus myreports/articals/profiles/songs/poems/stories/thesis/notes/resumes/write-ups/photos/documents/powerpoint/etc., which is a good collection since 1990.(B) You can also easily access/explore all my 500 plus reports/articls/write-ups and detailmy personal information at (i) http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/.Public; (ii)http://www.scribd.com/rajkpandey2000; (iii) http://www.slideshare.net/rajkpandey2000;(iv) http://www.facebook.com/apps/application.php?id=121841274518042#!/apps/application.php?id=121841274518042; and (v)http://www.docstoc.com/profile/rajkpandey2000(C) You can simply clink the linkhttp://s737.photobucket.com/albums/xx13/rajkpandey2000 for referring nearly 700Plus my photos/images/snaps in total 20 web pages without downloading any of them.(D) Please click another linkhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/rajkpandey2000/http://www.flickr.com/photos/52116698@N04 to easily view total 200 Plus my latest photos/snaps in total 10 pages withoutdownloading any images.(E) You can explore/access my reports/articals/write-ups and any other my detailpersonal information simply by searching me as "rajkpandey2000" and/or "RajK Pandey" on Google, Facebook and any other search engines in the internet.