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    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 1 of 19) This is a "Computer System Generated" Matrimonial Enquiry sent to you either via http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000 and/or http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/.Public We both are totally stranger to each-other so far, although I am humbly and very gently sending this profile including attached my Bio-Data, Certificates (Professional, Educational and Training related), Health Report, Police Security Clearance, ID Cards, World Bank/UN Recognization and my Latest Photographs to an unknown e-mail address for a general inquiry/information dissemination motive, with an expectation that it may be relevant to someone interested, who has also seriously made her mind to settle for the conjugal life within this year. I am not sure yet, whether the marriage is matter of chance or choice. If this is a matter of chance and luck, I am curious to find my luck soon! I have used different modern approach and looking forward to see the anticipated result. Let's see what will be the consequences in the future as unknown in life is both challenge, risk as well as opportunity, which is always a part of our life until our death. I am extremely sorry for bothering you, which is not my ill-intention, at all! You may simply ignore and delete enclosed profile, CV, working certificates and all other my reference materials and/or kindly forward this information among your relatives, female colleagues, lady friend circles and their parents, if someone is also seriously interested for this and has made her mind for the same purpose. Thank you very much for your kind cooperation in advance. The following section is only for the concerned one and her related family members, where I have honestly described my realistic background with the ground reality as marital relationship must be based on the bond of trust and honesty since it is simply the beginning of relationship between opposite genders for the entire life not the end. Dear Friend: Please accept warm regards! I am humbly corresponding with reference to the matrimonial inquiry for your kind rational assessment purpose for a “close but healthy friendship” at the beginning and then possible match in the near future, if both of us are made for each-others upon our compatibility and comfort! I am a Developmental and Management Practitioner by training and profession.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 2 of 19) This year, probably after few months, I am thinking and planning for my marriage with at least a “University Graduate, but preferred Masters Degree and Job Holder or Self-employed, Pretty Looking and Well Cultured Girl to eternally settle with her for the entire life until our death and create the lovely family."If the lady is unemployed at present, she should have career-oriented mind after marriage to use her acquired education as well as in enhancing for the balanced marital life. The main reason for setting all these minimum practical criteria is to thoroughly empower the prospective life partner and obtain the reciprocal synergy for our lifelong personal growth and development to continue the learning process. For this rationale, I wish to emotionally, morally and psychologically encourage and motivate my ideal life partner for her professionalism, edification and overall personality development. But, what I only expect on her intrinsic lady persona is: natural compassion in the heart of a well-cultured lady as well as positive attitude and optimistic mind since she will be the only source of an inspiration for a man during difficult circumstances as well as for a positive transformation in our lives due to an infinite and unconditional lady love for a man even at the crisis in life. However, the reality talks louder than dreams! At present, I represent the working class economy: we both must work for our livelihoods. Currently, I have some hundreds of books in the name of property in my own name with a four-roomed newly constructed cemented home with the tropical based fruit garden in 3.5 kattha of land including some pieces of farmland (1 hector = 1.5 bigha = 30 kattha = 20 ropani) to produce rice, wheat, maize and any other cash crops in the Tarai belt of Nepal -- Tribeni Bazaar, which is situated in Indo-Nepal Boarder, near Bardaghat, Nawalparashi, Lumbini -- which is an outcome of purely my personal income! But, I was grown-up and educated around Jawalakhel, Lalitpur from the age of 10. Consequently, at any cost, we cannot enduringly settle in Terai (Triveni Bazaar) and must dwell in the metropolitan urban areas due to our professional careers for livelihood. Moreover, our two elder sisters and all other extended relatives have already established their own homes in this valley and I/we also must construct a permanent residence in Kathmandu soon, although for at least few years, we have to happily live in a rental flat on temporary basis, especially around Kathmandu/
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 3 of 19) Lalitpur Municipality. However, if necessary, we may also relocate our temporary habitat in any other localities and cities, if we find better job opportunities, somewhere else in the days to come. As far as my core profession is concerned, I am actively involving with the international developmental organizations since 1990. When I was exactly 16 years in ninety, I started a career with the UK Government's DFID/Enabling State Programme Nepal; Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers; Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station; United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia (UNFPA, CST for SAWA Countries); DFID/Rural Access Program (RAP); Japan International Cooperation Agency/Japan Medical Association (JICA/JMA) funded School and Community Health Project (SCHP); and Save the Children-Norway (previously Redd Barna, Norwegian semi-government international humanitarian organization). Moreover, I was also temporarily implicated as an independent Freelancer Consultant for UNICEF/ROSA, USAID/IFES and USAID/NDI for two years. Similarly, I was also associated with the Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA)/Nepal Office in the capacity of an AS Officer until I shifted to the Asian Development Bank (ADB)/Nepal Residence Mission in 2008, where I worked until 2012. (Please kindly refer the enclosed resume, working certificates, recommendation letters, health report, security clearance, World Bank recognization, etc. and/or click these links, where you can also easily access to refer my 500 plus reports, articles, write-ups, thesis, notes, PPPs and photos)  http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000  http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/.Public  http://www.scribd.com/rajkpandey2000  http://www.slideshare.net/rajkpandey2000  http://www.docstoc.com/profile/rajkpandey2000  http://s737.photobucket.com/albums/xx13/rajkpandey2000  http://www.flickr.com/photos/rajkpandey2000 Currently, I am involving with the developmental sector in a very junior capacity based in Kathmandu and constantly struggling for the survival in my life.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 4 of 19) Side by side, I am also exploring a better job opportunity in the job market to enhance for the quality of life since when better is possible, good is not enough for the incessant developmental process. Albeit, the change is the universal truth until our death, and any kinds of temporary achievements, which we consider as our goal in life, are the illusions in our minds since the natural truth is the only permanent reality for all creatures including human as the super natural forces are above us. As far as my pedagogical background is concerned, I have obtained Double Masters Degree i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS) and MA Rural Development, both in the first divisions. Moreover, I have also completed my third masters degree in the Public Administration (MPA) course, although I am waiting result of one back paper. If feasible, I have simultaneously made my mind to enroll for the MPhil course as well to upgrade myself for PhD in a long run of my life, which is one of the most pertinent future dreams of mine as far as possible. Regarding my social background, I am Single (Never Married), Chhetri (father Pandey and mother Basnet), 1974 Birth, Aries, Kasyap Gotra, 60 kg weight, height 5'3' with fair complexion. (Please see attached photos and/or click the link: http://s737.photobucket.com/albums/xx13/rajkpandey2000for my nearly 700 photos in total 20 pages without downloading them and/or click link: http://www.flickr.com/photos/rajkpandey2000for my approximately 200 snaps). I am none-alcoholic by habit but occasional smoker, extroverted and determined laborious person for a set-goal. I am only son with two married and one single sister, who is also on the pipeline for marries, including 70 years old mother. Our father used to be local level politician in Triveni-Susta VDC during his youth up to 1970, which is nostalgia for us in these days. On the other hand, he used to be an Indian retired army with the pension from India and mother is housewife. They both used to live in hometown (Tribeni Bazaar, Nawalparashi) to look after home and land and quarterly used to visit us for a week as well as collecting their pension from Indian embassy. However, our father expired in 2012 at the age of 75. Subsequently, my 70 years old mother is currently living with the smallest sister, who is also unmarried, yet.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 5 of 19) Moreover, I am living in a separate rental house, which is in five minute distance from the rental house of my mother and smallest sister around Jawalakhel, Lalitpur. But, my smallest sister is also in the marriageable age. Hence, ultimately, we will have a very small family size in the reality. My home/land, which is based in Tribeni Bazaar, Nawalparashi has been presently looked after and managed by three different local families, who provide us annual tenancy for the land use. However, we will certainly use our property, which is based in Tribeni Bazaar, after our professional retirements during our elderly age, when we feel totally unhappy and unsatisfied with our current professions in the fast metropolitan life. Albeit, we have to visit our home annually for an inspection, where we can also commemorate our yearly holidays in our own farm house/fruits garden for a week. It is a general human tendency that when someone is interested towards us, we normally ignore him/her, but when people are not interested for us at all, we give them unnecessary importance and start to search them. Probably, you might have been considering that why I am still an unmarried person and what is possible defect on me. To be honest, first of all, I said to my parents, I will finish my education first, and then only I will marry; when I finished my education, then I replied to my parents that first of all, I will find a good job, then only I will marry; when I found the good job, I said to my parents that I will construct a home and then I will marry; when I constructed the home, then I said to my parents that I will purchase some land then I will marry; when I purchased some land in hometown, then I said to my parents that I will build a home in capital and then I will marry. However, eventually, all of the sudden, I have realized that it is too late for me for marries since any achievements that we consider as the goal in our life, is simply the mirage and illusions in our minds, but the natural truth is the only reality for all. However, in these days, I am on high mental and social pressures for marries from my family members and extended relatives as well as I have also internally started to feel loneliness with the passes of time. But, to address the family and social pressures, it will be an immature decision to marry with anyone, who is never an ideal person for us since today’s our momentary solutions should never be tomorrow’s permanent problems, which will reversely affect the whole conjugal life of the couples and their families as well as our prospective future generations.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 6 of 19) My potential ideal life partner, therefore, is the lady, who has natural compassion (daya, maya, karuna) in her heart; who has mild-tonality; none-aggressiveness, none-violent and peace loving nature; friendly, social and practical in the reality. I always admire to those, who have strong human capital with the good academic background so that she can also properly mentor me in many aspects as well as we can collectively practice better academic exercise for the rest of the life together to create a highly educated family. Moreover, a recent research in UK has indicated that the symmetric structure of the opposite gender’s appearance determines for the possible attraction/repulsion. For me, a lady with the whitish complexion and Brahamin/Chhetri will be an ideal friend to settle in life, with whom I/we can comfortably share all our dreams and aspirations for the whole life till our death. I am very much gender sensitive person and highly respect the women for their royal qualities. Subsequently, I never like the ways of traditional arrange marries in our culture so that I have never visited any homes so far in the name of keti herne. The arrange marries in the Indian sub-continent is, therefore, very much male dominated system with an unnecessary mental pressures for the prospective groom and bride, where parents and marries facilitators play the decisive role, but male and female can hardly know each-others’ interests, values, dreams and minds, which play the most crucial role for the successful conjugal life in the reality. On the other hand, the recent social trend in Nepal has clearly indicated that the love marries has higher divorce rate as compared to arranged marries since the adrenal chemistry in our minds plays a key role for love/attraction but the same adrenal chemistry in the mind lasts only for one year. Further, the couple hides his/her real face by wearing an artificial mask in impressing the opposite that cannot last for longer since there is always a huge gap in the dream and reality. Likewise, the more maturity we get, there is less possibility for the love marries due to the age and time factors. I, therefore, have attempted to explore my ideal life partner on the basis of the inherent persona, values, ethos, interests and future inspirations that must be independently assessed and decided first by the lady side. If both of us are heartily convinced that we may likely to be an ideal persons to spend the rest of our lives together; if both of us find out certain common grounds and shared dreams for the entire life; and if we both are confident that our future
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 7 of 19) conjugal life will go smoothly and successfully until our death, then we will invite for the direct involvement and intervention of our parents/guardians/family members for their free and frank assessments regarding our future. Upon our mutual consensus for marries, we will immediately approach to our parents and we will seek for their final permission and guidance for our conjugal life. Upon concurrence from our parents/guardians, we will organize a very simple and cost effective marital ceremony, where we will try our best to minimize the unnecessary marital preparations and monetary expenses for the social bond. When we materialize the marital relationship through a legal, social, spiritual and psychosomatic prospective, we both will explore a couple of rooms in a rental house in the new locality in the periphery of our duty stations, which will be a central location for both of us in considering on mind our offices and vice versa and accordingly we will start the new life, where our mother may also stay with us. The social research indicates that the initial years of marries likely to be on the volatile situations due to the newly altered roles and responsibilities of both, where the couple will try to adjust with the totally new environments and the ground reality. However, the human being is the most capable and flexible creature on planet, who can cope with any circumstances, challenges and changes in life. We slowly will accept our new roles and responsibilities in the ground reality. Our conjugal life, subsequently, will primarily focus and priorities, first of all, the family and secondarily the professional careers, further education, economy, etc. which are only the means for the betterments of our livelihoods until our death. Finally, if you feel comfortable to happily live in a rental house for few years; if you are also seriously searching an ideal life partner; if your inner soul considers that we both might be like minded friends for lifelong and our matching will be the perfect one; if you trust me as a gentleman by the hub of your heart and curious for a matrimonial relationship, we can meet as a very good friend at first and should try to sincerely understand each-others thoroughly. When our inner chemistry, feeling, manner, interest and ethos are compatible and comfortable for both of us, we will spontaneously and unknowingly feel emotional attachment, based on heart- to-heart relationship, then we can rationally decide for our marriage-life as soon as
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 8 of 19) possible, basically after obtaining mutual consent and concurrence from our family members and parents. At a very fine and lucky moment, a meeting even with a totally stranger sometimes may bring major positive transformation in our lives! Optimistically speaking, who knows future: we both may prove to be the ideal lifelong friends and exact dream partner of each-others! For this purpose, you may contact me without any hesitations at (977-01) 98510- 86884/9841 813529. Then, if you feel comfort and secure, I will invite you along with your best friends and parents for a courtesy-call coffee meeting at Jawalakhel for our formal introduction that will be the best way to initiate our long lasting cordial relationship. Beside this, you can assign your reliable relatives and parents as your representative for an initial discussion with our guardians or myself. Furthermore, alternatively, you may forward your latest snaps and accurate information to us in making a logical family decision for the possibility of amicable relationship, which is based on the bond of trust and honesty. Moreover, if you feel uncomfortable for the direct face-to-face meetings, we can also use phone, facebook, Skype to exchange the opinions/views and other basic information through e-mails in order to closely understand each-others. By the way, being an only brother of three my most respectable and loving sisters, I can easily understand that it is extremely difficult in approaching to an unknown person, particularly for the lady. I, therefore, would like to ensure you that: 1) Names of several referees will be provided at any time in exploring the facts about me and my family background; 2) Several meetings among parents/family members will be organized to properly familiarize both the family members; 3) Medical health reports will be submitted; 4) Academic credentials/working certificates will be presented; 5) Your parents/guardians can independently inquiry and research to verify my background; 6) I/we will certainly facilitate for the acclimatization process to easily adopt our new roles and responsibilities in the new environments; and 7) Sufficient time will be allocated to closely recognize and understand each-others from insight but the final decision is yours: madam!
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 9 of 19) If your family members wish to meet my parents/guardians to seriously discuss on this issue more broadly, please let me know so that I can provide you their direct contact address for further detailed discussions. I can also arrange a series of meetings among our parents/guardians to materialize our lifelong visualized dreams into the reality. Finally, please refer all the attachments with this e-mail and looking forward to hear from you a very positive response soon! With Warm Regards! Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA, MPA) Jawalakhel, Lalitpur GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal) Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884 Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529 rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com rajkpandey2000@gmail.com ANNEX-1: MY SUPPLEMENTARY PROFILE Profession: Raj K Pandey started his career in 1990, at the age of 16 with: 1) Save the Children Norway (Redd Barna); 2) Japan Medical Association (JMA)/School and Community Health Project (SCHP); 3) UK Government's Department for International Development (DFID)/Rural Access Program (RAP); 4) United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia (UNFPA CST for SAWA Countries); 5) Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station; 6) Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers through Strengthening the Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers Project funded by DFID; 7) DFID/Enabling State Program-Nepal. Moreover, he was also implicated as a short-term Consultant with: i) UNICEF/Regional Office for South Asia (ROSA); ii) USAID/International Federation of Electoral System (IFES); and iii) USAID/National Democratic Institute (NDI). Prior joining Asian Development Bank (ADB)/Nepal Residence Mission during 2008-2012, he was involved with the Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA) Nepal Office.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 10 of 19) At present, he is associated with the development sector under a reputed donor agency. Education: He has completed his Double Masters Degree i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS) and MA (Rural Development), both in the first division. Simultaneously, he has also finished his third Masters Degree course in the Public Administration (MPA) but waiting result of one back paper. Moreover, he has also strongly made his mind to enroll for the MPhil Course as well sometimes in the future to upgrade himself for PhD in a long-run of his life, which is one of the significant long-term dreams of his life. My Attributes: He is a self-disciplined, self-made, self-developed and self- directed person without guidance from anybody. He dreamed, visualized and worked hard to materialize his vision, goal and aim, which made him active, laborious and confident to cope the difficult challenges and circumstances. On the other hand, when he was in his early teenage and younger age, he used to work exceptionally hard both for his professional career as well as education. He was able to work for up to 18-19 hours daily in that struggle period and used to sleep merely 4-5 hours. Consequently, he successfully continued his full time job and education simultaneously. However, when he gets leisure time in these days, particularly during Saturday and Sunday, he simply enjoys for — laying on bed, traveling around countryside, reading newspapers, listening music, working in a computer for writing something, dine delicious meals, chatting, sharing and joking on generic issues with all the family members, especially two sisters, who are living very close to his house, reviewing literature/reports, watching latest movies/TV and sleeping for late hours. My Personality: He is a liberal minded, independent, honest, talkative and extroverted person. He often trusts people easily but they exploit his gentleness, soberness and softness for their own vested interests, which makes him sad. He prefers simple life with the better human capital for own inner satisfaction purpose. He respects women and men who are simple, gentle and liberal, although he likes straight forward nature and speak of mind. However, he disgusts and immediately discontinues even the humanitarian relationship with the liar, hypocrite, arrogant and sadist persons as they are good for nothing for others.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 11 of 19) My Strength: He is strongly determined person for his goals and visions, which makes him exhausted and burnt-out. Consequently, he can hardly smile, laugh and get pleasure in his life! Moreover, he mostly feels loneliness as he can hardly sacrifice his time for an unproductive purpose and social relationship. My Weakness: a) He is, however, not a perfect household manager, particularly for cooking, laundry, ironing and other domestic work as he never practiced such activities in his entire life due to sufficient love and take care rendered by his mother/sisters. b) When someone behaves dishonest, sadist and egoistic way, he completely ignores him/her and never attempts to reestablish any further humanitarian relationship since honest is the best policy for him. The Root: The Pandey community migrated from Nainital, India in the sixteen century towards the western part of Nepal. The origin of our root/forefathers is around the periphery of Palpa/Gulmi/Gorkha districts. However, younger generations initiated to migrate in different places: Nawalparashi, Chitawan, Kathmandu, and they scattered around so that I was also grown-up in Kathmandu. My father is Pandey and Mother is Basnet, who are originally from Gulmi district and they represent the army background from several generations in the past. My Nature: I have strait forward persona without diplomacy in my nature; I am extremely transparent; I do mostly speak-out of my mind; I am honest in dealings and do not like hanky-pinky nature from others, too. My personality trait keeps on changing from extroverted to introverted, which depends on nature of the target audience and subject matters for the discussion. I prefer to review literatures — philosophy, management, spirituality, development, sociology and generalized topics; watch movies—documentaries, art and commercial films; I mostly listen all kinds of music as per my moods; and I like travelling new places with the like minded friends for sharing the knowledge. My Bad Habits: For the time being, I am a cigarette smoker, but I am seriously willing to stop it permanently. I drink chill beer (maximum limit two bottles) once in a blue moon, but next day, I feel regret due to the headache since alcohol is not made for me. I prefer to sleep even during daytime, whenever I get leisure time, especially on the weekend and holiday.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 12 of 19) I prefer for dine, particularly non-veg meals (mutton/chicken/fish) but I must control meet-based items as far as possible. I am lazy for the regular exercise, which I must improve soon. I prefer for the informal chatting and gossip with the like minded friends in different subject matters but I can hardly manage free time consequently I mostly feel loneliness and emptiness in my life. With Best Regards! Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA, MPA) Jawalakhel, Lalitpur GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal) Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884 Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529 rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com rajkpandey2000@gmail.com ANNEX-2: WHY E-MARRIES PROPOSAL? Dear Friend: This justification and all attachments will logically explain, analyze and convince you not only about the e-marriage proposal, but also on the humanitarian relationship in general, and male and female marital relationship in specific from different prospective. The following section will be useful for all of us to clearly understand the practical difficulties during match making process in our life. This text has been disseminated via http://cid- da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000on behalf of its originator, especially for the interested single lady -University Graduate, Job Holder/Self-Employed and Nice Looking Girl. The primary cause for using the webmail based information technology (IT) system for a general matrimonial related enquiry is due to the distance induced bravery. I am directly and personally approaching for the life's most sensitive, difficult and challenging issue on a supposition that the marriage is the most natural, psychological, emotional and social dire need of both —male and female, sometimes once in a life.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 13 of 19) Moreover, each family may have an eligible bachelor — family members, relatives, social networks, colleagues and friend circles — who might have informally searching a suitable match for their grown-up children through existing traditional social network approach due to the push/pull factors, but they might also have not been completely able to find out the right candidate for their fully grown-up children in consideration of several other issues. We are aware that all unmarried persons, including us, have an imaginative image for an ideal life partner on our subconscious minds/dreams from the very early teenage of our lives. To find our lifelong envisioned ideal/dream person into the reality, our minds/souls unknowingly keep on searching/exploring around with an expectation that s/he, who is imaginarily living with us in our subconscious minds from the very early age, will be found soon even in the reality of life. We hope that s/he will be the right friend to spend rest of our lives together for the better aesthetic values, which will permanently end the bitter loneliness feeling and inner vacuum within ourselves. But, very few people are lucky enough for such unconditional true love, which all cannot find in their practical life. However, unfortunately, our age keeps on running out rapidly for waiting that especial friend in real life, albeit we are not sure yet, when we will meet her/him in the reality. Consequently, when we do not meet our lifelong expected dreams into the reality, it creates enough anxiety, stress, frustration, personality and psychological disorders among us and we feel extremely sadness for our failure. Likewise, both arranged and love marriage have certain pros and cons but 'like minded values and ethos based' marries, where both will have total freedom of choice for the rational selection of an appropriate life partner, is the best approach since decision of social-knot directly affects both. Moreover, we have limited social networks, family ties and relatives, where we can hardly find the dreamed and qualified partner due to lack of an easy and direct access with her/him. On the other hand, our extremely busy mechanical routine life from early morning to late evening for our other daily priorities, has limited us for the better option to expand the social network.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 14 of 19) As a result, the tremendously competitive world, especially in the fast metropolitan life, has made us extremely lonely even among the huge mob of the people, as we can hardly mix-up with them due to their varied nature as well as lack of sufficient spare time with us. Similarly, we are totally option and voiceless to select a suitable right partner, when marries proposal is put forward from our close relatives since we can hardly say 'no' to them despite our several reservations. The marries facilitators also unnecessarily exaggerate on the qualities of the possible grooms/brides, which may not be realistic in the practical life. But, marries decision that we make only once in a life is for the sake of entirely ourselves, not to make others happy since it determines our future. Moreover, even a self-chosen love marries and/or arranged marriage can hardly be guaranteed for lifelong success, durable and happy relationship until our death. Subsequently, it is always a creative tension as well as hidden mental stress to make a marriage related single decision with a totally unseen person, which is like a gambling, either we will be winner or looser! However, we have to ultimately trust an unfamiliar opposite gender and select a totally unseen person as a lifelong partner out of seven billion plus population on this earth. Although, we are not sure yet, who s/he will be, where s/he is now, what s/he is doing, how s/he will approach to us and when s/he will be our real friend as well as how our future relationship will go with her/him until our death. We, ultimately, need to focus merely for his/her comfort/happiness until we die as soon as s/he enters into our life as change maker, who will impart significantly differences throughout our life. Beside this, what we are mainly lacking to find out our lifelong visualized opposite ideal partner is — easy access, effective negotiation, two-way communication, sufficient time for interactions and most importantly inner courage and self-confidence to approach her and directly propose for marriage due to fear of rejection. However, the sky is unlimited and seven billion-plus populated world is beyond our horizon, although we don't have an easy access to directly contact her. It is not a wrong idea to creatively but gently approach her and exchange our mutual
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 15 of 19) information for an enquiry since s/he might also have been waiting for the entry of a right person into her life for her marriage purpose — who knows we may be the hero by mistake as we both may have been made as an ideal life partner for each- others! As marries is one time great event in our life and we can try our level best to invite the proposal from the most eligible, educated and well-cultured family background as far as possible. But, we should never enforce/persuade the second party to make a decision favorable to us since the marriage relationship must be based on the independent personal decision of both — without external influence, pressure, threat, hanky- panky and so on — even from family members. Let's continue our dream till we get the best one, when dream is over and shattered, we will really suffer for loosing hope in life. We should not easily accept the cowardice defeat, without waging another effective war to achieve the lifelong visualized ideal person as we can find exactly the same what and whom we dream, if marries is truly made in heaven. I, therefore, have used atypical modus-operandi in exploring an ideal life partner and it is expected that s/he will be the exact lady, whom I have imagined and retained in my subconscious mind from the very early teenage. Let's see how general people in our conservative society will perceive such a different modern approach as individual interpretations/judgments are the outcomes of our backgrounds. But, I am certain that she will be the lady with exact attributes, who will positively accept not only such a unique process, but also other several social transformations as mediocre narrow mind can never welcome any changes in the new environments since they are totally happy to live in the traditional status-qua situation due to fear of unwanted social criticism and likely risk in life.The most essential pre-requirement for the possible happy marital life is that both male and female, first of all, should have natural attraction from heart, without external influence, at a preliminary face-to-face meeting — both should feel 'click' in their minds to see each-others at the first sight and due respect for both. The first meeting and its overall impressions generally determine whether the further contacts will be strengthened/interrupted.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 16 of 19) If both feel compatible and comfortable with each-others during introductory conversation process, their minds and hearts will spontaneously but unknowingly admit as like-minded prospective friends despite other several men-made gaps and obstacles — economical, social, educational, psychological and professional — as both have emotionally, mentally as well as psychologically accepted without any pre-occupied minds and persuasions. If both are honest, respectable, lovable and acceptable, a kind of special feeling, thought and emotional rapport will be developed within ourselves, which will further enhance for the deep-rooted love, affection, interdependency and psycho- socio belongingness to reinforce the post-marital life. Subsequently, both will heartily accept not only the roses but also the thrones since couple has strong emotional and sentimental heart-to-heart bonds based on natural attraction, trust and self-commitment for the life-long association until death, which nobody can easily alter. As the human relationship is related with the meeting of like-minded minds and the common wave-length can further enhance for the retention of long-term marital relationship in our life. Moreover, if we find exact dreamed partner, all our senses might be positively persuaded and heartbeat might be amplified due to an unique feeling within us — exactly the same natural process that we can closely observe among animal kingdom — where inner natural chemistry between them determines their attraction/repulsion for further relationship at a very first meeting of both. We can also boost pleasure of mind, inner happiness and satisfaction through natural process, if couple has liking minds and web length for each other via — reciprocal unconditional love, caring, sharing, mutual understanding and respect for feeling and emotion of the husband and wife, which should based on the ground of mutual trust and honesty. It is a general human tendency that whatever we perform, we simply act upon in order to avoid the pain and gain the pleasure. We, therefore, generally worry and fear with the likely change process and reluctant to renounce the comfort zones, but we have to eventually accept new roles and responsibilities despite uncertain results in our life.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 17 of 19) If spouse have certain common grounds, particularly in terms of their socio- cultural values, ethos, interests, likings, disliking as well as shared dreams and visions, the post-marital life will enhance better synergy, positive energy, creativity and prosperity for both. However, if marriage is completely based on compromises, conditionality, baseless commitments and dishonesty, it may prove counterproductive at any time in a long run since the relationship must be based on the bond of trust and honesty as it is simply the beginning of relationship not the end. Moreover, if we establish a marital relationship on the ground of untruth, dishonesty, exaggeration and hanky- panky, it will mentally hurt your partner due to a betrayed deal, which will make her/him lifelong regretful that will never keep your partner happy. If your partner is not happy at all due to your dishonesty, it is obvious s/he can never keep you and your family members happy as well. Moreover, approached person might not have made her mind for her marriage at this particular juncture and/or she might have settled. Similarly, both might not have met their pre-occupied basic expectations and criteria as well as both may have differences in terms of their so-called socio-economy, socio-cultural and family-based man-made values, which may indirectly affect the post-marital life, particularly during elderly age because of the likely cultural socks in the future. Consequently, everybody has total freedom of choice for the rational decision for her/his marriage without external pressure and persuasion since being self-master we should never feel regrets for our self-decision until the last stage of life. Finally, if your eligible unmarried lady family members, friend circles, relatives and female colleagues — at least an university graduate, job holder/self-employed well-cultured and pretty looking lady — is thinking for her marriage within this year, please convey and forward this information. As a result, she/her family members can rationally assess our suitability from different prospective for the perfect matching as far as we can make it, if marries is a matter of choice! Your tiny efforts will directly support us to reduce the 'information poverty' and search of an ideal life-partner of two persons will be permanently over. If your interested lady friends/their family members wish to contact me/my parents/sisters to discuss on this issue more seriously, please feel free to contact us.
    • Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com Raj K Pandey, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu, Nepal, Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529, (Page 18 of 19) Please refer all the attachments and looking forward for a positive response soon. With Best Regards! Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA, MPA) Jawalakhel, Lalitpur GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal) Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884 Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529 rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com rajkpandey2000@gmail.com Dear Friend: (A) Please click link http://cid- da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/.Publicto refer 500 + my reports/articles/profiles/songs/poems/stories/thesis/notes/resumes/write- ups/photos/documents/powerpoint/etc., which is a good collection since 1990. (B) You can also easily access/explore all my 500 plus reports/articles/write-ups and detail my personal information at:  http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000  http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/.Public  http://www.scribd.com/rajkpandey2000  http://www.slideshare.net/rajkpandey2000  http://www.docstoc.com/profile/rajkpandey2000  http://s737.photobucket.com/albums/xx13/rajkpandey2000  http://www.flickr.com/photos/rajkpandey2000 (C) You can clink link http://s737.photobucket.com/albums/xx13/rajkpandey2000for referring nearly 700 Plus my photos/images/snaps in total 20 web pages without downloading any of them.
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