Promoting aMarriage Culture        © 2002 International Educational Foundation IEF is responsible for the content of this ...
Marriage & FamilyBesieged                    © IEF 2
Rise InDivorce               Up over 200%                in U. S.                1960-1998                  Annual number...
Children of Divorcedor Single Parents atRisk             Em otionalproblem s             Delinquency             Droppi...
Marriage RatesDeclining         Down by 40% in          U. S. since 1960            Annual number of            marriages...
Births OutsideMarriage             Sweden —              50%             France —              35%             U. S.   ...
Rise inCohabitationin America    900% increase      5                           4. 2 Million Couples      4      3      2 ...
Reasons forCohabitation        Fear of divorce        Less commitment        “ Test-drive”         relationship       ...
Cohabitation Is NoPanacea     Increased conflict and      poorer communication      S o u r c e : Da v i d G. Me ye r s ,...
Natural FamilyOrderFacilitates Love              Guides family               harmony                               © IEF 10
Positions in the Family          Grandparen             ts &            Parents                  Younge            Tru    ...
The Four Spheres ofLove             Child’s              Sphere             Sibling’ s              Sphere             ...
Parents —Primary MoralTeachers            Schools can            support            parents in this            role       ...
Passes On aLegacy   Conserves and transforms   Grandparents — Represent    the Past   Parents — Represent the    Present...
Family as Royalty ofLove           Father and Grandfather            — Kings           Mother and            Grandmother...
Strong Families HaveFocus Higher thanSelf                 Altruistic                  purpose                 Service to...
Uniqueness of Marriage           Joins two lives              Fam ilies              Possessions              Destiny  ...
Profound Significanceof Marriage   Highest      Highest  expressio     expressi  n of yang.     on of                  yin...
ConjugalRelationship                Emotional                    and               psychologica                 l bonding ...
ConjugalRelationship               Produces               physical and               spiritual force               to crea...
ConjugalRelationship               Continu               es               lineage                         © IEF 21
With FreedomComesResponsibility           Conscien              ce                      © IEF 22
With FreedomComesResponsibility           Conscien              ce                      Spous                        e    ...
With FreedomComesResponsibility           Conscien              ce                         Spous                          ...
“Sex is mostj  oyfuland ful l –                           filing mostemotionaly safe as wel as                  l         ...
Sexual Desire & Self–ControlSexual Desires     Sexual Activity                    Controlling it isNormal & healthy       ...
Human SexualityInvolves Freedom Physical  Social    Physical &  &                     Instinctual  Instinctu  Moral  a...
MutualOwnership ofPhysicalSexualityOne‘s sexual expressionfor spouse alone  Fulfills its function   completely  Based on...
Inspirational FamilyGathering     Reading wisdom      literature     Sharing stories of      virtue                     ...
Promote HealthyLiving Among Youth        Self         respect        Sobriety        Sexual         purity             ...
Fulfilled Couples —Source of Strength           Betterparents           Mentors to othercouples           Pillars of th...
StrengthenMarriages   Rededication    ceremonies   Mentoring young    couples                      © IEF 32
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  • Rise in Divorce Rates Since 1960 France Ð Up 300% United States Ð Up 230% Sweden Ð Up 230% Japan Ð Up 150% Source: US Department of Education, 1992
  • Youth In Crisis Sexual promiscuity Drug and alcohol abuse AIDS & STDs Crime and violence Declining academic performance
  • Rogers Introduces Therapy-Based School Reform Adult therapeutic methods applied to child education Carl Rogers, Founder of Client-Centered Therapy
  • Explosion of Destructive Youth Behavior Since 1940s 1940s School Problems 1. Talking out of turn 2. Chewing gum 3. Making noise 4. Running indoors 5. Getting out of line 6. Improper clothing 7. Littering 1990s School Problems 1. Drug abuse 2. Alcohol abuse 3. Pregnancy 4. Suicide 5. Rape 6. Robbery 7. Assault Source: William J. Bennett et al., Index of Leading Cultural indicators, Empower America, Mar. 1993
  • Characteristics of ÒNon-DirectiveÓ Education 4. Rejects the authority of traditional moral teaching 5. Undermines the parentsÕ role in education
  • Best of the 20th Century
  • Strongest Influences on Students 1950 1. Home 2. School 3. Church 4. Peers 5. TV 1990 1. Peers 2. TV 3. Home 4. School 5. Church Source: Michigan State University study, 1990
  • Education for Mastery 1. Academic education 2. Technical education 3. Physical education
  • Education in Ethical Standards 1. Understanding the standards for good relationships 2. Fulfilling family roles & responsibilities 3. Training in behavior, attitudes and manners ¥ Creating harmony
  • 1. Joins two lives¥ Shared possessions¥ Merged families¥ Common destiny¥ Physical union2. Conjugal intimacy is not shared with anyone else
  • Bonds two people together
  • Can create a new person
  • S-46Can continue a lineage
  • S-59Second responsibility of conjugal loveDevotion & service sustains marriage
  • “ Sex is most joyful and fulfilling - most emotionally safe as well as physically safe - when it occurs within a loving, total and binding commitment...[as in] marriage... the union of two person’s lives.” Source: Thomas Lickona, American Educator, Educating for Character
  • Normal & healthy Controlling it is normal & healthy
  • S-531. Expresses the joy of conjugal love2. Place where oneness is attained3. Starting point of parenthood4. Allows the fulfillment of the life goal of family
  • 09 pmc IEF-TIMD Lecture 09

    1. 1. Promoting aMarriage Culture © 2002 International Educational Foundation IEF is responsible for the content of this presentation only if it has not been altered from the original. © IEF 1
    2. 2. Marriage & FamilyBesieged © IEF 2
    3. 3. Rise InDivorce  Up over 200% in U. S. 1960-1998 Annual number of divorces per 1000 unwed females over age 15  Up 130% in China Sources: S ta ti s ti c a l Ab s tr a c t o f th e Un i te d1985 –, 1992; S ta ti s ti c s S ta te s 1 9 9 8 Bu r e a u , Ch i n e s e Mi n i s tr y o f Ci v i l © IEF 3
    4. 4. Children of Divorcedor Single Parents atRisk  Em otionalproblem s  Delinquency  Dropping out of school Abuse of sex and drugs  Poverty © IEF 4
    5. 5. Marriage RatesDeclining  Down by 40% in U. S. since 1960 Annual number of marriages per 1000 unwed females over age 15  56% of adults are married Source: Na ti o n a l Ce n te r f o r He a l th s ta ti s ti c s ; © IEF 5 US Bu r e a u o f th e Ce n s u s ,
    6. 6. Births OutsideMarriage  Sweden — 50%  France — 35%  U. S. — 30% © IEF 6
    7. 7. Rise inCohabitationin America 900% increase 5 4. 2 Million Couples 4 3 2 1 0. 5 Million Couples 1960 1998Source: U.S . Bu r e a u o f th e Ce n s u s , Cu r r e n t P o pu l a ti o n R e po r ts , © IEF 7
    8. 8. Reasons forCohabitation  Fear of divorce  Less commitment  “ Test-drive” relationship  Government incentives © IEF 8
    9. 9. Cohabitation Is NoPanacea  Increased conflict and poorer communication S o u r c e : Da v i d G. Me ye r s , The Pursuit of Happiness  Greater likelihood of divorce  7 times greater risk of violence to women Source: Na ti o n a l Cr i m e V i c ti m i za ti o n S u r v e y, © IEF 9 US De pa r tm e n t o f
    10. 10. Natural FamilyOrderFacilitates Love  Guides family harmony © IEF 10
    11. 11. Positions in the Family Grandparen ts & Parents Younge Tru r Husban e Sibling Lov Wife d Elder e Siblin g Children & Grandchildre © IEF 11
    12. 12. The Four Spheres ofLove  Child’s Sphere  Sibling’ s Sphere  Spouse’s Sphere  Parent’s © IEF 12
    13. 13. Parents —Primary MoralTeachers Schools can support parents in this role © IEF 13
    14. 14. Passes On aLegacy Conserves and transforms  Grandparents — Represent the Past  Parents — Represent the Present © IEF 14 © IEF 14
    15. 15. Family as Royalty ofLove  Father and Grandfather — Kings  Mother and Grandmother — Queens  Child — Prince and Princess © IEF 15
    16. 16. Strong Families HaveFocus Higher thanSelf  Altruistic purpose  Service to community © IEF 16
    17. 17. Uniqueness of Marriage Joins two lives  Fam ilies  Possessions  Destiny  Bodies Sex — Exclusive to the spouse © IEF 17
    18. 18. Profound Significanceof Marriage Highest Highest expressio expressi n of yang. on of yin. One half One half of of humanity. humanit y. © IEF 18
    19. 19. ConjugalRelationship Emotional and psychologica l bonding © IEF 19
    20. 20. ConjugalRelationship Produces physical and spiritual force to create a new being © IEF 20
    21. 21. ConjugalRelationship Continu es lineage © IEF 21
    22. 22. With FreedomComesResponsibility Conscien ce © IEF 22
    23. 23. With FreedomComesResponsibility Conscien ce Spous e © IEF 23
    24. 24. With FreedomComesResponsibility Conscien ce Spous e Child © IEF 24
    25. 25. “Sex is mostj oyfuland ful l – filing mostemotionaly safe as wel as l l physicaly safe – within a l l oving, totaland binding commitment… [as in] mar iage.” r S o u r c e : Th o m a s Li c k o n a , Am e r i c a n Ed u c a to r , Educating for Character © IEF 25
    26. 26. Sexual Desire & Self–ControlSexual Desires Sexual Activity Controlling it isNormal & healthy normal & healthy © IEF 26
    27. 27. Human SexualityInvolves Freedom Physical  Social  Physical & & Instinctual Instinctu  Moral al © IEF 27
    28. 28. MutualOwnership ofPhysicalSexualityOne‘s sexual expressionfor spouse alone  Fulfills its function completely  Based on true love © IEF 28
    29. 29. Inspirational FamilyGathering  Reading wisdom literature  Sharing stories of virtue © IEF 29
    30. 30. Promote HealthyLiving Among Youth  Self respect  Sobriety  Sexual purity © IEF 30
    31. 31. Fulfilled Couples —Source of Strength  Betterparents  Mentors to othercouples  Pillars of the com m unity © IEF 31
    32. 32. StrengthenMarriages  Rededication ceremonies  Mentoring young couples © IEF 32
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