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Long Distance Relationships Advice For Women

  1. 1. Long Distance Relationships Advice For WomenLH Surge and Pregnancyhttp://LHSurge.orgLizzie asks…Advice on long distance relationships? Will it work?I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over 6 months now…However, we met on the internet, and we live really far away.First let me explain;This guy lives in turkey and I know that most guys you meet on the internet you can’t trust , butthis guy is so different. I feel like it’s destiny that we found eachother-hes everything I want in aguy. We met on a language website: I was trying to learn more turkish, he more english.He’s : funny, soo cute, we share similar interests (such as traveling, we like the same food, thesame sports), hes an amazing soccer player, & the best part: he’s NOT LIKE OTHER GUYS. Imean, consumed by sex… He’s very conservative, never talks about sex! , never asks me to doany sexy things on webcam or anything like that. He’s always worried about me, he sends metext messages wishing me good luck on tests or reminding me to take care of myself if it’s coldoutside, he always checks the temperature No matter what happens, he’s ALWAYS THERE.even when we get in stupid fights over his jealousy, it only lasts maybe at the most 10 minutesand we just tell eachother how much we love eachother. And I love a person thats like that Also,When im leaving or taking a vacation and I tell him we can’t talk for a week or so, hes finewith it maybe a little sad, but both times this has happened i’ve come back to an e-mail ‘diary’of how his days went without me and how terrible they were, and how much he loved me.BUT…Heres the cut backs:-we’ve never met, (obviously) although he’s sacrificing everything he has in turkey to come tocanada. He talked to his parents about language school and they’ve accepted, he’ll be cominghere this july.- language barrier is a bit of a problem. I know intermediate turkish (my dads family is turkish)but he knows 0 english.- He’s extremely jealous. telling me to delete every guy on my facebook,phone,etc. He tells me 1/8
  2. 2. dont look or talk to any boys at school. He told me that once he’s in my life, that’s it, no othermales. Which is hard for me because before I met him I had a bunch of male friends. I try to tellhim that I dont love them, i just like their company, but I love him more than anything, and hestill doesn’t want me to talk. I asked him if he doesnt trust me and he says he trusts me alot. ishe lying? :s he told me he doesnt ever look at another girl, he took them out of his life and imthe ‘first and last’ woman for him.all in all, he is just a really amazing guy. He says he’ll do anything for me, and when he comeswhatever I want he’ll do it. I just love him so much and I know that we’ve only been togetherfor 6 months but I feel like I want this to last a lifetime-hes the IDEAL guy (-the cutbacks, but noone is perfect, right?)can I get just someones output- do u think this will work?? What’s the deal behind thejealousy?can anyone share a similar story? I know thats alot, but thank you.Blissful Relationship answers:I’m not familiar enough with the Turkish culture here to explain the jealousy; you’re probably abetter person to look into that. However, that’s something I’d suggest that you do. Differentcultures almost by nature, take on different attitudes about dating, marriage, career, and thingslike long-distance relationships. You might find some of your answers there, and also someother information on your relationship in general that you’d not considered.As far as whether it could work…who knows, eh? I’m currently very in love and very “together”with a man I met online over 2 years ago who lived almost 900 miles away, and has sincemoved to be here with me after a couple of face to face visits and a lot of conversation. He lefthis family, a great job, and everything he ever knew to be here, and I think we’ve both foundthat it was all well worth it. But, we’re both in the states. Your situation is much different, but Ithink you may have some of your answers in July if he comes to visit.I think the language barrier, and even the culture difference, is pretty significant. Throw in thejealousy piece that you don’t care for and I think you two will have a really rough road ahead ofyou, with a lot of effort on both of your parts to find a way to make it all worth it. I think you’relooking at a very difficult relationship and one that you’ll want to consider a great deal…but thatbeing said, love doesn’t conquer everything, but it conquers a lot and if you both find that youwant it badly enough that these other issues are just bumps in the road, then something couldwork out here. Sounds to me though, like you’ll be looking at moving to Turkey if things were tocontinue…that, or he has a lot of English to learn to feel comfortable so far from home.Think sharp, don’t settle, and good luck. 2/8
  3. 3. Maria asks…I need some advice from the women. What is your read of thissituation?I need help from the adult ladies out there, it would be greatly appreciated. I need to know howto read this situation so I don’t make an a** of myself tomorrow (I’m 30, and this girl is 34,neither of us have ever been married). I went out with this girl twice, the last time was a yearand a half ago. The first time we went out things went ok and we made plans to go out again.Then one of her longtime friends got in the way and they began seeing each other. She livesone hour away from me so it would have been a long distance relationship. She broke up withhim a few months later. We went out again shortly thereafter. I went to see her. At the end ofthe date, she said that she would have to come down to see me next time. she had indicatedpreviously that the distance turns her off because she has to drive 45 minutes everyday to workand that was what was precluding her from starting a relationship with me.. It’s reallycomplicated, but like an idiot I never asked her down because I kept coming back to the “shedoesn’t like the distance thing so she isn’t really interested”. I didn’t want to have to deal withthe rejection because she is an awesome girl and I could have seen myself falling hard for herand then end up hurt. If I missed my chance with her I’ll never forgive myself. Here’s the thing.We’ve kept in touch consistently for the last year and a half and email nearly daily (sometimesto the point of excessive since we are both at work!). Sometimes about absolutely nothing at all,but other times about life and what’s happening in each of our lives. Over this time I’ve begunto realize that I have some serious feelings for her, like she might be THE ONE. Back inJanuary I realized this and I asked her out to lunch but she said that she had started seeingsomeone and “didn’t think it would be fair for all of us involved” to get together. So we went onlike usual. I casually mentioned to her about a month ago that I had started seeing somebody(I’m not anymore but she doesn’t know that), and she immediately responded by suggestingthat we needed to get together sometime. She is planning on coming down to my town to dosome shopping and wanted to get together with me afterwards. Today, she mentioned thatshe’d like to switch up the schedule though, that she wants to see me first then do the shopping 3/8
  4. 4. later. Can you give me your interpretation of the situation? Am I in the dreaded “friend zone” oris there a chance she is waiting to see my reaction and if I still have interest? I need the femaleperspective. Thanks in advance for your help, I am an absolutely pathetic mess.I was bummed when she switched up the schedule too. Didn’t see it as a good sign.Maybe I need to play it like I’m happy with the girl I was dating to see her reaction. Try to turnthe tables a bit.Blissful Relationship answers:You are in the “Friend Zone” and you need to move on and go with a girl that will like you backjust move on from her already HUGSSharon asks…What would you do if you found out your fiance looked for discretrelationships with women through internet?I need some help. What would you do if one day you found out your fiance was looking for sexwith other woman in internet one year ago.Your boyfriend for more than 2 years, your futurehusband who tells you everyday “I love you more than anyone in this world”. How do you act?What do you do? I am completely desperated. I feel so confused. We have a long distancerelationship, but he has swore me he was faithful.We had future plans, I have already boughtthe ticket for spend my holidays with him next month. Please give me some advice. 4/8
  5. 5. Blissful Relationship answers:There are several problems here. The first one is that it is a long distance relationship. Youdon’t really know anybody until you spend lots of time with them. When you see someone oncein awhile, they are always on good behavior like on a date. That isn’t real life. As for the internetgirls, I would ask more questions about that. Did he meet any of the girls in person? Did he talkdirty on the internet? You have some thinking to do to decide if he is really husband material.Does this mean that if you aren’t in town, he feels free to play on the internet? Sounds like youhave some trust issues that you need to settle with him before you ever consider marriage.Also, he may be sorry that he got caught and not sorry that he did it. Big difference.Helen asks…How do some long distance relationships work?I live on the West Coast and I joined a dating website called Catholic Match because I wantedsomeone the same religion as me. I was hoping when I joined the website that I would find aman in my local neighborhood. Someone that contacted me lives in the Midwest. He contactedme first and we started talking. I didn’t plan on staying on the website much longer since Icouldn’t find anybody local so I gave him my email address so he could keep in touch withme. For the past year and a half until now, we never talk on the phone. All we do is text or talkonline. After five months of talking, I invited him to come out where I live and he paid for his ownhotel and airfare. The whole time he was here when we first met, he never kissed me or askedme to go to his hotel room. He never asked me to sleep with him. We got to know each otherthe whole time he was here. I was very surprised when we first met, he told me all about hisfamily issues right away. Is that strange of him to tell me that? After we first met, we didn’t see 5/8
  6. 6. each other again until six months later. When we met up a second time, he took me to see aconcert when he was in town. About the second day of his vacation, he asked if I wanted to goup to his hotel room. He said I didn’t have to go if I didn’t want to. He said he would respect it.By the third day of his vacation, he kissed me for the first time. He asked me if he was makingme feel uncomfortable. After he kissed, he went under my blouse and unsnapped my bra. Whenhe unsnapped my bra, he started sucking my nipples. He said if I didn’t want to have sex withhim, he said he would respect that. He was surprised when I told him I was a virgin. The fourthday of his vacation when we returned back to his hotel room after church, he stops me andsays, “Come here you!” When I did go to him, he kissed me all over my cheek and then to mylips. After he did that, he breathed really hard and said he wanted me so bad. We then took anap and when we both woke up, I made the first move kissing him on the cheek and it turnedhim on. Right after that, he began to kiss me romantically and then he took off my clothes andhis clothes. When we were both in our underwear, he then said to me, “All I want to do is maketremendous love to you!” I introduced him to my parents and they like him. When I introducedhim to my mom, he hugged her when they first met. Was that unusual? We did talk a lot afterthe last time we saw each other, but now it’s slowed down. Although we haven’t seen eachother for 8 months now, do you know why he’ll contact me online when he sees me onFacebook? For some reason if I send him a text message, he’ll reply back and not ignore me. Iinvited him to come out and see me soon, but he said he’s hoping to buy a house first. He saidonce he gets his own place, he will see about coming out and seeing me again. He’s going toschool and working on his Bachelor’s degree in Web Design. Plus, he just got a new job a fewmonths ago. Although we haven’t talked much, do you all think he’s still interested in me? Iknow long distance is hard, but how should I ask him when my next vacation bid comes againat work about seeing each other again? If we were to see each other again and hang out again,would it be ok to have sex? He did tell me about another woman he met online from out of statebefore he met me. He said she was intense and that’s why he stopped seeing her. What doyou think he meant by the lady being intense? He told me he had to block her from Facebook.Since he blocked that lady off of Facebook, do you all know why he never took me off hisfriend’s list or blocked me? If anyone can read this please and give me some advice that wouldbe great. Thanks!Blissful Relationship answers:I started reading because I’m in a long distance relationship but mine’s really different so I maynot have the best advice. I moved away from the man I have been with for years beause of ajob.Anyway, I read the whole thing but I’m confused. Right after you’re in your undies and he sayshe wants to make “tremendous” love, you introduce him to your mom. I think there’s animportant part missing like where you either have sex or turn him down. This is importantbecause I can’t figure out if he’s still into you and it might depend on that. He really might be 6/8
  7. 7. too busy to come see you.Some of your other questions…It’s not weird that he told about family issues on first meetingsince you were acquainted already from the net, I hugged my daughter’s bf on first meeting tooso that’s not weird to me, I think he might still like you and that’s why he texts you back andhasn’t blocked you, it would be fine to have sex if you want to and often when a man says“intense” he means that she was rather insistant on a commitment he wasn’t ready for.If he’s buying a house he intends to live in it, correct? Have you talked about where you’d liveif you got together? Has he invited you to his place?Sandy asks…I need some advice from the women. What is your read of thesituation?I need help from the adult ladies out there, it would be greatly appreciated. I need to know howto read this situation so I don’t make an a** of myself tomorrow (I’m 30, and this girl is 34,neither of us have ever been married). I went out with this girl twice, the last time was a yearand a half ago. The first time we went out things went ok and we made plans to go out again.Then one of her longtime friends got in the way and they began seeing each other. She livesone hour away from me so it would have been a long distance relationship. She broke up withhim a few months later. We went out again shortly thereafter. I went to see her. At the end ofthe date, she said that she would have to come down to see me next time. she had indicatedpreviously that the distance turns her off because she has to drive 45 minutes everyday to workand that was what was precluding her from starting a relationship with me.. It’s reallycomplicated, but like an idiot I never asked her down because I kept coming back to the “shedoesn’t like the distance thing so she isn’t really interested”. I didn’t want to have to deal withthe rejection because she is an awesome girl and I could have seen myself falling hard for her 7/8
  8. 8. and then end up hurt. If I missed my chance with her I’ll never forgive myself. Here’s the thing. We’ve kept in touch consistently for the last year and a half and email nearly daily (sometimes to the point of excessive since we are both at work!). Sometimes about absolutely nothing at all, but other times about life and what’s happening in each of our lives. Over this time I’ve begun to realize that I have some serious feelings for her, like she might be THE ONE. Back in January I realized this and I asked her out to lunch but she said that she had started seeing someone and “didn’t think it would be fair for all of us involved” to get together. So we went on like usual. I casually mentioned to her about a month ago that I had started seeing somebody (I’m not anymore but she doesn’t know that), and she immediately responded by suggesting that we needed to get together sometime. She is planning on coming down to my town to do some shopping and wanted to get together with me afterwards. Today, she mentioned that she’d like to switch up the schedule though, that she wants to see me first then do the shopping later. Can you give me your interpretation of the situation? Am I in the dreaded “friend zone” or is there a chance she is waiting to see my reaction and if I still have interest? I need the female perspective. Thanks in advance for your help, I am an absolutely pathetic mess Blissful Relationship answers: Could you make it a little longer please. I would like to goto sleep before lunch …. Zzzzzzzzz…… Powered by Yahoo! Answers LH Surge and Ovulation http://LHSurge.net Long Distance Relationships Advice For Women 8/8Powered by TCPDF (www.tcpdf.org)

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