An adoption letter is probably unlike anything you have ever written. You are not just writing a letter to someone - you are writing to someone you have never met, and perhaps never will meet, with the end goal of raising their child.

1. The Adoption Letter
An adoption letter is probably unlike anything you have ever written. You are not just writing a
letter to someone - you are writing to someone you have never met, and perhaps never will
meet, with the end goal of raising their child. It is a profound experience for both the
prospective parents and the birth mother.
But because of its unique nature, parents going through the adoption process are often unsure
of how to approach an adoption letter. “How do we start? What should we say? How much do
we write? What if it’s not good enough?” Doubts creep up and the letter becomes a daunting
task, one that can leave parents up at night trying to complete.
While adoption letters may look intimidating, they are really not so impossible. To help with the
adoption letter process, here are three things to remember when writing.
Be Yourself
An adoption letter to a birth mother is a way of introducing yourself without meeting her and a
way of connecting the two sides together before the birth. In order to establish a proper
connection, it is best to write honestly. The birth mother will connect with your genuine voice
and history, not exaggerations or embellishments. Be yourself and you will find the right
connection.
Be Positive
An adoption can be a very difficult and emotional time for a birth mother. This is why your letter
should be as positive as possible. It should communicate and elucidate the wonderful life you
plan to give to a child and how the birth mother would never have to worry about the kind of
life her child would have.
Write, Don’t List
An adoption letter is not the time to list off qualifications or bullet points as to why you would
be a good parent. The letter should be personal and come from the heart, written with love and
affection. The purpose of this letter is to show in writing what kind of parent you will be without
listing off facts. Some parents tell the story of when they first met each other, or their
experiences with adoption. Others will share times of triumph or moments of sorrow, and how

2. these events shaped their lives, bringing them to writing the letter to find the new member of
their family.
Adoption letters do not have to be confusing or nerve-wrecking assignments. The most
important thing to remember is that the adoption letter should be personal, loving, and
warmhearted. If these traits can be kept in mind, the proper words will smoothly flow onto
paper.
Adopting a child is an important decision that requires careful consideration. Are you
contemplating adoption, or are you already planning to adopt a child? Do you have any idea
about how or where to start? Action Adoption at Providence Place of San Antonio, Texas will
guide you through the adoption process while making sure all your questions are answered.
Contact them today to learn more about adoption and ways to get involved with our
organization.