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Changing Fmily Lifestyles Impact In Asia Monzon

  1. 1. Changing Family Lifestyles and their Impact in Asia Orestes P. Monzon, M.D. University of Santo Tomas Human Life International Asia
  2. 2. Differences between Pre-modern and Post-modern Families Pluralistic, relativistic values Set rules determine what is right and wrong Symbolic, digital virtual social reality Direct social encounters Alienated, electronically removed Intimate, physically attached Less dependent on kinship ties Most dependent on kinship ties Post-modern Pre-modern
  3. 3. Pre Modern Post Modern Children are searching for home Children struggle for autonomy from parents Spend the best of time at work and the worst of time with family after work Parents spend quality time with children after work Puts premium on “me-first in my comfort zone” attitude Value of self-sacrifice and self-giving Parents consider children as burdens Parents look at children as gifts and blessings
  4. 4. The Generation X,Y,Z <ul><li>Emotional state: ANGST – very intense energy; having everything but at the same time having nothing. </li></ul><ul><li>Mental state: CONFUSION – remote control – if they don’t want the reality, they simply turn it off. </li></ul><ul><li>Spiritual state: QUEST/SEARCH FOR HOME – freedom, unconditional acceptance, meaningful relationships. </li></ul>
  5. 5. Confused generation <ul><li>Lost in the muddle of multiple realities, profusion of worldviews. </li></ul><ul><li>Society that has lost faith in absolute truth and extols freedom of choice. </li></ul><ul><li>Disposable commitments and relationships. </li></ul><ul><li>Reliance upon self-help gurus and commercialized counseling. </li></ul><ul><li>Anonymous intimacy through e-mails. </li></ul>
  6. 6. The Changing Value System of Asian Youth
  7. 7. Changing Values
  8. 8. The “Saturated Family” <ul><li>The technologies of social saturation, have created family turmoil and a sense of fragmentation, chaos, discontinuity. </li></ul><ul><li>The home, no longer a refuge of harmony but the site of confrontation, disconnection, alienation due to strained relationship. </li></ul>
  9. 9. Empty Nests and Emptiness <ul><li>Asia is the great exporter of cheap labor. </li></ul><ul><li>Material gain is pursued at the price of the stability of their families, the proper education and maturation of their children, who are deprived of their presence, the guidance, and love of both parents at their most formative and impressionable age. </li></ul>
  10. 10. Flight from Parents <ul><li>63% of those questioned, said children should take care of their parents. This is typical of Asia. </li></ul><ul><li>(A survey by the China Academy of Social Sciences, done in Beijing) </li></ul><ul><li>However, 46% said they would put their parents in “old-age homes”. Seventy-five percent said they were “reluctant to live with their parents”. For Asia, this is extraordinary. </li></ul>
  11. 11. Flight from Marriage <ul><li>In Thailand, the divorce rate in urban areas has increased to 26%. </li></ul><ul><li>In Singapore, the amount of divorce cases processed in courts has practically doubled in two years. </li></ul><ul><li>Eleven percent of urban Filipino women report other people are taking care of their children under three years of age. </li></ul><ul><li>When children are not directly raised by their parents, the family is no longer an important unit as before. </li></ul>
  12. 12. Effects of Solo-Parenting <ul><li>“ Children growing up in a single-parent home households are at a greater risk for experiencing a variety of behavior and educational problems, including: smoking, drinking, early and frequent sexual experience, drugs, suicide, vandalism, violence and criminal acts.” Dr. Urie Bronfenbrenner </li></ul>
  13. 13. Fatherlessness <ul><li>1990, 16% children living without their fathers. </li></ul><ul><li>Developing countries in Asia are now counting fatherless families </li></ul><ul><li>67% of boys with sex role problems were not living with their biological fathers. </li></ul>
  14. 14. Flight from Home <ul><li>People moving to work in cities are forced to leave children and grandparents behind. </li></ul><ul><li>Soaring living costs are forcing both parents to work, leaving less time spent with the children. Longer working time have the same effects. </li></ul><ul><li>Western values are more easily entering the region due to progress of globalization. Foreign ideas emphasizing individualism and materialism are pervasive especially among the Asian youth. </li></ul>
  15. 15. The Impact of Mass Media <ul><li>81% of Asian children ages 2-7 watch TV alone and unsupervised </li></ul><ul><li>58% of 4-6 year-olds who, when asked to choose between watching TV and spending time with their fathers, said they would prefer to watch TV. </li></ul>
  16. 16. By the time an average Asian child finished college, he or she will have: <ul><li>spent 11,000 hours in the classroom </li></ul><ul><li>watched 15,000 hours of television </li></ul><ul><li>seen 350,000 commercials </li></ul><ul><li>watched 40,000 violent deaths </li></ul><ul><li>listened to 10,500 hours of pop music </li></ul><ul><li>gone to 400 movies </li></ul>
  17. 17. Their behavior shows it: <ul><li>they choose what they consume </li></ul><ul><li>insist on their favorite brands, and </li></ul><ul><li>influence their family’s choices. </li></ul>
  18. 18. SEX and Mass Media <ul><li>About 66% of prime time shows contain some sexual content . </li></ul>
  19. 19. Sex is what you think <ul><li>The bulk of the sexual action and language occurs between unmarried characters.  </li></ul><ul><li>Sex is portrayed as an activity between “boy” and “girl” rather than “husband” and “wife” </li></ul>
  20. 20. “ Safe-Sex” mentality <ul><li>Enjoy SEX but DON’T get PREGNANT! </li></ul>
  21. 21. The culture of CONSUMERISM <ul><li>It is a culture that stimulates desires and confuses it with needs. </li></ul><ul><li>It raises in peoples the inclination towards acquisitiveness and accumulation. (In order to be more, we must possess more) </li></ul><ul><li>Such attitude breeds addiction to material goods (materialism) and passing pleasure (hedonism). </li></ul>
  22. 22. Obesity due to excessive consumption <ul><li>For the first time in human history, the number of overweight people rivals the number of underweight people. ... While the world's underfed population has declined slightly since 1980 to 1.1 billion, the number of overweight people has surged to 1.1 billion. </li></ul>
  23. 23. Excessive consumerism abhor children: <ul><li>“ Children certainly are expensive to raise – but it seems that only the poor can afford to raise them .” </li></ul>
  24. 24. Changing Asian Lifestyles
  25. 25. 1. Both men and women are postponing marriage. <ul><li>Because of expanding opportunities and changing norms, people are marrying at later ages than in the past. </li></ul><ul><li>Women now marry at an average age of 25 compared to 21 in 1970. Men now marry at 27, compared to 23 in 1970. </li></ul>
  26. 26. 2. Family size is shrinking <ul><li>Fewer people are having three or more children today. </li></ul><ul><li>From 1995-2000, the fertility of the following countries have decreased: Japan (1.0), Singapore (1.6), Hong Kong (1.2), Thailand (2.1), Philippines (2.6 ). </li></ul>
  27. 27. 3. Single-parent households are on the rise. <ul><li>Today, approximately 23% of Asian families are headed by one-parent. </li></ul>
  28. 28. 4. Unmarried couples living together are becoming increasingly common <ul><li>The number of unmarried couples has doubled since 1980. </li></ul>
  29. 29. 5. The rich have gotten richer, while middle-and low-income groups have lost ground <ul><li>The richest fifth of the population in the region earns approximately 57 percent of the total regional income, while the poorest fifth earns only four percent. </li></ul>
  30. 30. 6. The elderly population has been increasing almost three times as fast as the population in Japan, Singapore, South Korea, Hong Kong and Taiwa n <ul><li>Senior citizens constitute 1 of every 6 people. </li></ul>
  31. 31. 7. Children are most likely to live with a grandparent as their caretaker <ul><li>With the rise of single-parent families, double-earning families and overseas workers, children are left at home with their grandparents to take care of them. </li></ul>
  32. 32. 8. Increasing number of Double-Income, No Kids (DINKS) is becoming a trend in Asia.
  33. 33. As seen in Europe and now in Asia, wealth discourages childbearing: <ul><li>“ Capitalism is the best contraception.” </li></ul><ul><li>(Wattenberg, Newsweek Magazine, September 27, 2004) </li></ul>
  34. 34. How Can Asian Families Cope? Empowering the Asian Family for Love and Life
  35. 35. Recalibrate the Family System <ul><li>The thermostat must be set to regulate the temperature in the home. </li></ul><ul><li>An atmosphere of WARMTH in the family can ease strained relationships leading to alienation and disintegration. </li></ul>
  36. 36. Rebalancing Family Priorities <ul><li>Excessive desire for material wealth can fracture relationships in the family. </li></ul>
  37. 37. Rebuilding Family Boundaries <ul><li>Each member retains his or her individuality but not at the expense of losing the feeling of family belongingness. (Interdependence) </li></ul><ul><li>Restore kinship and discourage individualism. </li></ul>
  38. 38. Reframing the Family Reality <ul><li>Form Persons in Love </li></ul><ul><li>Practice love in all relationship, so as not to live as a family closed in itself </li></ul><ul><li>Remain open to the community with a sense of justice and concern for others. </li></ul><ul><li>Be conscious of your responsibility towards the whole of society. </li></ul>
  39. 39. C A R E S <ul><li>How do you spell love ? </li></ul><ul><li>the 5 love languages, or how do you give love? </li></ul>
  40. 40. Reinforcing Family Faith and Values <ul><li>Strengthen conjugal love and family solidarity </li></ul><ul><li>Sacrificial and communitarian families </li></ul><ul><li>Form committed Christian families to fight for integrity and wholeness of the Christian home </li></ul>
  41. 41. The Story of the Pig and the Chickens Little
  42. 42. TAKE HOME MESSAGE - LETTRA <ul><li>L - Don’t look for a Leader . Be one. </li></ul><ul><li>E - Don’t escape your problems. Face it. </li></ul><ul><li>T - Learn the Facts. Know the Truth . </li></ul><ul><li>T - Increase your Tribe . </li></ul><ul><li>R - Pay your Rent . </li></ul><ul><li>A - Remember your Address </li></ul>
  43. 43. Your child is a marvel. <ul><li>“ Do you know what you are ? You are a marvel . You are unique. In all the years that have passed, there has never been another child like you .” </li></ul><ul><li>Pablo Casals, 1876-1973 </li></ul><ul><li>From the Anne Geddes Book, Little Thoughts with Love . </li></ul>
  44. 44. <ul><li>Thank You! </li></ul>

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