Is that so?<br />Notice how everyone decided to turn away from their food, and <br />focus on the speaker. It shows that they are active listeners. This is one<br />of four stages of Active Listening. FOCUS please!<br />
By not paying attention and not<br />focusing, things can go out of hand. <br />You are not following the directions<br />you were given, and can cause a huge issue.<br />
Interpreting<br />The speaker as you can tell is in a good mood, which makes<br />everyone else feel energized. By looking at the speaker<br />the guy next to him is not judging him but simply understanding <br /> the speaker and showing him respect.<br />
As you can see they are not really<br />paying attention, so how will they<br />Interpret what the speaker is <br />saying? <br />
Evaluating the information<br />Verifying that you understand the information given to you by the <br />speaker. You gather all the information, and decide if the information<br />given is genuine. After you separate all the facts and the assumptions <br />made, evaluate the information. Make sure to communicate your <br />evaluations with your peers. <br />
See the man is telling the dog what he thinks, <br />and the dog is evaluating what he is saying, and<br />deciding whether or not the information he is giving out<br />is genuine. <br />
Is that the proper way to respond? <br />Being a good listener you are responding to the speaker both while <br />the speaker is talking, and when the speaker is finished talking.<br />While the speaker is talking you will learn how the speaker<br />expects you to react. Consider what you should do, that way you can<br />save your own time and energy. Make sure to end the discussion<br />with a positive statement. <br />
See the bull is responding to the <br />bear picking him up. Wouldn’t you respond<br />the same way as the bull?<br />
Mirroring<br />James: Isn’t the weather outside just wonderful?<br />Cathy: Yes the weather outside is wonderful, although it is chilly.<br />James: Yes it is chilly outside, but doesn’t the cool air feel good.<br />Cathy: Indeed the cool air does feel good. What would you like to do?<br />James: Indeed, I would like to go to the mall, what would you like to do?<br />Cathy: I would like to go to the mall also. Lets go now.<br />James: Yes lets go to the mall now.<br />
Paraphrasing<br />John: My project is due on Monday, the only problem is that I don’t have computer to type it out.<br />Suzie: I understand that you don’t want to fail, and since you have everything typed already I think we should go to the library today after school. <br />John: You’re a great friend, thank you very much for coming with me, and helping me solve my problem.<br />Suzie: Why thank you, but you have also been a good friend to me, and it’s times like this that we appreciate it.<br />John: Yes it is times like this that we appreciate having such good friends like you.<br />
Self Disclosure Statements<br />Joshua: Did you hear me out?<br />Cindy: Yes I heard you out clearly, and I do feel the same way. <br />Joshua: So you believe what I was saying was true?<br />Cindy: Well, as I understand it what you were telling me is exactly what happened.<br />Joshua: It reminds me when I was younger.<br />Cindy: You are feeling the same way I felt when I was at the age of 19. <br />
Neutral Words<br />Jonathan: Did you know that I failed my math test.<br />Samantha: I understand, would you like to talk about it?<br />Jonathan: Yes I would, I just don’t understand how I failed it.<br />Samantha: I see that your really upset over this, did you talk to your teacher?<br />Jonathan: Yes I did, and I asked him if I can take it over. He told me he will think about it.<br />Samantha: That’s good. Make sure that you study harder this time. <br />Jonathan: I sure will, I really have to pass this test. <br />Samantha: This test seems very important to you.<br />Jonathan: Yes it is very important, my over all grade depends on it.<br />Samantha: Really.<br />
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