110904 the big ten 08 of weddings and beddings


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Sermon 8 in a series on the Ten Commandments. This sermon on the seventh commandment was presented September 4, 2011, at Palm Desert Church of Christ by Dale Wells

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  • 8th lesson in Ten Commandments; 7th commandFew words, many implications:Exodus 20:14 NIV "You shall not commit adultery.Bible not prudish about sexualityOne book devoted to beauty of sexual love (Song of Solomon)Man & woman designed as sexual creaturesSexual relation to be governed by CreatorAdultery in text refers to unlawful sexual relations on the part of someone who is marriedSin against the marriage of a fellow citizen — it destroys the homeLaw of Moses distinguished between adultery (death penalty) & sexual contact with a young woman (monetary fine & usually marriage if father willing)So it distinguished fornication and adulteryBoth were sins, but the significance of each was differentIn ancient world this is often referred to as "the great sin"We make a big issue about sexual purity of people who are not marriedThis is to married people about importance of fidelity in marriage
  • Our culture favors adulteryTelevision glamorizes it; magazines glorify itSociety gives lip service to the Ten CommandmentsSociety favors laws against killing, stealing & perjuryYet most regard sexual choices as a private matterTo most, my sexual relations are my private affairThis ignores that society is made up of familiesStrong families require strong marriagesStrong marriages require strong commitments
  • What the 7th command forbids is not all it is aboutIt forbids adultery, but it is about marriage.Marriage goes all the way back to creation.
  • Woman was not created so man could have sexShe was not created for procreationWoman was God's answer to lonelinessThe relationship was intended to be permanentIt is not a contract, but a covenant.Genesis 2:24 NIV For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
  • Jesus on marriage:
  • From the beginning, the principle was "unite"The key scripture word for marriage is "covenant"
  • God created marriage for partnershipHe cemented it in a covenantThe world tells us to define our decisions by the possibilities of the momentThe Bible tells us to define our decisions in terms of a past commitment
  • The Biblical word for the sexual relationship is “know”Man is the only creature that relates sexually face-to-faceGod is not concerned that two bodies come together, but two beingsThe sexual relationship is the symbol of the covenantAdultery takes the symbol and abuses it
  • Because it is bestial? Not the Biblical reason
  • Because it is not for procreation? Not the Biblical reason
  • Because it causes pain & heartache? That is true, but it is not the Biblical reasonIf society removed the pain & heartache, it would still be wrong
  • Rather, God is against adultery because it destroys the covenant it was intended to cementOur society has lost sight of the fact that marriage is a covenantHaving relationships with everyone & a covenant with no one is wrong
  • Physical adulteryOccurs when a man has sexual relations with someone who is not his wife, or a woman with someone who is not her husband.Why would someone want a relationship outside of marriage?In a covenant, we share & give.In an encounter, we grab & take & throw away.It is an abomination in the eyes of the Lord to use a person like a thing.
  • Mental adulteryLust is dwelling on the possibilities of an encounter.We think it is not bad. Why does God think it's so bad?How does it hurt your wife? Dwelling on thoughts about breaking the covenant does not make it stronger, but weaker.
  • Legal adulteryLegality & morality are not always the same.The Jews wanted to know about legality. Jesus answered with morality.They said: "The court invalidated the contract." Jesus answered: "We're not talking about a contract before a court, but a covenant before God."We need to affirm that marriage is for life.The purpose of this sermon is not to inflict pain on those who never desired divorce.Jesus gave adultery as the only grounds for divorce, but he did not make divorce obligatory. Some decide to get out, then they stop loving & giving until they drive their mate into the arms of another, then they say: "Gotcha".If God can forgive your spiritual adultery, why can't you forgive another's physical adultery? Adultery does not necessitate divorce.Consider a story from the Gospel of John
  • There is adultery in the church. Likely, in this church. Why is it not confessed?I would say to the church: "Throw a stone only if you have not sinned" and I'm not just talking about this sin.I would say to the sinner, as Jesus: "Neither do I condemn you, go and stop sinning."
  • First, fulfill the Lord's design for your marriage.Your body is not your own. You were purchased by the Lord & given in covenant to your mate.
  • Giving your body to the wrong person
  • Keeping your body from the right personSome drive their mates away by using their body as a weapon
  • Second, flee the world's attacks on your marriage.It is a form of adultery to give your husband or wife what's left over after the world has had all it can use.Don't trifle with impurity. The Bible says flee sexual immorality. Don't flirt with it.The Lord will keep his word. You keep yours.Pray: Father, help us. We know what's going on. It fills us with awe to know that the relationship between husband and wife depicts the relationship between Christ & the church. Help us to show covenant loyalty to the world.
  • Adultery is not permissibleAdultery is forgivable if washed in the blood of Jesus.
  • "Religious beliefs that gay and lesbian relationships are sinful or inferior to heterosexual relationships harm gays and lesbians.“"Children do not need to be raised by a male parent and a female parent to be well-adjusted, and having both a male and a female parent does not increase the likelihood that a child will be well-adjusted.""The gender of a child's parent is not a factor in the child's adjustment. The sexual orientation of an individual does not determine whether that individual can be a good parent.""Same-sex couples are identical to opposite-sex couples in the characteristics relevant to the ability to form successful marital unions.“"Gender no longer forms an essential part of marriage; marriage under law is a union of equals."
  • 110904 the big ten 08 of weddings and beddings

    1. 1. Of Weddings<br />And Beddings<br />Exodus 20:14<br />
    2. 2. Our culture favors adultery<br />
    3. 3. The command is about marriage<br />
    4. 4. Genesis 2:18-24 NIV <br />The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. <br />
    5. 5. Genesis 2:18-24 NIV <br />But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man."<br />
    6. 6. Genesis 2:18-24 NIV <br />For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.<br />
    7. 7. Matthew 19:3-9 NIV <br />Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?" "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."<br />
    8. 8. Matthew 19:3-9 NIV <br />"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."<br />
    9. 9. God condemns unfaithfulness<br />
    10. 10. Malachi 2:13-16 NIV <br />Another thing you do: You flood the Lord's altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, "Why?" It is because the LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. <br />
    11. 11. Malachi 2:13-16 NIV <br />Has not the LORD made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.<br />
    12. 12. Proverbs 2:16-17 NIV <br />Wisdomwill save you also from the adulteress, from the wayward wife with her seductive words, who has left the partner of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before God.<br />
    13. 13. Why is adultery wrong?<br />
    14. 14. Why is adultery wrong?<br />
    15. 15. Why is adultery wrong?<br />
    16. 16. Why is adultery wrong?<br />
    17. 17. What is adultery?<br />
    18. 18. What is adultery?<br />
    19. 19. Matthew 5:27-30 NIV<br />You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.<br />
    20. 20. What is adultery?<br />
    21. 21. John 8:3-11 NIV <br />The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group and said to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?" They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. <br />
    22. 22. John 8:3-11 NIV <br />When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground. At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. <br />
    23. 23. John 8:3-11 NIV <br />Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" "No one, sir," she said. "Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."<br />
    24. 24. Practical suggestions<br />Fulfill the Lord’s design for your marriage<br />
    25. 25. Adultery involves two sins:<br />
    26. 26. 1Corinthians 6:18-20 NIV <br />Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.<br />
    27. 27. Adultery involves two sins:<br />
    28. 28. 1Corinthians 7:1-5 NIV <br />Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.<br />
    29. 29. 1Corinthians 7:1-5 NIV <br />Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.<br />
    30. 30. Practical suggestions<br />Fulfill the Lord’s design for your marriage<br />Flee the world’s attacks on your marriage<br />
    31. 31. 1Corinthians 6:9-11 NIV <br />Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.<br />
    32. 32. Two final thoughts<br />Adultery is not permissible<br />Adultery is forgivable<br />
    33. 33. U. S. District Judge Vaughn R. Walker<br />Ruling Proposition 8 Unconstitutional on 8/4/10<br />