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Keynote by Peter Bromberg
Connecticut Library Leadership Institute
West Hartford, CT August 9, 2013
Purposeful Influence
h...
I Believe that…
We all exert influence
We can make conscious choices
that will increase our influence
We can learn to make...
“Between stimulus and response there is
a space.
In that space is our power to choose our
response.
In our response lies o...
Why Are We Here Today?
Here
Here
Here
Here
Here
Here
Here
Here
Today
World population: 7,200,000,000
Ever Lived: 108,000,000,000
http://www.flickr.com/photos/nationallibrarynz_commons/3326203...
Why Are We Here Today?
Change
the absolutely crazy
historically unprecedented
accelerating pace of
or…
Why your ability and willingness to
influe...
Exponential Pace of Change
1.5 mill yrs lever, wedge
500,000 yrs control of fire
50,000 yrs bow & arrow
5,000 years wheel ...
The pace of change is accelerating and the
progression is exponential. We are actually
doubling the power of these technol...
Change & Expectations
“Everything’s amazing and nobody’s happy”
-Louis CK
Exponential Pace of Change
1.5 mill yrs lever, wedge
500,000 yrs control of fire
50,000 yrs bow & arrow
5,000 years wheel ...
Unfreeze/Change/Refreeze
www.flickr.com/photos/circulating/3251962169 Kurt Lewin
It feels like this…
It feels like this
And it sounds… like this
“And you know
something is
happening here
but you don’t know
what it is…
Do you,
Mr. Jones?”
And it sounds… like this
And it sounds… like this
Ballad of a Thin Man
Recorded 8/2/65
Morley Safer sends
1st Vietnam report
indicating we are
losi...
The beginning
of the end
of
NORMAL
Permanent Whitewater
http://www.flickr.com/photos/nukeit1/244167779/
Permanent Whitewater
http://www.flickr.com/photos/nukeit1/244167779/
That‟s great…
So what do we do
about it?
Photo cc license 2.0 courtesy flickr user Chrissy Eliza
http://www.flickr.com/photos/chrissyeliza/4142314898/sizes/l/in/ph...
Flatter Organizations
http://newcdn.flamehaus.com/Valve_Handbook_LowRes.pd f
Flatter Organizations
Flatter Organizations
A Strong Shared Vision
Image source: http://www.thetransactiontax.org/2012/01/16/i-have-a-dream/
-
- Have no formal authority
- Are passionate & engaged
- Motivate others
- Initiate new ideas
- Seek others’ opinions
(Em...
Connected Influence
- Mark Goulston and John Ullment
“You cannot antagonize
and influence at the same
time.”
- J.S. Knox
Your Here
http://justinmaier.com/2006/05/09/amazing-3d-art-by-julian-bever/
http://justinmaier.com/2006/05/09/amazing-3d-art-by-julian-bever/
Their There
Three Traps that Disconnect
1. Fight or Flight
2. Habit Handicap
3. Error Blindness
- Adapted from “Real Influence” by Mar...
CC BY-NC-ND 2.0 http://www.flickr.com/photos/wespeck/4960579336/sizes/l/in/photostream
“I think about what both sides want...
A Few Steps to Connected Influence
Adapted from Goulston and Ullmen
CC BY-NC-ND 2.0 http://www.flickr.com/photos/wespeck/4...
Influence or Leadership?
“A piece of spaghetti or a
military unit can only be led
from the front end.”
- General George Pa...
Influence or Leadership?
Followership
Followership
Courageous Followership
1. The courage to assume responsibility
2. The courage to serve and support others
3. The courage ...
Courageous Followership
“Followers don‟t serve leaders. Both
followers and leaders serve a common
purpose, serve a vision....
Leadership is…
The alignment of our energy and the
energies of others towards the
manifestation of a
mutually enriching fu...
Warren Bennis‟
Four Competencies of Leadership
Attention
Meaning
Trust
Self
(Hey… that sounds an awful lot like…)
Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
Definition of EQ from Daniel Goleman
Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
• Self-awareness
• Self-regulation
• Social skill
• Empathy
• Self-Motivation
Definition of EQ...
It‟s Not About Being Nice
Image: CC by 2.0 http://www.flickr.com/photos/dirigentens/4592361218/sizes/l/in/photostream
When we avoid
difficult conversations
we trade short term discomfort
for long term dysfunction
CC by 2.0 http://www.flickr...
Courageous Conversations
Concern
Trust
Respect
Appreciation
Affection
Hope
Nicholas Burbules, Dialogue in Teaching. Theory...
Effective Communication
Effective Communication
is Rooted in EQ
• Self-awareness
• Self-regulation
• Social skill
• Empathy
• Self-Motivation
Raise Your EQ: Make it a Habit
Know Thyself
Personality Styles
Courtesy Flickr user mayhem (CC BY-NC-SA 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/81126501@N00/39...
Know Others
• DISC
• Myers Briggs
• Enneagram
• Strengths Finder
• True Colors
Platinum Rule
Treat others the way they
want to be treated
Human Beings: A Manual
Extreme Self-Care
Take Care of Your Brain
Courtesy of Flickr x-ray delta one (CC BY-NC-SA 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/x-ray_delta_one/...
Take Care of Your Body
http://www.swiss-miss.com/2010/10/vintage-fitness-equipment.html
Exercise
Courtesy Flickr user kevin dooley(CC BY 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/12836528@N00/2811161524/
Eat Well
(and often)
Courtesy of Flickr user Mike_tn (CC BY-NC-ND 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/beginasyouare/29095322...
Sleep
Library of Congress. No known license:: http://www.flickr.com/photos/library_of_congress/2162949251 /
Take Breaks
Clean up Tolerations
Courtesy Flickr user wetsun (CC BY 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/wetsun/72733049/sizes/z/in/photo...
Meditate
Screenshot from “Guru Meditation”
“Repeated studies have demonstrated that meditation
can rewire how the brain responds to stress. Boston
University researc...
Participating in an 8-week mindfulness meditation
program appears to make measurable changes in brain
regions associated w...
Better Mood
(FYI… Mood Matters)
Happiness Research
“When you are experiencing positive
emotions like joy, contentment, and love,
you will see more possibi...
Resourcefulness
http://www.flickr.com/photos/danisarda/4043404303/sizes/l/in/photostream/
(CC BY-NC-SA 2.0) Flickr user: ~...
Intro to Coaching
When we aren't getting what we
want, we basically have three options
available to us. We can change what...
COACHING
Increases
your state of
resourcefulness
ASSUMPTION:
You are…
Creative
Resourceful
and Whole
Provocative Questions
• What result do I want?
• Were is my attention focused?
• What else could this mean?
• What resourc...
Coaching  Awarness and Action
1. What do you want?
2. What have you tried?
3. What was the result?
4. What else can you d...
Coaching  Awarness and Action
1. What do you want?
2. What have you tried?
3. What was the result?
4. What else can you d...
Trust is the conduit
for influence; it‟s the medium
through which ideas travel.
If they don’t trust you, your ideas are ju...
The Power of Reframing
It‟s not what they
call you,
it‟s what you
answer to.
-W.C. Fields
…one’s own small flame to the
central flames of life and the world.
We cannot predict the exact details of the future, but...
“Choosing to act on „what matters’ is the
choice to live a
passionate existence…
Acting on what matters is a stance
whereb...
“My job is to
awaken possibility
in other people”
-Benjamin Zander
http://www.flickr.com/photos/radiorover/2787677403/
“My job is to
awaken possibility
in other people”
-Benjamin Zander
http://www.flickr.com/photos/radiorover/2787677403/
Peter Bromberg | peterbromberg@gmail.com
Image CC BY-ND 2.0 http://www.flickr.com/photos/iain/4101881178/sizes/l/in/photos...
Purposeful Influence: Keynote at Connecticut Leadership Institute, August 9. 2013
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  1. 1. Keynote by Peter Bromberg Connecticut Library Leadership Institute West Hartford, CT August 9, 2013 Purposeful Influence http://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/5830898919/sizes/o/in/photostream/ (CC BY 2.0)
  2. 2. I Believe that… We all exert influence We can make conscious choices that will increase our influence We can learn to make better choices more consciously and consistently http://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/5830898919/sizes/o/in/photostream/ (CC BY 2.0)
  3. 3. “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” - Viktor E. Frankl
  4. 4. Why Are We Here Today?
  5. 5. Here
  6. 6. Here
  7. 7. Here
  8. 8. Here
  9. 9. Here
  10. 10. Here
  11. 11. Here
  12. 12. Here
  13. 13. Today
  14. 14. World population: 7,200,000,000 Ever Lived: 108,000,000,000 http://www.flickr.com/photos/nationallibrarynz_commons/3326203787/sizes/z/in/photostream/
  15. 15. Why Are We Here Today?
  16. 16. Change the absolutely crazy historically unprecedented accelerating pace of or… Why your ability and willingness to influence is more important than ever.
  17. 17. Exponential Pace of Change 1.5 mill yrs lever, wedge 500,000 yrs control of fire 50,000 yrs bow & arrow 5,000 years wheel and axle; sail 500 years printing press with movable type; rifle 100 years automobiles 55 years satellites 32 years IBM Home Computer 28 years Windows / Mac 20 years World Wide Web 12-14 years iPod, Netflix, Tivo 6-10 years Ubiquitous Broadband, Blogging, Skype 4-6 years iPhone, Android, App Stores, Geolocation < 6 years SMS, Cell phone ubiquity, Twitter, Facebook < 2 years Smartphones, Tablets, iPads, Cloud, Instagram, Snapchat AMAZON-APPLE-GOOGLE-FACEBOOK
  18. 18. The pace of change is accelerating and the progression is exponential. We are actually doubling the power of these technologies now in less than a year. Indeed [for a wide variety of technologies], we find not just simple exponential growth, but “double” exponential growth, meaning that the rate of exponential growth is itself growing exponentially. - Ray Kurzweil, Author, Inventor, Futurist https://www.facebook.com/blog/blog.php?post=112344532130http://www.kurzweilai.net/the-law-of-accelerating-returns
  19. 19. Change & Expectations “Everything’s amazing and nobody’s happy” -Louis CK
  20. 20. Exponential Pace of Change 1.5 mill yrs lever, wedge 500,000 yrs control of fire 50,000 yrs bow & arrow 5,000 years wheel and axle; sail 500 years printing press with movable type; rifle 100 years automobiles 55 years satellites 32 years IBM Home Computer 28 years Windows / Mac 20 years World Wide Web 12-14 years iPod, Netflix, Tivo 6-10 years Ubiquitous Broadband, Blogging, Skype 4-6 years iPhone, Android, App Stores, Geolocation < 6 years SMS, Cell phone ubiquity, Twitter, Facebook < 2 years Smartphones, Tablets, iPads, Cloud, Instagram, Snapchat AMAZON-APPLE-GOOGLE-FACEBOOK
  21. 21. Unfreeze/Change/Refreeze www.flickr.com/photos/circulating/3251962169 Kurt Lewin
  22. 22. It feels like this…
  23. 23. It feels like this
  24. 24. And it sounds… like this
  25. 25. “And you know something is happening here but you don’t know what it is… Do you, Mr. Jones?” And it sounds… like this
  26. 26. And it sounds… like this Ballad of a Thin Man Recorded 8/2/65 Morley Safer sends 1st Vietnam report indicating we are losing…
  27. 27. The beginning of the end of NORMAL
  28. 28. Permanent Whitewater http://www.flickr.com/photos/nukeit1/244167779/
  29. 29. Permanent Whitewater http://www.flickr.com/photos/nukeit1/244167779/ That‟s great… So what do we do about it?
  30. 30. Photo cc license 2.0 courtesy flickr user Chrissy Eliza http://www.flickr.com/photos/chrissyeliza/4142314898/sizes/l/in/photostream/ Flatter Organizations - Agile - - Flexible - - Adaptable - - Innovative - - Responsive -
  31. 31. Flatter Organizations
  32. 32. http://newcdn.flamehaus.com/Valve_Handbook_LowRes.pd f Flatter Organizations
  33. 33. Flatter Organizations
  34. 34. A Strong Shared Vision Image source: http://www.thetransactiontax.org/2012/01/16/i-have-a-dream/
  35. 35. - - Have no formal authority - Are passionate & engaged - Motivate others - Initiate new ideas - Seek others’ opinions (Emergent Leadership concept from Peter Northouse)Image: http://www.makingadifferencedaily.com/apps/vblog/ A New Type of Employee Emergent Leaders Emergent Leadership concept from Peter Northouse)
  36. 36. Connected Influence - Mark Goulston and John Ullment
  37. 37. “You cannot antagonize and influence at the same time.” - J.S. Knox
  38. 38. Your Here http://justinmaier.com/2006/05/09/amazing-3d-art-by-julian-bever/
  39. 39. http://justinmaier.com/2006/05/09/amazing-3d-art-by-julian-bever/ Their There
  40. 40. Three Traps that Disconnect 1. Fight or Flight 2. Habit Handicap 3. Error Blindness - Adapted from “Real Influence” by Mark Goulston (CC BY-NC-SA 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/7196003@N02/4128356306/“ Connected Influence
  41. 41. CC BY-NC-ND 2.0 http://www.flickr.com/photos/wespeck/4960579336/sizes/l/in/photostream “I think about what both sides want and need, and I try to put the pieces together to make it easy for people to say yes. “ – Giang Biscan
  42. 42. A Few Steps to Connected Influence Adapted from Goulston and Ullmen CC BY-NC-ND 2.0 http://www.flickr.com/photos/wespeck/4960579336/sizes/l/in/photostream 1. Go for great outcomes 2. Be influencable 3. Engage them in “their there”
  43. 43. Influence or Leadership? “A piece of spaghetti or a military unit can only be led from the front end.” - General George Patton
  44. 44. Influence or Leadership?
  45. 45. Followership
  46. 46. Followership
  47. 47. Courageous Followership 1. The courage to assume responsibility 2. The courage to serve and support others 3. The courage to challenge 4. The courage to participate in transformation 5. The courage to take moral action (or leave) - Adapted from “The Courageous Follower” by Ira Chaleff The Five Dimensions of Courage
  48. 48. Courageous Followership “Followers don‟t serve leaders. Both followers and leaders serve a common purpose, serve a vision. And they do it within a set of shared values.” -Ira Chaleff
  49. 49. Leadership is… The alignment of our energy and the energies of others towards the manifestation of a mutually enriching future state.
  50. 50. Warren Bennis‟ Four Competencies of Leadership Attention Meaning Trust Self (Hey… that sounds an awful lot like…)
  51. 51. Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Definition of EQ from Daniel Goleman
  52. 52. Emotional Intelligence (EQ) • Self-awareness • Self-regulation • Social skill • Empathy • Self-Motivation Definition of EQ from Daniel Goleman
  53. 53. It‟s Not About Being Nice Image: CC by 2.0 http://www.flickr.com/photos/dirigentens/4592361218/sizes/l/in/photostream
  54. 54. When we avoid difficult conversations we trade short term discomfort for long term dysfunction CC by 2.0 http://www.flickr.com/photos/jimwall/5129679770/sizes/z/in/photostream/
  55. 55. Courageous Conversations Concern Trust Respect Appreciation Affection Hope Nicholas Burbules, Dialogue in Teaching. Theory and Practice.
  56. 56. Effective Communication
  57. 57. Effective Communication is Rooted in EQ • Self-awareness • Self-regulation • Social skill • Empathy • Self-Motivation
  58. 58. Raise Your EQ: Make it a Habit
  59. 59. Know Thyself Personality Styles Courtesy Flickr user mayhem (CC BY-NC-SA 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/81126501@N00/3975910516 •DISC •Myers Briggs •Enneagram •Strengths Finder •True Colors
  60. 60. Know Others • DISC • Myers Briggs • Enneagram • Strengths Finder • True Colors
  61. 61. Platinum Rule Treat others the way they want to be treated
  62. 62. Human Beings: A Manual
  63. 63. Extreme Self-Care
  64. 64. Take Care of Your Brain Courtesy of Flickr x-ray delta one (CC BY-NC-SA 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/x-ray_delta_one/5868803382
  65. 65. Take Care of Your Body http://www.swiss-miss.com/2010/10/vintage-fitness-equipment.html
  66. 66. Exercise Courtesy Flickr user kevin dooley(CC BY 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/12836528@N00/2811161524/
  67. 67. Eat Well (and often) Courtesy of Flickr user Mike_tn (CC BY-NC-ND 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/beginasyouare/290953222/sizes/o/in/photostream
  68. 68. Sleep Library of Congress. No known license:: http://www.flickr.com/photos/library_of_congress/2162949251 /
  69. 69. Take Breaks
  70. 70. Clean up Tolerations Courtesy Flickr user wetsun (CC BY 2.0) http://www.flickr.com/photos/wetsun/72733049/sizes/z/in/photostream/
  71. 71. Meditate Screenshot from “Guru Meditation”
  72. 72. “Repeated studies have demonstrated that meditation can rewire how the brain responds to stress. Boston University researchers showed that after as little as three and a half hours of meditation training, subjects tend to react less to emotionally charged images. “Other research suggests that meditation improves working memory and executive function. And several studies of long-term practitioners show an increased ability to concentrate on fast-changing stimuli..” -Wired Magazine -http://www.wired.com/business/2013/06/meditation-mindfulness-silicon-valley/
  73. 73. Participating in an 8-week mindfulness meditation program appears to make measurable changes in brain regions associated with memory, sense of self, empathy and stress. "It is fascinating to see the brain's plasticity and that, by practicing meditation, we can play an active role in changing the brain and can increase our well-being and quality of life." says Britta Hölzel, PhD. - Science News Daily -http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/01/110121144007.htm
  74. 74. Better Mood (FYI… Mood Matters)
  75. 75. Happiness Research “When you are experiencing positive emotions like joy, contentment, and love, you will see more possibilities in your life. These findings were among the first that suggested positive emotions broaden your sense of possibility and open your mind up to more options.” The Science of Positive Thinking: How Positive Thoughts Build Your Skills, Boost Your Health, and Improve Your Work http://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-clear/positive-thinking_b_3512202.html
  76. 76. Resourcefulness http://www.flickr.com/photos/danisarda/4043404303/sizes/l/in/photostream/ (CC BY-NC-SA 2.0) Flickr user: ~Oryctes~
  77. 77. Intro to Coaching When we aren't getting what we want, we basically have three options available to us. We can change what we want, we can change our behavior, or we can change our perception. Coaching addresses all three Modified from Steve and Jill Morris’ Leadership Simple
  78. 78. COACHING Increases your state of resourcefulness
  79. 79. ASSUMPTION: You are… Creative Resourceful and Whole
  80. 80. Provocative Questions • What result do I want? • Were is my attention focused? • What else could this mean? • What resources are available? • What’s stopping me? • What assumptions am I making? • What have I tried? • What actions can I take? • What action WILL I commit to? • Did that move me in the right direction?
  81. 81. Coaching  Awarness and Action 1. What do you want? 2. What have you tried? 3. What was the result? 4. What else can you do? 5. What WILL you do? Modified from Steve and Jill Morris’ Leadership Simple
  82. 82. Coaching  Awarness and Action 1. What do you want? 2. What have you tried? 3. What was the result? 4. What else can you do? 5. What WILL you do? Modified from Steve and Jill Morris’ Leadership Simple Accountability
  83. 83. Trust is the conduit for influence; it‟s the medium through which ideas travel. If they don’t trust you, your ideas are just dead in the water. Having the best idea is worth nothing if people don’t trust you." - Amy Cuddy
  84. 84. The Power of Reframing
  85. 85. It‟s not what they call you, it‟s what you answer to. -W.C. Fields
  86. 86. …one’s own small flame to the central flames of life and the world. We cannot predict the exact details of the future, but we can have a hand in shaping the heart of the future, including its context of meaning and our commitment and courage in advancing into the unknown. Continually Connect… - Robert K Cooper, Ayman Sawaf, Executive EQ
  87. 87. “Choosing to act on „what matters’ is the choice to live a passionate existence… Acting on what matters is a stance whereby we declare we are accountable for the world around us and are willing to pursue what we define as important. - Peter Block
  88. 88. “My job is to awaken possibility in other people” -Benjamin Zander http://www.flickr.com/photos/radiorover/2787677403/
  89. 89. “My job is to awaken possibility in other people” -Benjamin Zander http://www.flickr.com/photos/radiorover/2787677403/
  90. 90. Peter Bromberg | peterbromberg@gmail.com Image CC BY-ND 2.0 http://www.flickr.com/photos/iain/4101881178/sizes/l/in/photostream/
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