Adult Attachment Disorder presentation


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A first hand account of Adult Attachment disorder.

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  • I have a response to the sufferer's quote and it's pretty long because I've learned a lot from my own personal experiences, but I will try to make it short as best as I can. It's not only an overboard form of attachment, but it's also clinginess. A lot of people think that friendships are the same thing but they're not where to me it sounds like you're not only creating expectations for you friends you have, but it also sounds like you're trying to control the friendship. No one should control or create expectations for any friendship. ever. And it sounds like you are treating your friendships as a relationship but they're not a relationship. I used to think the same way as you I thought it was normal for best friends to hangout everday, but it's not because that's not the meaning of what a best friend is. I am quoting my friend on what a best friendship means. Best friendship: "It is at a deeper level of emotional and psychological communication. It does not involve spending consistent time together, it involves sharing a close connection together in different ways." It also sounds like you're depending on your friends for your happiness, but you can't do that because happiness comes from within yourself. No one needs anyone to make them happy because happiness comes from within you. Also, your friends do probably understand the problems you have, but they probably just don't know how to communicate with you properly. The reason your friends find it easy to move on is because they're not attached in the way that you are and they know how to let go and you need to learn how to do the same thing. We all have our own lives to live and we choose the paths we take and we can't force friendships because friends will choose if they want to stay or leave the friendship and when friends do leave, it's because they changed or found the friendship to be unhealthy for them. Here's another quote: "A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment should be fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what they really are." Also, for people who are like the sufferer, they think that's who they are, but it's not because that's how they think and so until they learn how to change their mindset and how they re-act to situations, they are capable of still losing friends. You need to be able to learn how to give your friends the space and freedom they need and so desire. So basically, never lose sight of who you really are on the inside and live your life the way you want to without anyone or anything affecting it.
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  • Thank you, Journamed. I suffer from attachment issues too and am strongly agreeing with you that it's not easy to treat. I am looking for a cure!
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Adult Attachment Disorder presentation

  1. 1. Adult Attachment Disorder: A first hand account of Attachment issues in children are quite common, but they usually fade away by the time the child reaches early adolescence. However, one thing that isn't discussed much is an Attachment Disorder in older Teenagers to adults.
  2. 2. Overview <ul><li>Unresolved childhood attachment issues leave an adult vulnerable to difficulties in forming secure adult relationships. Patterns of attachment continue through the life cycle and across generations. New relations are affected by the expectations developed in past relationships. There is a strong correlation between insecure adult attachment and marital dissatisfaction and negative marital interactions. If an adult does not feel safe with others, he/she will tend to be either rejecting of their partner or overly clingy. Attachment problems are often handed down transgenerationally unless someone breaks the chain. As a parent, an insecurely attached adult may lack the ability to form a strong attachment to their child and provide the necessary attachment cues required for the healthy emotional development of the child thereby predisposing their child to a lifetime of relationship difficulties. Depending on the genetic personality style of the individual and the early life events experienced, insecurely attached adults fall in one of two categories of insecure attachment: </li></ul>
  3. 3. AVOIDANT ANXIOUS/AMBIVALENT <ul><li>Intense anger and loss
  4. 4. Hostile
  5. 5. Critical of others
  6. 6. Sensitive to blame
  7. 7. Lack of empathy
  8. 8. Views others as untrustworthy
  9. 9. Views others as undependable
  10. 10. Views self as unlovable or &quot;too good&quot; for others
  11. 11. Relationships feel either threatening to one's sense
  12. 12. of control, not worth the effort, or both
  13. 13. Compulsive self-reliance
  14. 14. Passive withdrawal
  15. 15. Low levels of perceived support
  16. 16. Difficulty getting along with co-workers, often
  17. 17. preferring to work alone
  18. 18. Work may provide a good excuse to
  19. 19. avoid personal relations
  20. 20. Fear of closeness in relationships
  21. 21. Avoidance of intimacy
  22. 22. Unlikely to idealize the love relationship
  23. 23. Tendency toward Introjective depression (self critical) </li></ul><ul><li>Compulsive Care giving </li></ul><ul><li>Feel over involved and under appreciated
  24. 24. Rapid relationship breakups
  25. 25. Idealizing of others
  26. 26. Strong desire for partner to reciprocate in relationship
  27. 27. Desire for extensive contact and declarations of affections
  28. 28. Over invests his/her emotions in a relationship
  29. 29. Perceives relationships as imbalanced
  30. 30. Relationship is idealized
  31. 31. Preoccupation with relationship
  32. 32. Dependence on relationship
  33. 33. Heavy reliance on partner
  34. 34. Views partner as desirable but unpredictable (sometimes available, sometimes not)
  35. 35. Perceives others as difficult to understand
  36. 36. Relationship is primary method by which one can experience a sense of security
  37. 37. Unlikely to view others as altruistic
  38. 38. Sensitive to rejection
  39. 39. Discomfort with anger
  40. 40. Extreme emotions
  41. 41. Jealous
  42. 42. Possessive
  43. 43. Views self as unlovable
  44. 44. Suicide attempts
  45. 45. Mood swings
  46. 46. Tendency toward anaclitic depression (dependent depression) </li></ul>
  47. 47. Sufferer's quote <ul><li>“ Everyday I ask each and every one of my friends if I am their bestest friend. Even when they have told me yes I am not satisfied. I have a sense where I need to be with someone all the time. I just want to cuddle my friends 24 hours a day and be with them and for them to care for me. They get a bit annoyed when I talk like this because they don't understand my problems. If I see them with another friend I get so jealous I will avoid them for a while. This will make me more upset but I can't help the jealousy that overrides me when I see them with someone else. I want to be their only friend and be with them all the time. My friends best idea for a night out is to go out with some other friends have some drinks, I have different ideas I just want to sit and cuddle them and for them to cuddle me for hours. Hold me, just give me a sense of belonging which I get such a satisfaction from. I am the same with every friend I have. I get upset that all my friends leave me because they find it easy to move on and find new friends. I don't if a friend leaves me and I don't see them much it drives me to want to kill myself. Some of my friends I want to spend 24 hours with just be with them the whole time. They think this is weird and people think this means I am sexually attracted to them. Well I don't know what it is but I'm like it with a lot of people I just want to be with them and to hold them forever and ever.” </li></ul>
  48. 48. Sufferer's History <ul><li>Cause?
  49. 49. Was very attached and clingy to mother from a young age, never participated in activities to make friends just stayed with mother. Then at 7 years of age mother left which must of caused a great deal of psychological stress and to feel abandoned.
  50. 50. Treatments?
  51. 51. (Combined with other mental health problems)
  52. 52. Medications (Sertraline, Citalopram, Fluoxetine)
  53. 53. Counselling/Psychotherapy
  54. 54. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
  55. 55. Outcome?
  56. 56. Symptoms same as before if not worse.
  57. 57. Conclusion?
  58. 58. Adult Attachment disorder may not be as easy to treat as people think. </li></ul>
  59. 59. Conclusion <ul><li>While attachment disorders in children are common, they are also commonly treated successfully through therapy. Adult Attachment disorders are more rare and as a result sufferer's may be unable to find love and experience a great deal of pain due to their needs. It is a very complex process in adults and more needs to be done to help sufferer's and also more recognition of the condition would be appropriate. </li></ul>
  60. 60. Potential Alternatives <ul><li>State the alternative strategies
  61. 61. List the pros and cons of each strategy
  62. 62. Give a forecast of costs </li></ul>
  63. 63. Recommendation <ul><li>Recommend one or several strategies
  64. 64. Give a summary of the expected results
  65. 65. Name the next steps to be taken
  66. 66. Delegate the various tasks </li></ul>