Adult Attachment Disorder: A first hand account of Attachment issues in children are quite common, but they usually fade away by the time the child reaches early adolescence. However, one thing that isn't discussed much is an Attachment Disorder in older Teenagers to adults.
Overview <ul><li>Unresolved childhood attachment issues leave an adult vulnerable to difficulties in forming secure adult relationships. Patterns of attachment continue through the life cycle and across generations. New relations are affected by the expectations developed in past relationships. There is a strong correlation between insecure adult attachment and marital dissatisfaction and negative marital interactions. If an adult does not feel safe with others, he/she will tend to be either rejecting of their partner or overly clingy. Attachment problems are often handed down transgenerationally unless someone breaks the chain. As a parent, an insecurely attached adult may lack the ability to form a strong attachment to their child and provide the necessary attachment cues required for the healthy emotional development of the child thereby predisposing their child to a lifetime of relationship difficulties. Depending on the genetic personality style of the individual and the early life events experienced, insecurely attached adults fall in one of two categories of insecure attachment: </li></ul>
AVOIDANT ANXIOUS/AMBIVALENT <ul><li>Intense anger and loss
Sufferer's quote <ul><li>“ Everyday I ask each and every one of my friends if I am their bestest friend. Even when they have told me yes I am not satisfied. I have a sense where I need to be with someone all the time. I just want to cuddle my friends 24 hours a day and be with them and for them to care for me. They get a bit annoyed when I talk like this because they don't understand my problems. If I see them with another friend I get so jealous I will avoid them for a while. This will make me more upset but I can't help the jealousy that overrides me when I see them with someone else. I want to be their only friend and be with them all the time. My friends best idea for a night out is to go out with some other friends have some drinks, I have different ideas I just want to sit and cuddle them and for them to cuddle me for hours. Hold me, just give me a sense of belonging which I get such a satisfaction from. I am the same with every friend I have. I get upset that all my friends leave me because they find it easy to move on and find new friends. I don't if a friend leaves me and I don't see them much it drives me to want to kill myself. Some of my friends I want to spend 24 hours with just be with them the whole time. They think this is weird and people think this means I am sexually attracted to them. Well I don't know what it is but I'm like it with a lot of people I just want to be with them and to hold them forever and ever.” </li></ul>
Was very attached and clingy to mother from a young age, never participated in activities to make friends just stayed with mother. Then at 7 years of age mother left which must of caused a great deal of psychological stress and to feel abandoned.
Adult Attachment disorder may not be as easy to treat as people think. </li></ul>
Conclusion <ul><li>While attachment disorders in children are common, they are also commonly treated successfully through therapy. Adult Attachment disorders are more rare and as a result sufferer's may be unable to find love and experience a great deal of pain due to their needs. It is a very complex process in adults and more needs to be done to help sufferer's and also more recognition of the condition would be appropriate. </li></ul>
Potential Alternatives <ul><li>State the alternative strategies