Intro-Why an assessment? THIS STARTED AS A FATHER’S DAY PROJECT. ON FATHER’S DAY WE USUALLY THINK ABOUT OUR FATHERS, VISIT THEM, AND PAY THEM HONOR. I DID THIS THIS YEAR AS WELL, BUT I ALSO GOT THINKING ABOUT HOW FATHER’S DAY MIGHT GIVE ME AS A FATHER AN OPPORTUNITY TO ASSESS HOW I AM DOING IN MY FATHER ROLE. THIS GOT ME STARTED ON THIS SELF ASSESSMENT. THIS ASSESSMENT USES A SIMPLE MODEL AND QUESTIONS TO HELP US FIND WAYS TO IMPROVE. AS I PUT THIS TOGETHER, I THOUGHT IT MIGHT BE USEFUL TO OTHER FATHERS, SO HERE IT IS. WE CAN BECOME BETTER FATHERS AND IMPROVE OUR RELATIONSHIPS. LET’S MAKE A START. -TOM CURTIS 2011
TeachHow do I teach my children?Am I teaching by example?What am I teaching my children?Am I equipping them to be good citizens, friends, people?What should I be teaching more clearly?How can I improve my teaching?
TreatHow do I treat my children? With love? With respect?How do they see me treat others (including when they arenot present)?Do I control my frustration or anger?Do I help them see who they can become?How can I improve how I treat them?How do they treat their Mother? One another?
TimeDo I spend focused time with my children?How do we spend time together? Is it uplifting?What memories do they have of our time spending?Do I spend enough time with them? Individually?Do I know how they are doing? Worries? Wishes?How would they change how we spend time?
TrustDo my children trust me?Have I created an environment where we can havegenuine conversations? Discuss concerns?Do I keep all my promises to my children?How can I enhance their trust?What would help them feel safer and more secure?Where do I want our relationship to be in a year?
Review your AnswersWhere do you see gaps from needed levels?What answers were surprising?Are there patterns or themes in your answers?What elements are most important to you?What elements are most important to yourchildren?
WHERE CAN YOU MAKE THE LARGEST IMPACT? WHERE CAN YOU MAKE QUICK CHANGES? WHERE SHOULD YOU START FIRST?