Boost your self confidence and gain a better understanding of how you should see yourself.

1. SELF-ESTEEM WORKSHOP
DEPARTMENT: STUDENT SERVICES
Ms Lizelle Miller
Social Worker 24 February 2016

2. Introduction
1. Self-esteem is related to your self worth and your value.
2. Building self-esteem is a first step towards a person’s happiness and
a better life.
3. Self-esteem increases your confidence.
4. If you have confidence you will respect yourself.
5. One of the most prominent concerns in students is low self-esteem
that results in depression, unhappiness, insecurity and poor
confidence.
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3. Learning Objectives
1. What is self-esteem?
2. Self-esteem is what you think of yourself?
3. Poor self-esteem vs Good self-esteem.
4. Tools to develop your self-esteem.
5. Affirmations
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5. SOURCE:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=41IS2OKqq1w#t=0

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WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM?
Building self esteem is a first step towards your happiness and a
better life
Self esteem increases your confidence.
If you have confidence:
• You respect yourself;
• You respect others,
• You improve your relationships, achievements and
happiness....

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Self Esteem Is What You Think Of Yourself
• Your value as a person.
• The job you do.
• Your achievements.
• How you think others see you.
• Your purpose in life.
• Your place in the world.
• Your potential for success.
• Your strengths and weaknesses.
• Your social status and how you relate to others.
• Your independence or ability to stand on your own feet.

8. Exercise 1: Self Esteem Questionnaire
Answer yes or no for how you feel the majority of time.
1. Do you have a hard time nurturing yourself?
2. Have you ever turned down an invitation to a party or function
because of the way you feel about yourself?
3. Do you get your sense of self-worth from the approval of others?
4. Are you supportive of others but berate yourself?
5. Whenever things go wrong in life do you blame yourself?
6. Do you react to disappointment by blaming others?
7. Do you begin each day with a negative attitude?
8. Do you feel undeserving?
9. Do you ever feel like an imposter and that soon your deficiencies
will be exposed?
10. Do you have an inner-critic who is disparaging or demeaning?
11. Do you believe that being hard on yourself is the best motivation
for change?
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9. Exercise 1: Self Esteem Questionnaire
Answer yes or no for how you feel the majority of time.
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12. Do you feel unattractive?
13. Have you ever felt your accomplishments are due to luck, but your
failures due to incompetence and inadequacy?
14. Do your good points seem ordinary and you’re failing all important?
15. Have you ever felt that if you are not total successes, then you are a
failure, and that there is no middle ground with any points of error?
16. Do you feel unappreciated?
17. Do you feel lonely?
18. Do you struggle with feelings of inferiority?
19. Do other people’s opinions count more to you than your own?
20. Do you criticize yourself often?
21. Do other criticize you often?
22. Do you hesitate to do things because of what other might think?

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Poor Self-Esteem vs. Good Self-Esteem
1. Poor self-esteem:
• The present situation determine how you feel about
yourself.
• You need positive external experiences.
• The good feeling can be temporary.
• For example someone gives you a compliment now and you
feel good about yourself.
• Tomorrow someone criticize the way you look and you feel
bad about yourself.

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Poor Self-Esteem vs. Good Self-Esteem
2. Good self-esteem:
• I assess myself accurately.
• I accept and value myself unconditionally.
• I acknowledge my strengths and limitations.
• When you have a good self-esteem, it doesn’t mean you
have no faults. It just mean that you accept it completely.

12. QUESTION:
Is it possible to change your
self-esteem?
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Tools To Develop Self-esteem
1. Figure out what your problem is.
• What are the things in yourself that you are sensitive
about?
• Is it your physical appearance?
• Is it that you are sensitive about your intellectual ability?
• Is it maybe something in your personality?

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Tools to develop self-esteem
2. Figure out who you are.
• Take self-evaluation quizzes, learn about who you are.
• For example are you outgoing or shy, do you like working
with people or prefer working on your own.

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Tools To Develop Self-esteem
3. Decide what you can and can’t control.
• Release the things that are out of your control.
• For example: you cannot control that you have small or big
eyes.
• You can control your temper or whether you are a hard
worker.

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Tools To Develop Self-esteem
4. Accept responsibility.
• Accepting responsibility for your own happiness.
• Only you can make yourself happy. No-one can make you
happy.
4. Recognize that mistakes are opportunities.
• "Success," is often a string of failed attempts to get it right.
• Success does not always come with the first try. You need
to keep on trying.
• You only learn through failing.

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6. Be ambitious.
• Do not let others define who you are.
• Pursue your own dreams.
• “Admit your errors before someone else exaggerates them”
Andrew Mason
7. Spend time investing in your personal growth.
• Attend workshops.
• Reading self help books.
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8. Be aware of media’s messages.
• The media sometimes give us an unrealistic idea of how
we should look or how we should behave.
9. Keep good company.
• Positive feeds positive and negative breeds negative.
9. Reward yourself.
• Give yourself and others positive rewards.
• When you do well, acknowledge it.
• If you reach a goal, be proud of yourself.
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11. You can improve the quality of messages.
• Use "how to" statements in your head.
• Repeat positive affirmations to yourself.
• If you feel that you are thinking negative thoughts, change
the thoughts to positive messages.
12. Negative messages can build esteem.
– Properly delivered negative messages say "I care about
myself, I am a worthwhile person and I can learn how to do
things better."
13. Any thoughts that take us away from a positive feeling are
not worth having or defending.
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20. Affirmations will only work if you believe it
Try to focus on one affirmation and consider what it means to you in your
life.
Tell yourself:
• I deserve to be happy and successful
• I have the power to change myself
• I can forgive and understand others and their motives
• I can make my own choices and decisions
• I am free to choose to live as I wish and to give priority to my desires
• I can choose happiness whenever I wish no matter what my
circumstances
• I am flexible and open to change in every aspect of my life
• I act with confidence having a general plan and accept plans are
open to alteration
• It is enough to have done my best
• I deserve to be loved
Affirmations
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21. EXERCISE 2
IMPROVING MY SELF-ESTEEM
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Improving My Self-esteem, Who Am I?
Problem
What can I control?
What can’t I control?
What mistakes have I made?
What have I learned?
Affirmations
Make goals.
Read books.
Reward yourself if you have done well
Be aware of positive and negative messages.
What influence does you friends have?
Be careful of what Media messages tell you.

23. SOURCE:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?
feature=player_detailpage&v=20p5o6QaQfg#t=148

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REFERENCES
• Johnson W David, Reaching out: Interpersonal Effectiveness
and self-actualization. Fifth Edition. 1993. USA
• DeMartini, J. F. (2014). affirmations. Retrieved July 2014, from
More selfesteem: http://www.more-
selfesteem.com/affirmations.htm?
• tools to develop self esteem. (1996-2014). Retrieved 2012,
from positive way: http://www.positive-way.com/toolsto.htm?

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