People ask me all the time - what can I do to gain self confidence? And I give the same
answer. Nobody wants to hear the truth but I'll tell you anyway so you need to be open
minded and prepared to test it for yourself.
You develop confidence by making a habit of doing what is impossible for you. That's it
in a nutshell. Yes, you can prepare better, you can visualise success and you can even
read tons of books about gaining self confidence but none of that good work will amount
to anything unless you get out in the real world and do what is impossible for you.
Be unreasonable, do the impossible and make a habit of going beyond your previous best
and you'll discover something amazing about yourself. You are much more capable and
much stronger than you can even imagine. It is only when you stretch beyond your self-
imposed limits that you discover how powerful you really are.
When you see great achievers rack up success after success they go beyond their own
previous best results. They make a habit of doing what is impossible. And often they
persist and achieve greatness simply because day after day they persisted in moving the
imaginary line of what is possible.
If you want more self-confidence with people you can develop it quickly by making a
point of always going beyond previous limits. Aim to get rapport with the difficult people
in your life, assert yourself with those who never listen and go ahead and talk to those
people in your community you always wanted to talk to but didn't because you felt shy.
Over days, weeks and months of going a little beyond your self-imposed limits you'll
notice your confidence growing and growing. Feeling confident and in charge will be
your new normal way of living.
Is it really that easy? Yes, it is as long as you have an attitude of always learning and
improving. Sometimes you'll make mistakes. That is perfectly normal. Even the most
successful and confident people have ups and downs. If you try and fail simply try
something different next time and even better get advice from someone who has proven
skill when it comes to what you are becoming more confident at.
If you want more confidence at work for example you could talk to a family member or
friend who has a track record of confidently moving ahead in business. Ask how he does
it and simply copy his approach in a way that suits your personal style.
Again let me repeat the fundamental principle you can take onboard and act on today to
develop lasting self-confidence... you develop confidence by making a habit of doing
what is impossible for you.
And because confidence is an emotional state that "I can do it" feeling in one activity will
positively impact all aspects of your life. If you go beyond your limits in sport, at work or
remodelling the house, you'll notice that feeling confident becomes your normal way of
feeling regardless of what you are doing. You'll feel more capable dealing with problems
and issues in all areas of your life and as a result you will make better decisions and
people will be much more responsive to you.
People like and respect confident people. As you become more confident you'll find
others are more attentive to what you say and more willingly to help you out. And that is
one of the most important reasons to put an end to lacking confidence. Life is more
enjoyable and its easier to get ahead when you get the respect you deserve. Its like
walking with the wind at your back instead of walking headfirst into a gale.
Start right now and gain self-confidence by making a habit of doing what is impossible
for you. Living like this puts the excitement back into life. Go ahead and test these ideas
and you'll see what I mean!
Article Source: Peter_Murphy