Love and Logic Behavior Management for Paraprofessionals Rebecca Case, ED.S. 5/09

History Love and Logic was developed by Jim Fay and Dr. Foster W. Cline in 1977 They have a combined 75 years of working with and raising their own children Teaches adults how to develop responsible children through, empathy, decision making, and consequences

Love and Logic was developed by Jim Fay and Dr. Foster W. Cline in 1977

They have a combined 75 years of working with and raising their own children

Teaches adults how to develop responsible children through, empathy, decision making, and consequences

Key Concepts Locking in sadness or empathy Enforceable Statements Sharing control Building relationships Neutralizing arguing Delay The Consequence

Locking in sadness or empathy

Enforceable Statements

Sharing control

Building relationships

Neutralizing arguing

Delay The Consequence

Locking in sadness/empathy Establishing that you care about their distress/problem Sadness over bad decisions Opens the mind to thinking Avoids fight or flight

Establishing that you care about their distress/problem

Sadness over bad decisions

Opens the mind to thinking

Avoids fight or flight

Enforceable Statements Basis for classroom policies Only rules/procedures that are able to be carried out with logical consequences should be used State what you will do not what they can’t do. “ I take quiet students to …”

Basis for classroom policies

Only rules/procedures that are able to be carried out with logical consequences should be used

State what you will do not what they can’t do.

“ I take quiet students to …”

Sharing Control Provide choices when it’s convenient and when you are comfortable about it. Provide choices before they whine. Avoid allowing them to manipulate you.

Provide choices when it’s convenient and when you are comfortable about it.

Provide choices before they whine.

Avoid allowing them to manipulate you.

Student/Teacher Relationships One Sentence Intervention Specific positive praise Attribution Theory

One Sentence Intervention

Specific positive praise

Attribution Theory

Neutralizing Arguing Use one-liners I respect you too much to argue Smile Post a sign for when you’re available to argue.

Use one-liners

I respect you too much to argue

Smile

Post a sign for when you’re available to argue.

Anticipatory Consequence Deal with disruption with a delay Empathy first Consequences will happen, but “don’t worry about it until later”

Deal with disruption with a delay

Empathy first

Consequences will happen, but “don’t worry about it until later”

References http://www. loveand logic.com www. loveandlogic forum .com

http://www. loveand logic.com

www. loveandlogic forum .com