NORMA NIEVES QUESADA                                                                 ISFD Nº 41- ALTE BROWN               ...
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  2. 2. NORMA NIEVES QUESADA ISFD Nº 41- ALTE BROWN INGLÉS – 4º AÑO BEING A WOMAN "One is not born a woman; one becomes one." (Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex) Since an early age, girls are instructed for being future women. Both parents – butespecially mothers – are in charge of teaching them the musts for becoming a goodwoman. Social roles are also taught at school from the Kindergarten to the election of acareer which will accompany them throughout life. After that, men will show the younggirlfriends and wives what they want from them. It is undeniable that being a womanhas its advantages. Nevertheless, being a woman is not an easy task by any means. The characteristic things which will differentiate girls from boys are present sinceearly childhood. The moment girls have hair to be tied up, colourful bows and ribbonswill appear above their heads, it does not matter how tight their hair is tied or howpainful it could be, they are told they look beautiful so the beauties are going to endureit stoically – first sign of how much they will have to suffer along their lives in order tolook pretty. Moreover, clothes colours are divided into two categories, those that shouldbe used by girls and those who are more masculine, although this is not as strict as itused to be long ago – pink for girls and sky-blue for boys – the remnants still float in theair. Something similar occurs with sports, free time activities and games, among whichsome are considered more appropriate for girls – volleyball, handball, skating, ballet,painting and drawing, playing dolls. All those differences establish the roles that futurewomen are going to play in the game of life. As time passes, young girls are reached by adolescence, with all its consequences.Their bodies began to change, menstruation is there to accompany then for most of theirlives, corporal hair appears everywhere and breasts become larger – this includes themocking of their male peers and the looks which adult men cannot hide. In addition,the dreaded acne spreads all over their faces forcing them to become skilled in the art ofmakeup – what also makes the problem worse – to hide what is so common at that age,but only allowed to men. They are as well fighting a battle against their bodies, tryingto be the thinner enough for male glances to be directed elsewhere than their faces, as a‘good appearance’ is being imposed from the society and the media. With so manyphysical and hormonal alterations, it is not strange that this stage is also characterizedby emotional changes. Of course, it is also during adolescence that these females areexpected to develop some virtues in order to become future good women, for instance,selflessness, modesty, politeness, caring, sweetness and lovingness, among others.Awaited merits and the ideal look are part of their striving for acceptance and a directpath to a low self esteem. 1
  3. 3. Regarding the choice of a career, women also have some difficulties to face as theprofessional world has it own rules. Women are supposed to chose careers as teachers,counsellors, social workers, librarians, laboratory technicians, stewardesses, secretaries,models, fashion designers, missionaries, writers. The list is not short, of course, butlimited. Nevertheless, the most typical female role is to stay at home cleaning, cooking,making beds and raising children. She is free to choose house decorations, clothes – forher and all her family – appliances and supermarkets. Her husband will neverunderstand why his wife feels empty, incomplete, as if she does not exist; she does notrealize how lucky she is, being her own boss and not having to fight to keep her job –who will want it, anyway? – Women opportunities and choices are not as wide asmen’s, and when they choose a typical male career they are sure to be hired and paidbelow the standard for males. Theres sometimes a point in career planning whenwomen are discouraged from following their dreams because their career choice doesnot fit in with traditional gender roles. Another issue that has to do with men is to try to understand what they reallywant from women. This is not as easy to answer as it seems. Men need fun andexcitement, great sex – consistent, frequent and passionate –, a woman who knows howto cook, who is supportive, a good listener, respectful, and who looks great – if possible,she should be able to keep the body of her twenties all her life long. The perfect womanshould be intelligent but not brainy, wear attractive sexy underwear – and fancy dressesfor intimacy from time to time – and have a smooth relationship with his mother. Thisoften leads women to be someone they really are not to capture a man, who willinvariably discover it in the course of time and have sufficient reason to leave her forsomeone more authentic. In spite of that, a lot of women continue to be gulled by thefairy-tale version of life, in which Prince Charming comes along in a white horse, kissesthem and live together for ever. Women are programmed to believe that they need aman in their lives when it is the other way round. Nonetheless, not everything is bad in a woman’s life. Due to all the struggles shehas to confront and to all the instruction she receives till the moment she becomes awoman, she manages to be a good worker, she possesses firmness, industry, sensibility,charity, patience, loyalty and she gains the necessary trustworthiness to be a good friendas well as a mother. Do not forget the fact that she is the only one who can collaboratewith God in giving life, and she receives her award for that every time her children giveher a smile or a kiss or put their arms round her neck, when they sleep peacefully on herarms or when they claim for their tears to be wiped. A woman can cry in public, eatchocolate to comfort herself, require protection, appeal for help and request a hugwithout feeling ashamed. Not only as women, but also as mothers, they can enjoy theprivileges of belonging to the female gender. In conclusion, being a woman has its advantages and disadvantages and it is noteasy. Nevertheless, it is a condition that cannot be changed whether you like it or not; ifyou were born a female that is part of your identity, of your life map. Whatever 2
  4. 4. education, or society, or culture, or men have made you think or do in the past may haveinfluenced the kind of woman you are today; however, the power of a woman lies inhow much she loves herself to use all that she has learned to be a better human beingand have more strength to battle and enjoy life in the future without aiming forperfection. 3