Identifying Anger Styles (A Structured Learning Experience)Anger and Conflict Management is a series of individual sessions geared towardsallowing the participants sort out their responses to anger eventually developing inthem the ability to effectively control their emotions, thoughts and behaviors whenupset or when in conflict with others or with a situation. This module is designed tobe given at the early stages of the sessions. Its aim is to make the participants awareof their own emotional, cognitive and behavioral responses to anger.I. Objectives At the end of this session, the participants are expected to: 1. Identify their own anger styles 2. Understand why they have such anger style 3. Be aware of their anger styles effect to the self and to othersII. Duration and Group Size Approximately 90 minutes, 25-30 participantsIII. Materials Name tags, markers, signs for each of the six Anger Styles, Anger Response Form, Anger Situation WorksheetIV. Initial Activities Getting to Know Each Other (5 minutes) The facilitator and the participants get to know each other. If the group is small, allow each participant to introduce themselves creatively; if the group is large, facilitators will give each participant a blank name tag where they can write their names. The facilitator then introduces himself and welcomes the participants. Leveling off and Expectation Setting (5 minutes) Provide an over view about what the session is all about. Ask participants about their expectations. Share your own expectations.
V. Main Activity Directions: 1. Distribute the "Anger Responses Form" to each participant and ask them to fill out the form individually. Help them out by saying: "All of us think, feel and behave differently in various situations. In answering the form, think of your most common response when you fell upset or when you are really angry to someone or to a situation." Allow the participants at most 5 minutes to reflect on the sheet. 2. The facilitator must have already fixed on the wall the symbol for each of the six anger styles. Call the participants attention in these symbols by saying: "There are a lot of ways through which we respond to anger. Posted on the wall are six figures representing six common ways of how we react to anger. Lets see if we can figure out what each of these signs means." 3. Define each style by asking the group what each one means to them. (10 minutes) "How does the figure make sense to you?" Table 1. Six Anger Style Anger Style Description Bottle and blast Keep anger to oneself then let it out all at once in an explosive manner Bottle and cap Keep anger to oneself. TNT Explode right away; short temper Cold Shoulder/Iceberg Cold; Silent treatment; "I dont care" (But, dont you really?) Nag and Carp Constant nagger Kick the dog Misdirect anger; take it out on something or to someone else (not to the real cause of anger) 4. Ask each participant to move to the sign which most closely characterizes their predominant anger style thus forming six small groups. Say:
"By looking at your responses on the Anger Style Form I gave you, decide which of the categories best describe you? Proceed to that corner of the room and settle down with your mates." 5. Instruct the participants to sit together as a group and discuss the questions below. There should be a leader to facilitate the discussion and a beadle to note of the answers and report the sharing later on. (15 minutes) Guide Questions: Where did you learn this anger style (father, mother, peers)? What are the pay-offs of this style? What are the negative consequences? How does this style affect you physically? How do you imagine others are affected by your style? 6. Finally, group the participants as a class then ask each group (i.e. represented by the leader or beadle) to feedback the highlights of their sharing with the class. (18 minutes; 2-3 minutes per group)VI. Processing (10 minutes) Guide Questions: 1. What do you think about the activity? 2. How did you find the experience? 3. How do you feel right now? 4. What do you think/feel about others sharing? 5. Are there any other insights you want to share?VII. Integration (5 minutes) Relate the highlights of their responses to a simplified framework (see Appendix)VIII. Conclusion (5 minutes) End the session with a home work. Distribute the "Anger Situation Worksheet" that they have to fill out at home or during their free time. Instruct the participants to bring the worksheet on the next session.
Appendix Dynamics of Anger THREAT (2 sources of anger) FRUSTRATION TURNED OUTWARD ANXIETY-hurt, displaced, TURNED kick the dog INWARD nag Bottle & cap ANGER TURNED RESOLVED OUTWARD Expressed Explode, feelings, misdirect, nag & problem-solving carpPrepared by: Nephtaly Joel B. Botor (Facilitator)Date: May 11, 2010