At Narcissism cured we care to understand and help people to correct and heal the emotional dysfunction they may have been facing all through their life. People with narcissistic tendencies don’t think that anything is wrong with them and will not agree to go under therapy secessions. There is little an evidence that therapy had successfully treats narcissism. So don’t push your partner to stick with the therapy anyways, as it is not an effective way to end verbal and other domestic abuse.
"When you hear about domestic abuse in the news it is easy to think ‘oh that is not me’. but if your fights get to push and shove and one or both of you throw things or lash out at each other when you are angry - this is domestic abuse and we are here to help you."
Domestic abuse usually describes domestic violence but I wonder; Are you in a marriage that makes you feel weak rather than strong? Do you feel your partner undermines you rather than supports you? Do you feel that you cannot relax or be yourself when they are around? If you answered yes you may be part of a Narcissistic / Codependent Marriage.
Domestic abuse may begin with a family member who feels vulnerable and poorly equipped to deal with life and who may also fear abandonment. On the outside this person may appear confident and strong, but their need to control their family (and make them feel bad about themselves) shows that this strength is in fact a pretense. Abuse in families may also be fueled by emotionally needy family members. The threat of leaving may escalate fights and so it is safer NOT to threaten divorce or to leave in the heat of and argument and if you do wish to separate please make sure you get our advice first on how to do this safely. You should know that divorce is not your only option. We have advice that will improve your situation if you leave or stay. Steve and I had about the worst marriage in the world, but now 5 years on, I believe we have one of the best!
We offer help for victims to see how their own actions and reactions play into their abusive relationship. No matter how much you feel you are the innocent victim of a domestic abuse statistics show that by leaving your partner (and putting all the blame on them for your abusive relationship) you are like to form exactly the same type of relationship again in the future.
Conflict and arguments between couples is natural, and can even strengthen an already healthy relationship. When you are dealing with a highly insecure spouse however simple problems can turn into big fights and even escalate toward Domestic Abuse. If you find that even when you are calmly stating your complaint or request your spouse is disrespectful or condescending the reason could be more than just emotional immaturity. Domestic Abuse occurs when a partner perceives he is being asked to provide more than he is able to give. This kind of ego threat is a common trait of abusive people. When the arguments become circular, loud, explosive they can easily turn violent because your insecure and threatened partner knows no other way out of his painful state of mind but to end it with intimidation. Continue…………
One of the main causes of symptoms that lead to Domestic Abuse-- lying, cheating, yelling, hitting--is Narcissistic Personality Disorder. NPD is a serious mental and emotional condition. With a deeply ingrained set of learned behaviors, a highly insecure person or abusive husband uses abusive tactics as tools to deal with his stress or low self-esteem. Friends and family of Narcissists or emotionally abusive people often feel insecure themselves as they wonder if they are doing "something wrong" or could be doing something differently to avoid the Narcissist’s abuse or prevent future Domestic Abuse. Continue…………
There are techniques and skills to learn how to not only recognize the difference between an abuser’s behavior and your reaction, but also how to diffuse or even intercept their triggers to avoid a dispute that may turn into Domestic Abuse. How can you prevent arguments from escalating to Domestic Abuse? The first step is to realize that when your spouse or family member is acting out they are really only crying to be heard. the first step is to not think that you threatening to leave will change their behavior as this will most likely only may it worse. Although it is natural to fight back in order to protect yourself, reflecting their complaints in calm and understanding tones is often an effective and disarming strategy. Continue…………
You need to put a solid support plan together and this is where Kim and Steve can help. To learn more visit www.narcissismcured.com.Contact: Kim Cooper www.narcissismcured.com
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