Don't Just SAY You're Sorry To Prove It
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The sentence "I'm sorry" can get us out of trouble when we've done something wrong or hurt anyone we care about but the key to a fine apology is really meaning it and convincing the other party that ...

The sentence "I'm sorry" can get us out of trouble when we've done something wrong or hurt anyone we care about but the key to a fine apology is really meaning it and convincing the other party that you are truly remorseful. Apologizing just for the sake of keeping the peace is not an effective way to apologize. In doing so the recipient of the apology will most likely see through you and realize that your apology is insincere. A sincere and well timed apology, however, will help to mend the relationship that was harmed by your words or actions.

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  • 1. Dont Just SAY Youre Sorry To Prove ItThe sentence "Im sorry" can get us out of trouble when weve done somethingwrong or hurt anyone we care about but the key to a fine apology is reallymeaning it and convincing the other party that you are truly remorseful.Apologizing just for the sake of keeping the peace is not an effective way toapologize. In doing so the recipient of the apology will most likely see throughyou and realize that your apology is insincere. A sincere and well timed apology,however, will help to mend the relationship that was harmed by your words oractions.The most important way to prove that you are truly sorry for hurting someone isto ensure that the hurtful action is not repeated. Apologizing over and over whilecontinuing to make the same mistake shows that your apology is not reallysincere. On the other hand if you really mean that you are sorry for an action youwill take careful steps not to repeat this action. Apologizing for your actions isone thing but being cautious not to repeat your actions really proves that you areindeed sorry.Being specific regarding the reason for your apology also really proves that youare sorry. Many people are quick to offer an apology when they realize someoneis upset with them but often they don’t take the time to figure out why the otherperson is upset. Apologizing without stating the reason for the apology showsthat you don’t understand the problem and that you aren’t sincere in yourapology. This is not an effective way to make an apology. However, if you offer aspecific reason for your apology you are proving that you understand what youdid to hurt the other person and that do not want to repeat that action.Another way to prove that your apology is authentic is to be sure to offer theapology in person. Having a third party speak to the person you have offended orapologizing via email or voice mail conveys a lack of caring. This kind of apologyshows that you arent truly sorry for your actions. Meeting with the person faceto face to have a sincere conversation and offer your apology is one way to reallyprove that you are sorry. It shows that you care enough about the other personto meet with them directly to try to make amends for your contributions to thedisagreement.
  • 2. In apologizing, if you want to prove that you really mean it, be careful not to placeblame on the person you are apologizing to. Your apology is about telling theother person why you believe that you did something wrong. While they mayhave contributed to the situation, now is not the time to point out their faults.Instead take full responsibility for what you have done wrong. Accepting fullresponsibility for your actions and apologizing for them without placing blame onthe other person will prove that your apology is sincere.A genuine apology will also include telling the other person why your actionswere wrong and how you intend to avoid hurting them in the future. Doing thisproves to them not only that you understand you were wrong but that youunderstand why you were wrong. It also lets them know that you have alreadyformulated a plan of action to ensure that this situation does not arise in thefuture.The timing of your apology can also help to prove that you really are sorry.Waiting too long to apologize may show that you dont really care and that youare simply apologizing as an afterthought. An apology that is made too early mayrisk being ignored because the recipient of the apology is still too upset to listento what you are saying.Its important to give the other person a chance to vent their anger and calmdown before rushing to apologize. After a reasonable amount of time approachthem and let them know that you understand their anger and believe that it isjustified and that you wanted to give them a chance to calm down beforeapologizing.Sometimes it is not enough to simply apologize for your words or actions. It isoften necessary to not only apologize but to also prove that your apology issincere. A truly sincere apology proves that you are sorry by addressing the issueand acknowledging what you have done wrong while validating the otherperson’s right to be angry and addressing how you will avoid similar actions in thefuture.I am interested in relationship and dating; I survived a break up with the love ofmy life and managed to get her back in less than a month, to download a free e-book on how to get back to your ex, please click here.
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