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  • 1. “Sowhat if todaywere the last day ofthe rest of your life?”
  • 2. Goals Thought provoking Informative Practical Fun
  • 3. Skill 1Find a quiet place in your mind.Now take deep slow belly breaths.
  • 4. “It appears that the way people perceive the world is more important to happiness than objective circumstances.” Ed Diener Great wealth is not having great possessions but few wants!
  • 5. “To different minds, the same world is ahell, and a heaven.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • 6. The Nun Study (Danner et al., 2001) Only positive feelings predicted longevity Age 85: 90% of most cheerful quartile alive; 34% of least cheerful quartile alive. Age 94: 54% of most cheerful quartile alive; 11% of least cheerful quartile alive
  • 7. Two Types of People in the World The Fault Finder“The fault-finder will find faults even in paradise” Henry David Thoreau  Could lead to resignation The Merit-finder“The invariable mark of wisdom is to see the miraculousin the common.” Ralph Waldo Emerson  Could lead to detachment  The need to respect reality
  • 8. The positive elements of being a Merit Finder Well-being (Thompson, 1985) Health  Affleck et al. (1987)  Bower (1988)  King & Miner (2000) Longevity
  • 9. HappinessObstacles
  • 10. “We see what we look for and we miss much ofwhat we are not looking for even though it isthere... Our experience of the world is heavilyinfluenced by where we place our attention.” Stavros and Torres
  • 11. “As a man thinkth so shall he be!” Cognitive distortions By David Burns
  • 12. The Ten Cognitive Distortions (David Burns)1. All-or-nothing thinking 2. Magnifying or minimizing 4. Emotional reasoning3. Over-generalization 6. ‘Should’ or ‘must’5. Mental filter statements4. Disqualifying the 8. Labeling positive 10. Personalization and blame5. Jumping to conclusions
  • 13. Skill 2 Identify ways in which you think that are stress inducing or stress producing. Identify one action you can take to promote new thoughts.
  • 14. Actions: Change the Way You think!Seek actions that promote positive attitudes.  Help others  Exercise  Be mindful  Value self  Become empowered - Reduce helplessness What actions can you take?
  • 15. Other Distortions By our nature we focus on the unique for self preservation. For survival we focus on: Danger Change The media filters these realities to play on our inherent preferences for the unique.
  • 16. Media bias tends to:  Magnify rather than report all  Accentuates the negative  It tends to be detached from the greater reality  Focuses on the negative 10%
  • 17. We need to remember:Focus creates reality.Change your focus and you change your reality.
  • 18. Actions:Change the focus of your attention. to news, art and the media! Be more selective Look for good news Question the bad news Bring balance to your use of the media.
  • 19. Seek positive media and art
  • 20. Seek Good News
  • 21. HappinessThoughts
  • 22. A Matter of Interpretation“Never let a good crisis go to waste.” Anne Harbison“Things don’t necessarily happen for thebest, but some people are able to make thebest of things that happen.”
  • 23. A Matter of Interpretation“A pessimist sees thedifficulty in everyopportunity;An optimist sees theopportunity in everydifficulty.” Winston Churchill
  • 24. HOW MANY OF YOU WORRY?
  • 25. The Nature of Worry Non productive Concern thought Same ReoccurringConcern thoughts More thought
  • 26. “If I always think,what I always thought,I will always feelwhat I always felt!”
  • 27. Seek Action!Breaking the cycle of worry can be a conscious action or an unconscious stroke of luck!Either way an ACTION is required.
  • 28. Acceptance is an action YOUR LIFE IS MADE UP OF:IMAGES + REALITIES The Happiness Option
  • 29. IF YOUR IMAGE OF LIFE AND REALITY OF LIFE ARE NOT THE SAME!IMAGE + REALITY = YOU will be:
  • 30. Options:Make a change…You have choices:
  • 31. You can change your image to match your reality! New Image + Reality = HAPPY ACCEPT thedog you have!
  • 32. You can change your reality to match your image!Image + New Reality = HAPPYOption find the NEW DOG YOU REALLY WANT!
  • 33. Consequences Optimistic Hopeful Excitement
  • 34. DO YOU HAVE ANY DOGS IN YOUR LIFE YOU DON’T WANT?
  • 35. More Actions: Research on Gratitude Emmons and McCullough (2002)  Four groups: gratitude, hassles, superior, control  Psychological and health benefits Physiological benefits (McCraty & Childre 2004) Benefits of trait gratefulness Maintaining freshness through mindful focus
  • 36. Learning to be Grateful“You say grace before meals. All right. But I say gracebefore the concert and the opera, and grace before theplay and pantomime, and grace before I open a book,and grace before sketching, painting, swimming,fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing, and gracebefore I dip the pen in the ink.”“Gratitude has produced the most purely joyful momentsthat have been known to man.” G. K. Chesterton
  • 37. 21 days or your money back Try It! Be mindful – stop, reflect, meditate Becoming a merit-finder Visualize it, feel it Chipping away negativity Nurture Gratitude Make a bucket list “Life begins when you do!”
  • 38. Summary of Options Deep breathing Thought distortions Rituals Worry/Sleep Acceptance Gratitude 21 days or your money back
  • 39. Bibliography and Recommendations• Danner, D., Snowdon, D., and Friesen, W. (2001).Positive emotions in early life and longevity: Findingfrom the nun study. Journal of Personality and SocialPsychology, 80, 804-813.• Emmons R. A. & McCullough M. E. (2004). ThePsychology of Gratitude. Oxford University Press.• Seligman, M. (2002). Authentic Happiness. FreePress.• Brother David Steindl-Rast (1984). Gratefulness, theHeart of Prayer. Paulist Press.• Wiseman, R (2003). The Luck Factor. Miramax.• Wiseman’s website: http://www.luckfactor.co.uk/

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