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Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
Love and logic - slides
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  • 1. Welcome toLove & Logic A GUIDE FOR PARENTS Presented by Dr. Jim Scott
  • 2. Goals of ParentingRaise Children who are: Independent Able to think critically Good problem solving Know they are loved Secure
  • 3. THREE STYLES OFPARENTINGHelicopters Drill Sergeants Consultants
  • 4. HelicoptersHoverRescueAs parents youdo it all!Children learn theydo not haveto be accountable.
  • 5. Drill SergeantsWork by command and intimidationAs parents you call allthe shots.As a child you are taught not to think!
  • 6. ConsultantsOffer help when asked.As parents your role is tohelp children solve theirown problemsAs a child you are valued .You learn there are solutions andconsequences to their behaviors.
  • 7. Love and Logic PrinciplesAdults set firm limitsin a loving way.Childhood mistakes are seen as an opportunity for Learning
  • 8. InstantEmpathetic EnforceableResponse Statements When the adult has immediate Control Choices Within Uh, Oh Limits song
  • 9. Problem Solving Instant Empathetic Delayed Response consequence When the Adult has No Immediate ControlOne-Liners to StrategicNeutralize Arguing Training Restitution
  • 10. NUTRALIZING ARGUING ANTICIPATORY CONSEQUENCES EMPATHETIC RESPONSES CREATE ENFORCEABLE STATEMENTS CHOICES WITHIN LIMITS “UH, OH SONG” RESTITTUTIONGUIDING KIDS TO SOLVE THEIR OWN PROBLEMS
  • 11. Neutralize Arguing• Don’t allow your children to control your actions or you!
  • 12. Two steps to Neutralize Arguing 1) Use Instant Empathetic Responses The expression of genuine empathy has an amazing ability to soak up emotions. I understand.. You sound up set I know just what you mean
  • 13. Step 2 Neutralize Arguing Use love and logic one- liners It is important that you use these one liners over and over.
  • 14. Famous One LinersKeep your composureListen be reflectiveCreate Statements that do notallow for control Respond with Empathy
  • 15. Famous One liners• Send “Can do” Messages• Give only choices you like• Take care of yourself and set limits• Use the sandwich technique
  • 16. To get a free Love and LogicMaterials and Catalogue Call 1-800-338-4065 Mon-Friday 7-5 p.m. (Mountain Time)

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