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Gbpld getting what you want out of life. 3.11.10

  1. 1. Getting What You Want Out of Life Making Friends with Your Inner Coach Dan Wiseman Wiseman Consulting and Training, Inc.
  2. 2. What You Think Matters Beliefs Lead to Words… Words Lead to Behavior… Behaviors Lead to Action… Actions Lead to Beliefs…
  3. 3. Assessing Your Happiness <ul><li>In General I am a happy person </li></ul><ul><li>Compared to my friends I am generally happier than they are </li></ul><ul><li>I enjoy life regardless of what’s going on around me </li></ul><ul><li>While I am not depressed I feel I could be a lot happier than I am </li></ul><ul><li>Rate your self on a 1-5 score (1=completely disagree 3= somewhat agree 5=completely agree) </li></ul>
  4. 4. What Good is Happiness if it Can’t Buy Money! Henny Youngman
  5. 5. What Do Happy People Look Like? <ul><li>Devote more time to nurturing relationships </li></ul><ul><li>Express gratitude and appreciation </li></ul><ul><li>Frequently help others and practice kindness </li></ul><ul><li>Cultivate optimism when thinking about the future </li></ul><ul><li>Live in the present moment by not over thinking or comparing </li></ul><ul><li>Take care of their body and exercise </li></ul><ul><li>Commit to meaningful long term goals and values </li></ul><ul><li>Are resilient in coping with challenges and difficulties </li></ul><ul><li>Know how to forgive and let go </li></ul><ul><li>“ The How of Happiness” Sonja Lyubomirsky </li></ul>
  6. 6. What Determines Happiness <ul><li>10% due to circumstances and situation </li></ul><ul><li>50% due to our genetic setpoint </li></ul><ul><li>40% due to intentional activity </li></ul>
  7. 7. Happiness The meaning and purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence Aristotle
  8. 8. Myths about Happiness <ul><li>You can find it (money, job, looks, people, house etc.) </li></ul><ul><li>You can just change your circumstances (the geographic or job fix) </li></ul><ul><li>Some people just have (so why try) </li></ul>
  9. 9. Happy People are All Alike <ul><li>But Unhappy People are Unhappy Individually and in unique ways </li></ul>
  10. 10. Coaching vs. Counseling vs. Consulting <ul><li>Coaching focuses on the present and future. Approach is one of discovery and appreciation </li></ul><ul><li>Counseling focuses on the past and present. Approach is problem oriented and fixing things inside you </li></ul><ul><li>Consuting focuses on present and future. Approach centers on projects and expertise. </li></ul>
  11. 11. Coaching Process <ul><li>Assessing where I am at, who I am, and what I want (appreciatively) </li></ul><ul><li>Exploring and inquiring about possibilities </li></ul><ul><li>Learning, experimenting, and pilot testing ideas and actions </li></ul><ul><li>Building foundations to sustaining and implement changes I want. </li></ul>
  12. 12. Key Elements of Coaching <ul><li>You own it and are in charge </li></ul><ul><li>Answers come from you </li></ul><ul><li>Deep listening (to yourself or by others) </li></ul><ul><li>Appreciation of your strengths </li></ul><ul><li>Accountability to your best self </li></ul><ul><li>Asking great and powerful questions </li></ul><ul><li>Take risks and trying out new actions </li></ul><ul><li>Authenticity </li></ul><ul><li>Live out your passion and what you love </li></ul>
  13. 13. Coaching Options <ul><li>Coach yourself </li></ul><ul><li>Discuss your process and results with others who you trust and have your best interests at heart </li></ul><ul><li>Do co-coaching with a friend </li></ul><ul><li>Hiring a certified and trained coach </li></ul><ul><li>Create a coaching club </li></ul>
  14. 14. Where to look for coaches <ul><li>Chicago Coaches Federation </li></ul><ul><li>International Coaches Federation </li></ul><ul><li>Coaches Training International (where I was trained) </li></ul><ul><li>Executive Service Corps of Chicago </li></ul>
  15. 15. My Next Steps <ul><li>What do I want </li></ul><ul><li>Who could help me </li></ul><ul><li>What resources should I explore </li></ul><ul><li>What’s a first step </li></ul><ul><li>What will success look like </li></ul>
  16. 16. Resources
  17. 17. My contact information <ul><li>Dan Wiseman </li></ul><ul><li>133 W. Palatine Road, #202 </li></ul><ul><li>Palatine IL, 60067 </li></ul><ul><li>847-221-5197 or 847-902-9034 (cell) </li></ul><ul><li>[email_address] </li></ul><ul><li> </li></ul>