This presentation is the second part of a three-part presentation focusing on LDS standards in dating for youth. It also discussed the importance of love and respect as the foundation for love.

1. To Everything There Is a Season Part 2: Sacred Boundaries November 29, 2009

2. We can and must do a much better job as parents and leaders in teaching our children and youth about sexual purity.

3. Teaching about sex is primarily the parents’ responsibility. But family and Church leaders should also support parents.

5. Our lives and happiness are protected by sacred boundaries.

6. Chastity is the fortress that protects love, self-respect, relationships and the family.

7. The temple is a symbol of that fortress.

8. Physical intimacy between a married man and woman is a beautiful, powerful, sacred bond.

9. For married couples, physical intimacy, when properly expressed, is the key to emotional and spiritual unity.

10. Respect is the key to trust, and trust is the key to enduring, romantic love.

11. When expressed with gentleness, great respect and unselfishness, physical intimacy heals the marriage relationship.

12. When expressed outside of sacred boundaries, physical intimacy always has painful and often disastrous or devastating consequences for a lot of people.

14. If you enter into a physical relationship too soon, you too often make life commitments before you are emotionally ready.

15. Foundations for Enduring Relationships

16. Respect

17. Respect Trust

18. Respect Trust Love

19. Respect Trust Love Physical Affection

20. Respect

21. Respect Trust

22. Respect Trust Love

23. Respect Trust Love Physical Affection

24. But as we seek acceptance or popularity, attention and affection, we sometimes do so without a foundation.

25. Physical Affection

26. Physical Affection Respect

27. Physical Affection Respect Trust

28. Physical Affection Respect Trust Love

29. Physical Affection

30. Love Physical Affection

31. Respect Love Physical Affection

32. Respect Trust Love Physical Affection

33. Soothed by rationalizations, we step across sacred boundaries, and often talk ourselves into doing things that we would not otherwise do.

34. Aaron Wilburn: Krispy Kreme Doughnuts and the Lord

35. “ Satan may tempt you to rationalize that sexual intimacy before marriage is acceptable when two people are in love. That is not true.” — For the Strength of Youth, p. 26

36. Guardrails

37. The Holy Ghost Do you have it with you?

38. You are the first and most important guardrail. It’s about what is going on inside of you. No one can protect you like you .

39. “ Necking, petting, intimacies and improprieties of every kind should not be indulged in at any time in dating or in courtship. Love and affection are precious, and virtue must never be placed in jeopardy.” — For the Strength of Youth (1965), p. 13.

40. “ Do not date until you are at least 16 years old. Dating before then can lead to immorality, limit the number of other young people you meet, and deprive you of experiences that will help you choose an eternal partner.” — For the Strength of Youth (2001), p. 24

41. If you are “going out” before 16 or steady dating after 16, you have crossed a sacred boundary and are in danger.

42. When you cross that boundary, you may not have the protection of the Spirit.

43. Familiarity leads to boredom which leads to experimentation which too often leads to transgression.

44. You may not want to date at all. That’s okay. There is plenty of time for dating later.

48. Early romance often slows and stunts emotional and spiritual growth.

49. You will develop confidence in yourself through friendship and social interaction, not romance.

50. How do you show affection when dating?

51. When is it appropriate to hold hands?

52. When is it appropriate to hug someone?

53. When is it appropriate to put your arm around someone?

54. When is it appropriate to kiss someone?

56. Joseph and Potiphar’s wife: What happened?

57. “ How...can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?” —Genesis 39:9

58. Joseph had integrity with himself, he had the Spirit, and he knew who he was.

59. You can, too. But it’s up to you.