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    • Sample Script for a Connecting ConversationSet-up  Wherever you are gathering, be sure seating is comfortable and everyone can see everyone else.  Provide refreshments  Have text handouts, with the Directions for Discussions (attached here on page 3), readily available  Provide name tags for everyoneFor the FacilitatorBelow you will find both a bulleted description of the key points for each part of theConversation in addition to a script that covers those bullets. Feel free to use whichever ismore comfortable for you. You may want to mark with a highlighter those words/phrases youwant to be sure to include.For the Note TakerAt the end of this document are several charts that layout a way to capture and organize whatis shared during the Conversation.Part I: Welcome and Introductions (20-25 minutes)Key points  Introduce yourself, the note taker and the other (absent) members of the team.  Offer a brief description of Express Innovation: why your congregation is involved, what the process has been (so far), what you’ve decided (so far) and why the participants’ input is important.  Have participants introduce themselves and share what constitutes quality family time  Draw attention to what families have in common and explain that this information will influence how the model takes shape.Sample ScriptWelcome and thank you for joining us. My name is ___________ and I’m part of the teamworking to create new kinds of Jewish learning experiences for children and families in ourcongregation. Joining me is another member of our team, __________, who is going to dohis/her best to keep a running record of our discussion. (The other members of our team are…) 1
    • Last spring our team came together to begin what we feel is really exciting and important workfor our synagogue under the auspices of a project called Express Innovation. We are workingwith a consultant and have attended two meetings with teams from other congregationsexploring new kinds of learning for their congregations. We’ve made some preliminarydecisions about the direction we want to go in (more about that later) but don’t want toproceed much further in our thinking and planning until we learn some more about you andyour families. Your children’s grade/subject/stage in life is the target audience for the “taste”of this new model of learning that will be introduced in January. In order to create somethingthat is truly engaging and meaningful we’d like to learn more about your family – what’simportant to you in general and what kind of Jewish life you want to live. We’re going to followtogether a structured conversation that will bring these thoughts to the surface.Perhaps you’re wondering why we have turned to you for this Conversation. Two mainreasons: one, we know that you’re invested in your children’s and family’s education andJewish future, and two, we know that each of you knows how others of your peers in thecongregation are thinking and feeling.Let’s go around and please introduce yourself by name, the names and ages of your childrenand your answer to this question: Share one activity that your family enjoys doing together.Please limit your sharing to one minute.(Note to Facilitator: Introduce yourself first, modeling the kind of information and length oftalking time expected of the others.)Thank you for sharing. It’s great to get to know each other a little better. I heard a number ofyou mention you enjoyed spending time as a family (when or how)______________________.(Possibilities might include around holidays, celebrations, vacations, in specific places.) This ishelpful to know as we work to create a learning model that fosters meaningful experiences foryou and your children. Your stories give us insight into the direction we will take.Part II: A Little Bit of Torah (25 minutes)Key points  Explain that in order to design this new kind of learning in a way that’s meaningful the team would like to know more about the participants and their families and that we’ll be looking at some writings by parents or about parenting to inspire a discussion about our hopes and dreams for our children  In pairs have participants read and discuss the 2 texts assigned to them, following the directions provided  Partners report to the group what each other wishes for their children 2
    •  Identify commonalities and differences that emergeSample ScriptFor our new model of learning to be meaningful to you and your family we know it has to speakto who you are and how you live your life. As a way of inspiring a discussion about this we’vegathered statements from parents and those writing about parenting – both general and Jewish– to get us started. We’ll be doing this in pairs. Attached to these texts are directions for you tofollow. When we gather back together, in about 10 minutes, we’ll go around and each of uswill report on what our partner had to say.(Note to Facilitator: Distribute texts. Assign 2 texts to each pair. When you bring group backtogether, start the round of sharing to model for others.) Directions for Discussions Please read through all three steps before beginning. 1. With your partner, read through the 2 texts you were assigned. You may want to do this out loud. Sometimes we hear things differently than we read them. 2. As you read, underline the items that relate to your hopes and dreams. Likewise, note in the margin a one of your hopes or dreams for your child(ren) that was not expressed in these texts. 3. Share with your partner what you underlined and noted. Ask enough questions of each other so you can explain his/her wishes when the full group reconvenes.(After 10 minutes): Let’s reconvene (give everyone a chance to get settled) and go around andlet’s hear first what resonated with your partners in the texts you read.Timing: two minutes per pair, 10 minutes total.Now, let’s hear if there were hopes and dreams for your children that were not expressed inthese texts.Timing: 3 minutes totalThank you for sharing with each other and all of us your aspirations for your children. I heardseveral of you mention _________, and others concerned with ___________. (Feel free tohighlight multiple commonalities, if they exist. For example, you may hear “I want my kids tobe strong enough to stand up for what’s right” or “I want my child to be caring andcompassionate” in which case you can comment on the shared hope that their children have astrong moral compass.) 3
    • Timing: 2 minutes total.Part III: Living a Jewish life (15-20 minutes)Key points  Direct participants to consider and discuss what facilitates and impedes their efforts to achieve the hopes and dreams they have for their children.  If the participants don’t touch on Jewish learning and/or living, ask them to consider how Judaism could help them reach their dreams for their children.Sample ScriptWe’ve talked a little about your families and about your hopes and dreams for your children.Now we’d like to step back to reflect on how easy – or difficult – it is for you to achieve thesehopes and dreams.Think about what you’ve shared here about what you want for your children. Take twominutes and jot down your answers to the following 2 questions: 1. What in your life is working with you in helping you reach those hopes and dreams? 2. What are some things in this changing world that are getting in the way?(After two minutes) Go around and ask parents only to share responses to #1. Then go aroundthe other way and ask parents to share their responses to #2.(If nothing specifically Jewish comes up you can ask: Where does Judaism fit in? In what wayscan you imagine Judaism helping you reach your dreams for your children?)Part IV: Facilitator reflection and building your new model (15 minutes)Key points  Reflect on and summarize some of what you heard during this Conversation  Briefly explain the process of creating your new model moving forward  Briefly describe your new model and how the team is committed to being thoughtful and sensitive in its design and implementation.Sample ScriptIt’s clear you all love your children very much and want for them what you believe will makethem successful and satisfied in life. However, creating the opportunities for them to be insituations where they can observe others and learn for themselves what makes for a good life isnot always easy. We hope that our new model of learning will address some of your concerns 4
    • and create new opportunities for your children and your family, together, to explore aspects oflife that can too easily get overlooked.For example (and here you need to draw on what you actually heard), I heard you talk about how your busy lives pull your family apart in too many directions. Our model is going to provide time for quality and meaningful together family time. I heard how concerned you are about how focused your kids are on what they have instead of who they are. Our model is going to challenge bad values and have everyone share the experience of sharing and giving. I heard how you wish your kids could relax and not feel the pressures that seem to come at them from all sides. The time you spend together with other families will be important, but not pressured. We will create a safe space for everyone to relax and say what’s on their mind, without being fixated on grades and the next test. I heard______________________ and want you to know that the new model will address that by ________________.What you’ve shared here today will help shape our new learning model. We’ll be reviewing ournotes, looking both at your words and the feelings and concerns behind your words. Ourconsultant will be working with us to help us sort through and incorporate some of what you’vesaid you’re looking for in meaningful experiences for your families.Describe the broad outlines of your model, focusing on these points:  The category (e.g. Shabbat centered, Service Learning, etc.)  The design is far from complete.  It may require some schedule changes but that the team will be very thoughtful about providing plenty of communication and notice about what’s ahead.  Much of what was shared during this Conversation will be critical as the team shapes the model and plans for its implementation.Part V: Group reflection and Wrap-up (10-15 minutes)Key Points  Put closure on the Conversation by asking participants to respond to a reflection question.  Thank everyone for participating.  Ask participants to talk about this Conversation with others and to continue sharing ideas over the months ahead. 5
    •  Tell participants to expect to hear more from you in the near future.Sample ScriptGo around and ask everyone to respond to this reflection question: How was this Conversation different from other meetings or discussions you’ve had at the synagogue about a new initiative or upcoming program?Thank everyone for being so forthcoming and sharing their personal stories.Ask the participants to help make your innovations successful by talking to others about thisConversation and continuing to share their ideas as your plans progress.Promise participants that you will follow-up with them soon. 6
    • CAPTURING STORIES: A note-taking tool to record what is shared during theConversation.PART I: Welcome and IntroductionsAs parents describe their favorite family activities, jot down the specific experiences and whatabout them makes them enjoyable. Activities Shared by FamiliesNature of activity What seems to make it enjoyable 7
    • PART II: A LITTLE BIT OF TORAHAs hopes and dreams related to the texts are shared, jot down which parts of which textsresonated with them and how they made the connection to their own hopes and dreams. Sections of Text Personal Connection to Hope and Dreams 8
    • PART III: LIVING A JEWISH LIFECapture what parents say both helps them and impedes their efforts to reach their hopes anddreams. Hopes and Dreams Expressed What Helps Reach Hopes and What are Barriers to Reaching Dreams Hopes and Dreams 9