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==== ====The Secrets On How To Understand Men And Get The Man Of Your Dreamshttp://tinyurl.com/7rudf8w==== ====Although this article has a lot of great dating tips, advice, and ideas, it offers much more. It givesyou an education and a step-by-step strategy that you can use to dramatically improve your datingsuccess and enjoyment.To draw your attention to key points, you will find these markers throughout the text: (Dating Tip:)& (Dating Ideas:).Benefits to MasteryMost of us approach dating in a lackadaisical manner as if our actions were dictated by instinctsthat we have no control over, like it is with animals. The difference, of course, is that humans havean infinitely superior intelligence that provides us with the ability to think, analyze, and choose.Mastering dating rituals and techniques can change everything in terms of how successful you arein the courting process. This includes not only having the ability to recognize early when its time tomove on, but also how to create romance and passion with the person you have determined to bea promising match. (Dating Tip:) Dating rituals and techniques create the mystery and romancethat women love and render the enticement and passion that men love.Other benefits to gaining these skills is having more poise and confidence, which translate tohaving more fun! The final reward is a successful dating experience with someone you recognizeas being the one whos right for you!Building from the BasicsWe will develop this information from a solid foundation by building from the basics of dating. For itis through the dating basics or rituals where we will apply the techniques that we shall learn about.Even the highly experienced dating veteran will benefit from this review.The first date can produce a wide range of feelings from extreme nervousness and apprehensionto being relaxed and self-assured for the well prepared or experienced. Opinions on how the datewent can also vary widely from, "I think we had a great time" to "Im not sure if either one of us hada good time or not." The uncertainty and mixed emotions are normal. The variation to either end ofthe scale of possible emotions depends on how much dating experience a person has and howlong its been since they dated last.Responsibility for at least the first several dates, even by todays standards, typically rests almostentirely on the man. Ladies can be helpful, however, by being cooperative with plans and graciousas her man tries his best to execute the various dating rituals and customs such as opening doors,
ordering wine, and so forth without stumbling.First DateThe first date should be scheduled a week to two (2) weeks in advance, and it should be on aweekday (Monday through Thursday), not Friday or Saturday night. Friday, and especiallySaturday, nights are reserved for the more advanced stages of dating. If work or school schedulesdoesnt permit this, then a date during the day on Saturday or Sunday will work. (Dating Tip:)Incidentally, you should be trying to date several people, or at least more than one (1), during yourquest. Focusing on just one person can stifle your resolve to reach your target.Guys, you should select a particular day and time for your date in advance of asking her. If shetells you that its not a good day, do not negotiate unless she offers a specific alternative that fitsinto your plan (Monday through Thursday, anytime, or Saturday or Sunday, during the day). If shedoesnt offer a specific alternative (This would not include, "Call me next week."), say to her,"Perhaps some other time." Thats it! (Dating Tip:) The reason for all these tactical moves is this: Ifshe is interested, she will help make it happen by re-arranging her schedule or by offering aspecific alternative. Ladies, Im sure you will agree with this. (Dating Tip:) Gentlemen, if you do getan unclear response to your invitation for a date, then make the decision based on your gutinstincts on whether you should give it a second try or move on. If the second try doesnt work,then dont waste your time, just move on! The same is true for the ladies. (Dating Tip:) If a guy isnot following these guidelines by not giving you enough advanced notice, or he has no plans whenhe picks you up, or hes not attentive during your dates, move on! In either case, the situation forthe person you are attracted to could change in the future, but for now they are probably notinterested.The destination for your date should be simple and inexpensive, but clean and nice, and in yourneighborhood. There is no sense investing your time or a lot of money until you determine if youlike each other. (Dating Tip:) Most women will only become uncomfortable, or perceive you asbeing foolish, if you spend a months pay on the first date. (Dating Ideas:) Possible locations for afirst date might be at a local tavern, a coffee house, or an inexpensive restaurant.Your Best Act is Being YourselfDont try to impress your date with your money, your position, your car, or your bodymeasurements. Using these things to win someone over will only attract those with superficialintentions. (Dating Tip:) Win them over by showing them the qualities you have inside by simplybeing yourself.Actually, the most important thing you can do on a date is to be yourself. There is always thetemptation to act like the "Goddess Princess" or the "Knight in Shining Armor," especially after afew drinks. There is also the tendency to go along with things that conflict with your values, or tooverstate your accomplishments or virtues. Trying to be somebody you arent will not only bindyou to a pack of lies, but it will often bring about an arrogant and conceited manner in you. Its alsoa lot of work being someone youre not. Wouldnt you rather have someone fall in love with you asyou truly are? Of course you would! So do it. Be yourself!Attraction Intoxication
Although you may be intoxicated by the beautiful or handsome appearance of your date, do notreveal the full extent of your feelings just yet. Save that for the right moment several dates downthe road. Just say, "You look very nice this evening." and leave it at that. (Dating Tip:) In regard tosexual innuendoes, they have no place during the early stages of dating. They can be offensive towomen, and sometimes to men as well.Do not permit physical attraction (or lust) to cloud your judgment. When this happens, your visionbegins to fade away, and you risk the chance of fooling yourself into believing that you have foundthe one whos right for you. Dont allow physical attraction to obscure your emotional requirements.Because when you find someone who satisfies both, the fireworks will be a continuous grandfinale, and not a brief show followed by a string of duds. So dont settle for an individual who fallsshort of your vision. (Dating Tip:) To quickly determine if someone meets our criteria, we need topay attention to our intuition and not be timid about attempting to determine their true characterthrough tactful questions.Tactical QuestionsKeep the conversation light during the first few dates, but try to tactfully find out if your date hasthe qualities you seek in a partner or friend. (Dating Tip:) And dont tell them your whole life storyand all your intimate secrets right away. Prolong the mystery. In fact, always try to maintain somedegree of anonymity in some area of your personality or life, as it naturally provokes moreexcitement. Mystery is a mental aphrodisiac!Take notice of your dates personality attributes and how they demonstrate their values throughtheir actions and unrehearsed comments. Then ask yourself, "Do their responses reflect myvalues?" Human resource professionals carefully use crafted questions to get people to talk aboutthemselves while they unwittingly reveal key aspects of their character. (Dating Tip:) Questionslike these, used in a date setting, can also be revealing as well as lead to stimulating conversation.On the first few dates, your questions should be geared toward discovering what you have incommon and generating stimulating conversation. Save the more probing and tactical questionsfor a later time down the road. Typical questions might include:- Where did you grow up?- Do you have brothers/sisters?- Where did you go to high school/college?- What are your favorite movies?- What are your favorite songs?- What are your favorite sports?- What type of books do you read?
More probing questions, which tend to reveal a lot about a person, should not occur until the thirdor fourth date. You can keep them from sounding like interview questions by presenting themplayfully in a game-like manner. Probing questions might include:- Where do you see yourself in three (3) to five (5) years?- Using single words, how would you describe yourself?- Whats your greatest achievement?- Whats your greatest disappointment?- If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?- What is your best attribute?Here are a few words of caution regarding the use of questions. (Dating Tip:) If youre dating morethan one person at the same time, and you have any tendency to get confused about what youvetalked about with each individual, I would suggest that you make notes on what you talked aboutin your journal or calendar. Nothing is more disappointing to a date than when it is discovered thatyou cant remember what you spoke to them about. (Dating Tip:) On the other hand, nothing ismore charming to them than when you remember specific details about your conversation.At the End & Before the Next DateGentlemen, if when saying good night on the first date you feel a kiss might be appropriate, kissher once to the duration that feels right. (Dating Tip:) Then say good night, turn, and walk away.Do not linger, talk more, try to kiss her again, or ask her for a second date!Ladies, be sure to thank your date for the things that he bought you during the date. Be sensitiveto the fact that dating is expensive and you never know how deep a man is going into his currentbudget to take you out.Wait a few days and think it over. Is he or she worth pursuing? If so, gentlemen call her about aweek later and schedule the second date for around a week from then. (Dating Tip:) Ladies if youhavent heard from him within two (2) weeks, move on! Dont allow yourself to take it personally,even if you had a great time! Dont waste your time trying to figure it out. Just get yourself back outthere! Ladies, if youre the one whos not interested, simply refuse his offer for a date, even if youdont have a date for the company Christmas party! Youd make a much better impression on yourfriends and management if you were there with someone who was truly right for you!Second DateThe second date should be advanced one more step by scheduling it later in the week on aThursday or Friday evening, or Sunday, but not Saturday night! The destination should remaininexpensive, but slightly more adventuresome. (Dating Ideas:) Perhaps a light dinner at a uniquesandwich or coffee shop, a movie, a special ice cream parlor, and/or a walking tour through apopular area with a lot of interesting stores.
The goodbye kiss on the second date can last a little longer, or a kiss or two (2) during the date isOK, but dont draw them out for too long. (Dating Tip:) Build up to that. Then later on down theline, after your friendship and feelings have been established, the long romantic kiss will be veryheartfelt and memorable. If rushed, theres the possibility that the progress of your relationshipdevelopment may not match, resulting in an awkward moment. So let interest, excitement, andromance develop at its own pace and give your partner/friend something to think about betweendates! (Dating Tip:) Gentlemen, after the goodnight kiss, if there is one (some people take longerand thats OK too), say good night and leave. Do not linger! And do not schedule the next datethen. Wait! Waiting not only gives you a cooling off period to get your head straight, but it alsobuilds excitement and romance.Third DateIf things seem to be advancing well and your date appears to fit your criteria so far, gentlemen,ask her for a third date after about a week and schedule it approximately a week in advance. Andelevate the courting process to the next level, perhaps a Friday or even a Saturday night! (DatingIdeas:) Dinner and dancing, or dinner and a movie are good choices.Ladies, if he doesnt meet your criteria at this point, move on! (Dating Tip:) Dont think that you canchange him! Instead of wasting time, get back out there! If he calls, just tell him that your situationhas changed and youre no longer available. If hes persistent, be honest, but also remember to bekind and empathetic. Just tell him something like, "I think we would both be happier with someoneelse."I am placing more emphasis at this point on the ladies decision on whether they should move onbecause women typically have better judgment than men during the early stages of dating. Lateron, it switches.Dancing Expresses the HeartI am going to change directions for a couple of minutes to provide you with some important andexciting thoughts about dancing. Let me start by giving you a bit of history on dancing. Humanshave been dancing for thousands of years. Many different forms and uses evolved along with thedevelopment of human society. Although dancing was used for a wide variety of situations, itsunderlining purpose in most of them was to inspire and to gain unity of thought or focus. Malewarriors danced together to strengthen one another, females danced together to support oneanother, spiritual leaders danced to achieve a closer connection with their higher power, andlovers danced together to celebrate, connect, and express their affections for each other.I would suspect that the greatest number of dance variations, especially in modern society, existbetween men and women. Theres the waltz, the tango, the swing, the two-step, and many more.My favorite is the free-style dance that you might see in a nightclub, because it allows completefreedom to express your individuality.Whatever your tastes are in dance, what is important is whether or not you and your partner/friendharmonize in style, rhythm, and tempo. (Dating Tip:) If not, it is very likely that you will notharmonize in other major areas of your relationship as well, but especially in the area of romantic
compatibility.Think back. Have you ever danced with someone who seemed to be dancing alone? They movedin a manner and speed that was way out of rhythm from yours? Have you ever danced withsomeone who forcibly led with his or her own style without regard to whether you were following orenjoying it? Have you ever noticed how this same person tried to control everything off the dancefloor as well? Its very uncomfortable to be in these situations and not enjoyable or fun as it shouldbe.In contrast, when you find someone who harmonizes with your dancing style, the activity can beboth fun and erotic! You will also find that you get along, almost mysteriously well, off the dancefloor as well! If you cant fully appreciate the amorous and romantic aspects of dancing, rent themovie "Dirty Dancing."You can see then that the way a person dances is really an expression of their internal self.(Dating Tip:) Therefore, it is important to zero in on this aspect of your interactions when yourewith someone. Dont settle for less, either. Dancing with the one whos right can be absolutelymagical! And your dancing skills really have little to do with it. Now lets return to our main topic.Evaluate Your AimAfter the third date, its time to consider if you should continue dating this person or not. (DatingTip:) Start by reviewing your criteria for an ideal partner or friend and comparing it to the personyouve been seeing. If you have not yet created a list of criteria for your perfect partner, I wouldstrongly suggest that you do.Do not rationalize! Think carefully about your evaluation and then make a decision to continue ormove on. And stick to it! Incidentally, this choice becomes a lot easier if youre dating more thanone person at the same time, which is highly recommended.Reality before SexIf youve decided to proceed, and you feel sex is a possibility, its time to revisit reality, and discusscontraception and protection from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). This would beappropriate for couples of any age. (Dating Tip:) You may feel uncomfortable with the thought ofdiscussing these subjects with your partner/friend, but its your life and these issues must beresolved. One bad choice in this area can instantly ruin your life forever!(Dating Tip:) I would strongly suggest no matter how truthful, safe, and healthy your partner/friendseems, that you make certain that an adequate birth control method is being used, and that youboth get tested for STDs before your first sexual encounter. If you dont have medical insurance tocover these expenses, most local health departments offer birth control counseling and STDtesting for free or at a nominal fee.Fourth through Sixth DateIf youre ready to move on to dates four (4) through six (6) its time to start planning someadventures. (Dating Ideas:) Guys, get creative and do some research to find some unique
restaurants and activities such as dinner cruises, plays, concerts, or special events. Concentrateon the activities that would take you outside of the area where your date lives or works. Yourobjective is to create unique, memorable, and adventurous experiences together.After the sixth date, its time (once again) to consider whether or not you want to continue datingthis person. (Dating Tip:) Again, review your criteria for an ideal partner or friend. At this point, itmay be more difficult to break away or think clearly, especially if youve been intimate and yourweekends are no longer lonely but filled with the excitement of dating! Think carefully about yourevaluation, and then go with your gut instincts as to whether you should continue or end it. Keep inmind that its a lot easier to end a relationship in the early stages than later. In fact, as time goeson, it gets progressively more difficult. So give it serious consideration, and dont allow atemporary good time to postpone your discovery of the one whos right! If you decide to continuethough, do so with gusto!Seventh through Ninth DateIf you decide to move on to dates seven (7) through nine (9), its time for some trips, someintroductions into your personal world, and some romantic activities. Ladies, at this point, it wouldbe fitting for you to start planning an activity every once in a while, where you pay for a portion orall of the expense. Even if its just a home-cooked meal, most men will love it! (Dating Tip:) Guys,some brainstorming and research may be required here. Also, planning an activity together mightbe appropriate, allow you to see how you work together, and may result in a truly memorableexperience!(Dating Ideas:) Trips might include an entire day (or evening) at an amusement park, culturalcenter, a specialty show, a zoo, or a museum. For those who are more sports orientated, a day ofsnow or water skiing, sailing, golf, or tennis may be more of an appeal. (Dating Tip:) Exposure toeach others personal world is necessary so that you can thoroughly assess the integrity of yourmatching. This means that you need to introduce your partner/friend to a couple of people andactivities that are important to you in your life. Then you will need to do the same with yourpartner/friend and gain exposure to key people and activities in their life. (Dating Tip:) You will thenbe able to determine whether or not your two (2) lives will blend together successfully. (DatingIdeas:) Romantic activities can vary from a walk on the beach, a picnic in the country, or a candlelight dinner at home to those of greater intimacy such as a weekend at a resort.After the ninth (9th) date, its time (once again) to evaluate whether or not you want to continue therelationship. (Dating Tip:) Again, review your criteria for an ideal partner or friend.At this point, the idea of breaking it off can be painful. But if its not working by now, I can assureyou, it probably never will! So if your evaluations on this person are coming out poorly and theyhave few, if any, of the qualities you "must have" or "cannot have" in a relationship then you needto face facts. (Dating Tip:) Dont rationalize! Dont sell yourself short! And dont waste anymoretime! Think carefully about the conclusions you came to in your evaluation. Make a decision, anddont look back!If, on the other hand, you determine that the person you are dating matches your criteria for anideal partner or friend, and you feel that the chemistry is right, then continue on without fear,without hesitation, and without measure of what you expect to receive in return!