Happiness Workshop III: The Importance of Mindset

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Events do not make us happy. Happiness comes in large part by the perspective that we take to life -- through the application of a mindset. This presentation explores the ways in which a person\'s …

Events do not make us happy. Happiness comes in large part by the perspective that we take to life -- through the application of a mindset. This presentation explores the ways in which a person\'s mindset frames one\'s approach to life. Our mindset is a central determinant not only of our propensity toward happiness, but also our ability to develop all aspects of ourselves.

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  • 1. The Happiness Project The First Church of Salem, Unitarian Workshop III: MINDSET A Key to Cultivating a Good Life
  • 2. A Brief Review
    • 1. Happiness is not merely “pleasure”
    • Pleasure fades fast…
    • 2. Happiness is not a thing to be attained
  • 3. A Brief Review
    • Happiness as process and judgment
    • Self-Cultivation : The process of working toward my goals and values; becoming a better person .
    • Appreciation : Appreciating what is good in who you are and what you have right now .
  • 4. Happiness is about Cultivating and Appreciating A Good Life
  • 5. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my “best self” 1 Appreciate new attendees and make them feel wanted
  • 6. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Reflecting on My Actions Make new attendees feel welcome
  • 7. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Appreciate : What is good about… this moment? Cultivate : How can I continue to improve? Reflecting & Appreciation
  • 8. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Reflecting on My Actions Welcome new attendees Appreciate : There are some interesting people here Cultivate : I’m nervous; but it’s about them, not me…
  • 9. Three Areas of A Good Life Work/ Contribution Health/ Self-Care Love/ Relationships A Good Life
  • 10. Happiness is Work/ Contribution Health/ Self-Care Love/ Relationships Cultivation & Appreciation in Each Domain
  • 11. Mindfulness
    • One element of self-care is mindfulness : being aware of what is happening in the present moment .
    BREATHING is an act of centering focuses our awareness that can be done anytime, anywhere for immediate re-centering
  • 12. Exercise I: Simple Breathing Meditation
    • Close your eyes
    • Clear your mind of everything
    • Attend to your breathing
    • When your mind wanders (and it will), bring it back
    • Let’s do this for one full minute
  • 13.  
  • 14. Now is the time for the most important question for cultivating happiness:
    • What does this moment have to offer?
  • 15. Exercise: What does this moment have to offer?
    • Close your eyes and clear your mind
    • Attend to what feels good about your breathing. Consciously appreciate it.
    • Ask: What does this moment have to offer?
    • Appreciate
  • 16.  
  • 17. CULTIVATING THE PRACTICE OF SELF-CULTIVATION Reflecting upon and Developing Your MINDSET Cultivating my best self Appreciation Reflection for Cultivation
  • 18. Mindset
    • How we think of the process of our own learning and development
    • Carol Dweck (New York University)
    • Fixed versus Growth Mindsets
  • 19.
    • Learn this and it can change your life
  • 20.
    • Really.
  • 21.
    • I kid you not.
  • 22. Fixed versus Growth Mindsets Theory of Intelligence, Competence or Ability My Goals What I Do Fixed
    • Seek Positive
    • Evaluation
    • Avoid Negative
    • Evaluation
    • If I believe I have ability, I
    • persist, seek challenge,
    • mastery
    • If I believe I do not have
    • ability, I am helpless/avoid
    • challenge/ do not persist
    Incremental Increase Competence
    • Seek challenge that fosters
    • learning
    • persist, persist, persist
  • 23. Ability See, I think of my ability as a fixed lump of coal in my head. It’s innate. Or God given, or sump’n like that. There’s nuffin’ I can do ‘bout it! Joe Fixedhead Thick shell around encased “ability-as-thing”
  • 24. Growth Mindset Ability is not a fixed thing; it is a set of skills that can be and must be developed
  • 25. Fixed Mindset
    • I am my abilities
    • My self-esteem is tied to my abilities
    • My abilities are fixed
    • If I succeed, I feel good about myself!
    • If I fail, I feel bad about myself.
  • 26. Fixed Mindset
    • If I believe I have high ability, I persevere and work hard. This is because I know I will succeed. No threat…no fear…and no courage needed…
    • When I succeed I will feel good about myself.
    • I will have status, self-esteem, esteem from others…
  • 27. Fixed Mindset
    • If I believe that I have LOW ability, my self-esteem is threatened.
    • Failure means I’m dumb . I will see myself as dumb. You will see me as dumb.
    • I feel shame , low self-esteem
    • I will avoid the challenge; choose an easier task. I may devalue the task.
    • Since I do not put forth the effort to meet the challenge, I do not improve.
  • 28.
    • Smart and dumb are simply beside the point, thank you . They don’t come up.
    • Conceptions of high and low ability are simply beside the point, thank you . They don’t come up.
    • If they do, well, low ability simply means: I better work extra hard.
    Growth Mindset
  • 29. Growth Mindset
    • I am not my abilities; I am a process ; I am a work in progress .
    • Intelligence and ability – no matter what it is – is not fixed; it must develop
    • Any “ability” – set of skills – requires effort and hard work in order to develop.
    • My self-esteem is not tied “fixed ability”; it is tied to the process of becoming – to my progress relative to where I was or am.
  • 30. Growth Mindset
    • My Goal : To learn; to develop; to improve; to take the next step.
    If I put forth effort , I will improve. (I can’t help but to improve!) And baby steps count.
  • 31. This, of course, naturally brings us to….
    • Napkins
  • 32. Critical Feedback and the Growth Mindset
  • 33. Failure and the Growth Mindset
    • Failure doesn’t mean I lack a fixed ability.
    • It means that I haven’t developed the skill yet.
    Failure means I need to put forth more effort to develop the skill. If I adopt a growth mindset, failure need not threatened my self-esteem
  • 34. Ability Joe Fixedhead Criticism and Critical Feedback Joe, I think that the diagram you made may need a few changes.
  • 35. Joe Fixedhead Criticism and Critical Feedback WAH!!! YOU DON’T LIKE MY CHARTS. YOU DON’T LIKE ME. WAH!!! DON’T YOU KNOW THAT I AM MY DIAGRAMS?
  • 36. Incrementally Improving Irma TAKE TWO Irma, I think that the diagram you made may need a few changes. Hmm… What can I learn from this? Esteemed Boss
  • 37. A Mild Digression to a Complex Issue
    • This is not to say that people do not differ in their abilities or dispositions. They do.
    • BUT!
    • Ability : She is able to do this.
  • 38. Does this baby have the ability to do mathematics?
  • 39. Does this baby have the ability to do mathematics? Of course not. This child will need to put forth a lot of effort and activity to learn how to add, subtract, do algebra, etc.
  • 40. But, all things being equal, this baby…. may be more (or less) predisposed to develop mathematical skills in the future … … than this baby
  • 41. Regardless of their dispositions , they can both learn math, and will have to exert effort to do so. All skills develop over time.
  • 42. Abilities and Dispositions
    • Abilities aren’t fixed; they develop
    • People differ in dispositions …
    • But dispositions are not abilities …
    • Abilities aren’t abilities until the person
    • is, well, able !
  • 43. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my “best self” 1 Make a pretty napkin
  • 44. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Reflecting on My Actions Make a pretty napkin
  • 45. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Appreciate : What is good about my napkin? { It stands up; It looks like a fan } Cultivate : How can I make it just a tiny bit better? { Make it tighter next time } Reflecting & Appreciation
  • 46. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Reflecting on My Actions Welcome new attendees Appreciate : There are some interesting people here Cultivate : I’m nervous; but it’s about them, not me…
  • 47. Cultivating my best self Appreciate the Moment Take the Next (Baby?) Step Happiness as Appreciation and Cultivation
  • 48. GOAL STATE Look at how far I have to go! How overwhelming! I’ll never get there! Never, never, never! I’m a failure… How Not To Cultivate a Self Don’t judge yourself simply in comparison to where you want to be…
  • 49. Yes, it’s important to know where you’re going… GOAL STATE
  • 50. But don’t judge yourself on how far you’ve got to go, but instead on how far you have come. GOAL STATE Just last week I needed help just to stay on my feet!
  • 51. Mindfulness: Appreciate the present. GOAL STATE I have farther to go, but I appreciate where I am.
  • 52. Mindfulness: Cultivate the future. GOAL STATE I’ve got my eye on the NEXT STEP
  • 53. Some Cultural Illustrations: American Self-Esteem vs. Chinese Self-Cultivation
  • 54. The US-Chinese Learning Gap
    • Chinese Students outperform American students in mathematics (and science) at all ages and grade levels beyond the age of 4
    • American students outperform Chinese students on some open-ended tasks and tasks involving creative outcomes
  • 55. US Approach to Learning Self-Esteem/Task/Ability Focus
    • I am motivated to enhance my self-esteem .
    • My intelligence and abilities are fixed.
    • If I do well, I am smart and feel good
    • If I do poorly, I am dumb ; I feel bad
    • Goal : Focus on task ; do well to show ability and enhance self-esteem
  • 56.
    • Life-Long Process of Self-Perfection
    • Improve the Self to Bring Honor to Family
    • Learning as Moral Process; Filial Piety
    • Discipline, Concentration, Hard Work
    Chinese Self-Cultivation GOAL : Focus on Learning, Improvement and Self-Perfection
  • 57. Alternative Approaches to Learning USA Ability Orientation CHINA Virtue Orientation
    • Self-Esteem
    • Ability Focus
    • Task Focus
    • Outcome Focus
    • but
    • Rampant “Me-ism”
    • Moral Self-Cultivation
    • Incremental Life-Long Learning
    • Academic and Moral Discipline
    • Love of Learning
    • Modesty in Success
    • but
    • Threat of Familial Shame
  • 58. Development of “ Hao-Xue-Xin ” (China) “ Heart and Mind for Wanting to Learn ” Jin Li, Brown University College Students: What is Learning? USA CHINA Need for Self-Perfection/ Spiritual Power .15 .79 Information/Facts/Skills/ Understanding .95 .32
  • 59. Perceptions of Source of Success/Failure Jin Li, Brown University Preschoolers: Finish the story… Bird who tries hard and succeeds in learning to fly... Bear who tries but fails to catch fish… Nation Content USA
    • Ability
    • Learning as Task to be Performed
    • Creative Strategies
    China
    • Diligence
    • Persistence
    • Concentration
  • 60. The Point of this Cultural Analysis … is NOT to say: the Chinese are happier than the Americans It is simply to say: Effort and Reflection Bring Development What values determine your developmental path? … Identify them … cultivate them, … and appreciate the moment and the movement..
  • 61. Prelude to Some Exercises
    • Serenity Prayer
    • God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
    The Serenity Prayer acknowledges that we cannot change everything; that we must accept situations that we cannot change, and even forgive ourselves our trespasses …. And then, work toward the changes that will make for a better life .