What parents can do now

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  • Mix of practical suggestions and then just some things to think about and sort through as a parent
  • You are not the one DO-ing everythingFor many, this is a shift in your role and your parenting styleBut important – when child is at college you will not be right there to pick them up when they fall; but you will be available for “consulting” by phone or skypeDon’t be completely hands off and then swoop in to “fix” things
  • Handout with website information
  • Talk more about each of these
  • Remember – this is your child’s college search, not yoursDon’t put your own baggage on your childDon’t try to live through your childYou need to figure out what is truly important to your childOpen-ended questions that don’t offer judgmentQuestions that allow you to listen more than talkIf have time, read:**Read Global Nomad’s guide – p. 239 **Don’t Tell Me What to Do – p. 5-7 **Letting Go – p. 225What’s your favorite class? Tell me about it. Not – How was your biology test today?Tell me what you are thinking about universities? What excites you right now?Tell me where you are with your college applications. How can I support you? Not – have you finished that essay for your application yet?
  • Calendar – more than just college include EE deadlines, IB requirements, school events, sports, testing, vacations/tripsCollege CriteriaUniversities
  • Every family’s list will be different; it is unique to you and your situation
  • Other things to include:InterviewsSAT II Subject Tests required?One year – had student who included whether cars were allowed on campus and boy-girl ratio
  • Listen to what your child wants and share what you wantDon’t live through your childDon’t always talk about college – makes it too stressful your child will eventually not want to talk to you at allMaybe make a specific time/place to discuss collegeThink about having a neutral zone – dinner table? – where you don’t nag and don’t talk about college all the timeBirch - I do think we should really stress the 'Don't always talk about college' line. I have so many seniors complaining that all their parents ever talk to them about is college or schoolwork or tests.Maybe talk college one night a week – that way everyone knows when the discussion will be and students know to be prepared to share what they’ve done and what they’re thinking
  • From one of my parents a few years ago
  • $$ - allowance system; budget; debit card now?Other things you want them to know:LaundryBasic cookingSew a button on?Street smarts?
  • Use handout from Jen with questions to ask….and not ask!Alumni visits: great opportunity to ask what life is really likeCollege Talks: info sessions given by universities; not just information about their schools This year – talks on FA, pet peeves, essay writing, etc.
  • Think about what your life will be like when your child goes to college: last one to leave? First one to leave?What will you do? If you are no longer parenting 24/7, how will you fill your time in a healthy way?Preparing yourself and taking care of yourself also helps your child.
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  • Help your child understand this
  • What parents can do now

    1. 1. What Parents Can Do Now SURVIVING THE COLLEGE APPLICATION PROCESS
    2. 2. Your Role CONSULTANT GUIDE COUNSELOR SUPPORTER ENCOURAGER
    3. 3. Be Involved with ISM Programming PARENT SURVEY IN NAVIANCE (NOW) ATTEND MOCK ADMISSIONS SESSIONS (FEB. 2014) ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO ATTEND WORKSHOPS: ESSAY WRITING COMMON APPLICATION MOCK ADMISSIONS USE NAVIANCE!!
    4. 4. Be Involved with ISM Programming USE GOOGLE CALENDARS: HS COUNSELING PROGRAMMING COLLEGE VISITS SUBSCRIBE ON THE HS COUNSELING BLOG: HTTP://GUIDANCE.ISM-ONLINE.ORG/
    5. 5. Be Involved with ISM Programming USE THE COLLEGE COUNSELING SITE: HTTPS://SITES.GOOGLE.COM/A/ISMA NILA.ORG/ISM-COLLEGECOUNSELING
    6. 6. Ways to Support ASK QUESTIONS THAT SHOW YOU ARE INTERESTED IN WHAT THEY THINK HELP THEM ORGANIZE THE INFORMATION INITIATE OPEN, HONEST CONVERSATIONS TEACH FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE VISIT COLLEGES STAY INFORMED
    7. 7. Ask questions that show you are interested in what they think OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS THAT ALLOW SHARING OF THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS NO RIGHT OR WRONG ANSWERS FIND OUT WHAT THEY ARE THINKING AND FEELING AND WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO THEM
    8. 8. Help them organize CALENDAR FOR ALL DEADLINES IN SENIOR YEAR LIST OF COLLEGE CRITERIA CHART FOR UNIVERSITIES CONSIDERING
    9. 9. List of College Criteria MAJOR/PROGRAM ADMISSION REQUIREMENTS LOCATION SIZE OF CITY SIZE/TYPE OF CAMPUS WEATHER/CLIMATE RATIO OF BOYS TO GIRLS FAMILY/FRIENDS NEARBY AIRPORTS/ACCESSIBILITY
    10. 10. Universit y New York Univ Barnard How Appl Apply Type Common App ED 1 Reg Common App ED 1 Deadline Testing Nov. 1 Jan. 1 optional Nov. 1 required SAT avg2060 Program/ Major GPA/IB Teacher Recs history 3.94/35 1-2, any Urban studies 4.08/37 2-core Military science 4.16/3840 None Reg Jan. 1 required predicted Ibs econ 3.5/32+ Intl UCLA UC App Reg Oct.1Nov. 30 UBC school website Mar. 15 will read Transc Req Essays? FA Docs?
    11. 11. Open, Honest Conversations WHAT ARE YOUR NON-NEGOTIABLES? FINANCIAL CONSTRAINTS CRITERIA FOR SCHOOL BE REALISTIC BUT….DON’T ALWAYS TALK ABOUT COLLEGE!!
    12. 12. Open, Honest Conversations “I WISH I HAD TALKED TO MY SON MORE ABOUT OTHER THINGS THIS PAST YEAR. NOW HE IS LEAVING AND I DON’T KNOW THE YOUNG MAN HE HAD BECOME.” -- A PARENT
    13. 13. Teach Financial Independence and……. BUDGETING CREDIT WHAT ELSE DO YOU WANT THEM TO KNOW BEFORE THEY GO?
    14. 14. College Visits Visitors to ISM Visiting Campuses  Visitors from around  Time to visit     the world Lunchtime/Evening College Fairs Alumni Visits College Talks  Sit in on a class  Talk with students!  Talk with professors  Eat in the dining hall  Visit residence halls Ask Questions!
    15. 15. Prepare Yourself BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF STAY INFORMED AND INVOLVED PLAN FOR YOUR CHILD’S DEPARTURE CHANGING DYNAMICS IN SENIOR YEAR SHIFT IN YOUR ROLE AS PARENT
    16. 16. A Few Things to Avoid DON’T DO THE WORK FOR YOUR CHILD DON’T CHANGE YOUR MIND AT THE LAST MINUTE DON’T NAG DON’T LET YOUR WORLD REVOLVE AROUND UNIVERSITY DON’T COMPETE WITH YOUR FRIENDS, PEERS, CO-WORKERS
    17. 17. Something To Think About: Sarah McGinity’s Senior Mantra UNIVERSITY ADMISSION ISN’T A JUDGMENT ON MY LIFE UNIVERSITY ADMISSION ISN’T A JUDGMENT ON MY PARENTS OR MY UPBRINGING THERE’S GOING TO BE SOME SORT OF REJECTION IN ALL OF THIS SUCCESSFUL UNIVERSITY ADMISSION IS ABOUT ENDING UP WITH A CHOICE….AND BEING HAPPY A YEAR FROM NOW I HAVE ALL THE INFORMATION AND GUIDANCE THAT’S AVAILABLE; I WILL TAKE CHARGE, BELIEVE IN MYSELF AND TRUST THE PROCESS

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