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The Magic Instant Connections
by
Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman
Lecture by
Melih Arat
Paul and Nadia
 Paul: I uttered something
about there being nothing
new in human relations
since the time of Plato,
Arist...
Clicking
 Magical State
 Quick-set
intimacy
 MR Results
 Dopamine flood
in brain
 Magical Moment
 Euphoric
 Energiz...
Jim West and Gerhard Sessler
 Phd in physics
 A first black in
the scientific
environment.
 Phd in physics
 Emigrant f...
The Philharmonic Hall of Lincoln Center
Three Category Couples
 25 years of
marriage
 Long time
friends
 Purposeful
dating
 Click
 Which
group still
feels lo...
Research on Touching
 A group of students
were touched
randomly by
another group of
students
 Male face photos
were show...
Vulnerability:
Police Officer Greg Sancier
The Negotiator
 Once I went
through a tough
situation
myself…
 Not like yours...
Touchy-Feely Group at Stanford
 Embarass
ment
 Rating
 The most
embarassi
ng
memories
Vulnerability
 Transactional
 Phatic
 Social niceties
 How are you
 Factual
 I live in NY.
 Evaluative
 I like you...
Vulnerability
 Connective
 Gut Level
 I am sad that
you are not here
 Peak
 When you sad
you were not a
mother, I was...
Peaks
 When you share
your peaks, you
become closer
than close
relative to the
third persons.
 Clinton’s step
father was...
Confession to a notebook
 There are times when
this computer chrashes
for reasons that are not
apparent to its user. It
u...
Proximity
 Exponential
Attraction
 Spontaneous
Communications
 Passive Contacts
Florida Gators
Police Academy Best Friends
MIT Dormitory –
The Secret of the Most Popular Student
Academic Research Papers
Safe Place
 Joint adversity
 Frame
Resonance
 Flow
 Presence
 Intentionality
 Mutuality
 Individuality
 Attentiveness  Lidia Bastianich
(Kitchen Show ...
Similarity
 Quantity over
quality
 In-group
 Long-lasting
effect
 Kelly
Hildebrandt is
married to
him/herself
High Self Monitors
 Have fluid
personalities
 Modulate emotional
expressions
 Quickly incorporate
norms
 Manage other’...
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  1. 1. Click The Magic Instant Connections by Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman Lecture by Melih Arat
  2. 2. Paul and Nadia  Paul: I uttered something about there being nothing new in human relations since the time of Plato, Aristotle, and Socrates.  Paul: I’d like to continue the conversation…  If I would offer you would you marry me?  Nadia: I completly disagree with you. …. What about the change in master-slave relations and relationship between men and women?  Is that a hypothetical question?
  3. 3. Clicking  Magical State  Quick-set intimacy  MR Results  Dopamine flood in brain  Magical Moment  Euphoric  Energizing  Thrilling  And special  Quick  intimate
  4. 4. Jim West and Gerhard Sessler  Phd in physics  A first black in the scientific environment.  Phd in physics  Emigrant from Germany
  5. 5. The Philharmonic Hall of Lincoln Center
  6. 6. Three Category Couples  25 years of marriage  Long time friends  Purposeful dating  Click  Which group still feels love?  The movie test
  7. 7. Research on Touching  A group of students were touched randomly by another group of students  Male face photos were shown to woman  With and without armpit pads.  3 Definers  Sight  Smell  Touch
  8. 8. Vulnerability: Police Officer Greg Sancier The Negotiator  Once I went through a tough situation myself…  Not like yours- but I remember, like when my mother died.
  9. 9. Touchy-Feely Group at Stanford  Embarass ment  Rating  The most embarassi ng memories
  10. 10. Vulnerability  Transactional  Phatic  Social niceties  How are you  Factual  I live in NY.  Evaluative  I like your new hair cut
  11. 11. Vulnerability  Connective  Gut Level  I am sad that you are not here  Peak  When you sad you were not a mother, I was hurt.
  12. 12. Peaks  When you share your peaks, you become closer than close relative to the third persons.  Clinton’s step father was an alcoholic.
  13. 13. Confession to a notebook  There are times when this computer chrashes for reasons that are not apparent to its user. It usually does this at the most inopportune time, causing great inconvenience to the user.  What have you done in your life that you feel most guilty about?
  14. 14. Proximity  Exponential Attraction  Spontaneous Communications  Passive Contacts
  15. 15. Florida Gators
  16. 16. Police Academy Best Friends
  17. 17. MIT Dormitory – The Secret of the Most Popular Student
  18. 18. Academic Research Papers
  19. 19. Safe Place  Joint adversity  Frame
  20. 20. Resonance  Flow  Presence  Intentionality  Mutuality  Individuality  Attentiveness  Lidia Bastianich (Kitchen Show in USA)  Pope Benedict XVI  Chicken Soup, Kugel, Strudel (German meal)
  21. 21. Similarity  Quantity over quality  In-group  Long-lasting effect  Kelly Hildebrandt is married to him/herself
  22. 22. High Self Monitors  Have fluid personalities  Modulate emotional expressions  Quickly incorporate norms  Manage other’s perceptions  Act as network hubs  Heidi Klum

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