A midlife crisis is experienced between the ages of 40 and 60. It was first identified by the psychologist Carl Jung and is a normal part of the maturing process.
Most people will experience some form of emotional transition during that time of life. A transition that might cause you to take stock in where you are in life and make some needed adjustments to the way you live your life.
Most seem to come through the process smoothly without making major life changes. For some, a midlife crisis is more complicated. It can be an uncomfortable time emotionally which can lead to depression and the need for psychotherapy.
Those who have a hard time with this transitional stage might experience a range of feelings such as:
- unhappiness with life and the lifestyle that may have provided them with happiness for many years.
- boredom with people and things that may have been of interest to them before.
- feeling a need for adventure and change.
- questioning the choices, they have made in their lives and the validity of decisions they made years before.
- confusion about who they are and where they are going.
- anger at their spouse and blame for feeling tied down.
- unable to make decisions about where they want to go with their life.
Midlife Crisis In Men
A midlife crisis is more than a husband leaving his wife of two decades.
A midlife depression can result in as much anxiety and stress for the individual as the people around him.
A person in the grips of a midlife crisis may have trouble sleeping or may sleep all of the time .
Men experience a decrease in sex drive and impotence .
A drastic change in appearance is also a common sign of a midlife crisis.
In short, a midlife crisis means that men are feeling their age and freaking out about it.
Midlife crisis in Women
They may doubt their value in life,
Lose body confidence with the physical changes they’re undergoing,
Question their career successes.
“ Midlife crisis” in women can lead to midlife development
In 2005, Time Magazine did a feature article entitled, “Midlife Crisis: Bring it on.” Time reported a number of interesting findings on the topic of midlife crisis in women:
- Forty three million American women and five million Canadian women are between 40-60 years of age.
- In previous generations women didn’t talk about midlife crisis. - Since women are going to have lots of healthy years they think that midlife is going to be a period of making choices to live out one’s dreams that got sidetracked in younger years.
- Women who have been unsatisfied with their professional life are willing to think of trying something completely new in a search for greater flexibility or challenge or satisfaction.
- Women take a more hardheaded look than men at how their lives are unfolding and where they want to be 10 or 20 years down the road.
- Women are more likely than men to talk about growth and making the best of it. For example, they’re joining gyms and returning to study in growing numbers.
- The most profound difference in attitude between men and women at middle age is that women are twice as likely to be hopeful about the future.
Common Changes To Our Sexuality At Midlife
According to Dr. Aubrey M. Hill, in his book Viropause/Andropause : The Male Menopause , (recommend as an excellent source of detailed information about the physical and psychological effects of male menopause), these are common changes most men experience:
Middle aged men tend to notice the physical changes in their sexuality first and the psychological changes, such as libido reduction, later on. The most common changes in sexuality that occur in the forties and fifties are:
The most common changes in sexuality that occur in the forties and fifties are:
failure to have an erection in circumstances that previously were associated with erection less firmness of the penis during an erection
occasional loss of erection during sexual activity
failure to achieve an orgasm
reduced force of ejaculation
reduced volume of ejaculation"
Menopause, or the “change of life,” is different for each woman. For example, hot flashes and sleep problems may trouble your sister. Meanwhile, you are enjoying a new sense of freedom and energy. And your best friend might hardly be aware of a change at all.
What Is Menopause?
Menopause is a normal part of life, just like puberty. It is the time of your last period, but symptoms can begin several years earlier. Some symptoms of menopause can last for months or years after. Changing levels of estrogen and progesterone, which are two female hormones made in your ovaries, might lead to these symptoms.
This time of change is known as the menopausal transition , but it is also called perimenopause by many women and their doctors . It can begin several years before your last menstrual period. Perimenopause lasts for 1 year after your last period . After a full year without a period, you can say you have been “through menopause.” Postmenopause follows menopause and lasts the rest of your life.
The average age of a woman having her last period, menopause, is 51. But, some women have their last period in their forties, and some have it later in their fifties.