Finding your mate with the right dates 1

7 to 10
Finding Your Mate with the RIGHT Dates

Focus on 7 to 10
Rate experiences and relationships on a 1-10 scale
7 to 10 “good to great” Brings out the best in you.
4 to 6 “okay to good.”
1 to 3 “bad to okay” Brings out the worst in you.
Purpose is to define and stay focused on building and maintaining “7 to 10” relationships and a “7 to 10” life.

Circles of Life Assessment
Everything is interconnected
Work and Personal Life
Health: physical, mental/emotional, intellectual, spiritual
Relationships: yourself, significant other, family and friends.
Resources: time, financial, energy, and acquaintances.
Play or “Fun” activities: hobbies (cooking…), classes, sports, travel…

Tools for Doing a “Big Picture” Reality Check
Identify hidden opportunities
Business development tool
Killing two or more birds with one stone.

Know and Own Your Value
Acknowledge and accept a confidence dip or bad feelings.
Feeling good is a good thing and so is feeling bad.
Refocus on positives and big picture
Why I am fabulous
Record testimonials and compliments
Trust what your “golden network” says about you

Ideal Mate Profile
Define you ideal mate
Be specific and concise
Write it down

Your Niche
A specific group of people based on personal preference
Location, age, sex, religion, personality type…
Going from a niche to micro niche.
Atlanta, 40-60, male, Jewish, outgoing…
Decatur, 45-55, conservative, outgoing and intellectual…

Maximize Your Network
Focus on your 7 to 10 relationships
Helping, Giving and Caring
Getting involved and leadership role
Especially when there is an opportunity to create a meaningful memory.
Attend a wedding, retirement party, “big” birthday party
Attend a funeral, hospital visit, acknowledge of a loss (job, loved one…)

Emotions Management Tools
The power of the pause
The power of the positive sandwich

Easy to Understand and Hard to Do
Unexpected events
Ongoing help and support
Support groups, family and friends, workshops, classes…
Hire a professional counselor
Experience and expertise
Ideal profile and niche

Thank You For Coming!

Finding your mate with the right dates 1

by meg333 on Mar 15, 2010

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