Finding your mate with the right dates 1Presentation Transcript
7 to 10 Finding Your Mate with the RIGHT Dates
Focus on 7 to 10 Rate experiences and relationships on a 1-10 scale 7 to 10 “good to great” Brings out the best in you. 4 to 6 “okay to good.” 1 to 3 “bad to okay” Brings out the worst in you. Purpose is to define and stay focused on building and maintaining “7 to 10” relationships and a “7 to 10” life.
Circles of Life Assessment Everything is interconnected Work and Personal Life Health: physical, mental/emotional, intellectual, spiritual Relationships: yourself, significant other, family and friends. Resources: time, financial, energy, and acquaintances. Play or “Fun” activities: hobbies (cooking…), classes, sports, travel…
Tools for Doing a “Big Picture” Reality Check Identify hidden opportunities Business development tool Killing two or more birds with one stone.
Know and Own Your Value Acknowledge and accept a confidence dip or bad feelings. Feeling good is a good thing and so is feeling bad. Refocus on positives and big picture Why I am fabulous Record testimonials and compliments Trust what your “golden network” says about you
Ideal Mate Profile Define you ideal mate Be specific and concise Write it down
Your Niche A specific group of people based on personal preference Location, age, sex, religion, personality type… Going from a niche to micro niche. Atlanta, 40-60, male, Jewish, outgoing… Decatur, 45-55, conservative, outgoing and intellectual…
Maximize Your Network Focus on your 7 to 10 relationships Helping, Giving and Caring Getting involved and leadership role Especially when there is an opportunity to create a meaningful memory. Attend a wedding, retirement party, “big” birthday party Attend a funeral, hospital visit, acknowledge of a loss (job, loved one…)
Emotions Management Tools The power of the pause The power of the positive sandwich
Easy to Understand and Hard to Do Unexpected events Ongoing help and support Support groups, family and friends, workshops, classes… Hire a professional counselor Experience and expertise Ideal profile and niche