Help Keeping the Knot Tied III Marriage Ministry First Steps Extra-Marital Knots for Couples in Crisis by Rev. Brian and Maria Dixon Lakeland Baptist Association Kingdom Growth Conference – Parklawn Assembly of God Church May 14, 2010
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. ( 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 )
What Defines an Affair? (-By Psychologist Shirley Glass based on Northeastern University research)
Secrecy. Meeting someone without telling your spouse —because you have a hunch he or she wouldn’t be happy about it.
Emotional intimacy. Confiding things you haven’t told your spouse.
Sexual chemistry. You don’t even have to touch. “I had a wonderful dream about you last night” stokes sexual tension.
Infidelity and gender. When faced with an either-or question about which hurts more, women pick emotional infidelity and men pick sexual infidelity. But when asked instead to rate both on a pain scale of one to seven, the gender difference disappears. Both rate sexual infidelity as worse.
Below is a sample of the nineteen characteristics of platonic friendships that can get one in trouble after sustained stress
Do you save topics of conversation for your friend because you feel they understand you better?
Do you find yourself looking forward to seeing your friends more than you look forward to seeing your spouse?
Are you spending money on your friendship for lunches, gifts, coffee, that your spouse is unaware of?
Are you and your spouse in conflict over this friendship?
Do you find yourself lying and or manipulating the truth in order to spend more time with this friend?
Are you hiding receipts, cell phone bills, mail, gifts, and time spent with your friend from your spouse?
Has your friend shared feelings for you or touched you in a way that created a shiver of infatuation in you?
Do you do any of the following with this friend: travel, go to entertainment venues, drink alcohol, eat expensive meals, and return to the same hotel together, all in the name of doing business and entertaining clients?