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  1. 1. Welcome To: The Parent Project YOUR Guide to Changing Destructive Adolescent Behavior
  2. 2. Unit Three: Objectives <ul><li>Parents will be able to : </li></ul><ul><li>List the elements of active supervision </li></ul><ul><li>Identify possible sources of negative influences </li></ul><ul><li>Discuss the necessity of creating structure for children </li></ul><ul><li>Implement the Homework Assignment Sheet </li></ul>
  3. 3. Focusing Activity 3.1 <ul><li>Behaviors + </li></ul><ul><li>Behaviors – </li></ul>
  4. 4. Active Supervision <ul><li>WHO: </li></ul><ul><li>WHAT: </li></ul><ul><li>WHERE: </li></ul><ul><li>WHEN: </li></ul><ul><li>WHY: </li></ul>
  5. 5. Group Activity 3.2: The Party <ul><li>WHO: </li></ul><ul><li>WHAT: </li></ul><ul><li>WHERE: </li></ul><ul><li>WHEN: </li></ul><ul><li>WHY: </li></ul>
  6. 6. Trust is earned! Trust has nothing to do with Supervision.
  7. 7. Group Activity 3.3: Where Did He Learn That? <ul><li>Example: TV </li></ul>
  8. 8. Today’s Media & Technology <ul><li>Music </li></ul><ul><li>Cell Phones </li></ul><ul><li>TV’s </li></ul><ul><li>Computers/Internet </li></ul><ul><li>Video Games </li></ul>
  9. 9. Stay current with the rating of popular music, movies, and video games…. <ul><li>www.pluggedinmag.com </li></ul><ul><li>www.screenit.com </li></ul>
  10. 10. The Facts: <ul><li>35 million children on the internet </li></ul><ul><li>4.2 million pornographic web sites </li></ul><ul><li>29 thousand registered sex offenders have a My Space account </li></ul><ul><li>71% of parents stop monitoring children’s computer use at age 14 </li></ul><ul><li>72% of all Internet related missing children are 15 or older. </li></ul>
  11. 11. “ I don’t even have a My Space Account. My Space causes nothing but drama, trauma and chaos for teens.” 17 Year Old High School Senior, Mammoth Lakes, CA
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  13. 13. Well structured days may include: <ul><li>Prayer </li></ul><ul><li>School </li></ul><ul><li>Sports </li></ul><ul><li>Homework </li></ul><ul><li>Family </li></ul><ul><li>Friends </li></ul><ul><li>Chores </li></ul><ul><li>Free time </li></ul>
  14. 14. Group Activity 3.5: Lists <ul><li>Child’s List </li></ul><ul><li>Parent’s List </li></ul>
  15. 15. Parents Should: <ul><li>Respectfully communicate the request </li></ul><ul><li>Acknowledge success, or, if ignored, </li></ul><ul><li>Withhold Child’s List until task is completed </li></ul>
  16. 16. “ Take as much time as you need.” (a powerful statement!)
  17. 17. Group Activity 3.6: When Kids Fail <ul><li>Example: Loss of self esteem </li></ul>
  18. 18. Parents need three things to help children improve their grades <ul><li>Have the child complete a homework assignment sheet </li></ul><ul><li>Approve the homework when it is finished & acknowledge success </li></ul><ul><li>Control the things on the child’s list (pg. 37) until the homework is finished and has been approved by mom/dad. </li></ul>
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  20. 20. Group Activity 3.7: Problems 9
  21. 21. Group Activity 3.8: Finding Ways
  22. 22. Accountability + Motivation= Change
  23. 23. Group Activity 3.9: Excuses, Excuses <ul><li>Excuse/Reason </li></ul><ul><li>Consequence </li></ul>
  24. 24. Parents control things, not children
  25. 25. We change when we are tired of the way things are!
  26. 26. How long can your child go without the things on their list?
  27. 27. That is how long it will take them to begin the process of change.
  28. 28. Review Activity 3.10 <ul><li>Active supervision can be described by five simple words: Who, _______,Where,________and Why. </li></ul><ul><li>Parents should occasionally ___________on their children to ensure they are safe. </li></ul><ul><li>Parents need to stay alert for negative influences such as music lyric, _________, and ________ _________. </li></ul><ul><li>When parents discipline their children, they should take away ______________ on their child’s list for a ___________ period of time. </li></ul><ul><li>Parents need three things to ensure their child does his homework. </li></ul><ul><li>a. A ___________homework assignment sheet. </li></ul><ul><li>b. Parents need to ____________their child’s home work when it is completed </li></ul><ul><li>c. Parents need to _______________ their child’s list of activities until the home work is __________________. </li></ul><ul><li>short check everything What control completed When </li></ul><ul><li>finished approve Internet Video Games </li></ul>
  29. 29. Review Activity 3.10 <ul><li>Most powerful ideas learned from this Unit: </li></ul>
  30. 30. If you’re the only one who is frustrated with your child’s grades, you’re doing it wrong !
  31. 31. If your child is also frustrated, you’re doing it right!
  32. 32. Critical Family Concept: <ul><li>My kids need my active supervision. </li></ul>