ETIQUETTEIN MALAYSIAJAVANESE VS. HAN HOKKIEN CHINESEIN KUALA LUMPUR ETIQUETTE IN MALAYSIA JAVANESE VS. HAN HOKKIEN CHINESE IN KUALA LUMPUR BY MARCO DE GROEN BY MARCO DE GROEN
WHY? CONTENTThere are many etiquette in Asia. To keep things clear I decided to focuson one country. In this case that country is Malaysia, this because they JAVANESE HOKKIEN BOTHare a country with many different inhabitants. I chose to light out KualaLumpur because the capital is populated with more then 20 differentethnicities. The 2 biggest groups are Javanese and HAN Hokkien 1 GREETING SOMEONEChinese. Both groups are also still very religious which make theme hang PAGE 1 - 8on their etiquette even more. The difference in religion, ethnic, culture andetiquette makes theme both very interesting to light out. 2 EXCHANGING PAGE 9 - 12 KUALA LUMPUR 1.6 MILLION CITIZENS 243 KM2 3 ENTERING SOMEONE’S HOUSE PAGE 13 - 14 KUALA LUMPUR DEMOGRAPHICS 4 HAVING A MEAL TOGETHER PAGE 15 - 20 50% 48% 5 NORMAL MANNERS HAN HOKKIEN JAVANESE PAGE 21 - 24 CHRISTIAN MUSLIM 560.000 CITIZENS 550.000 CITIZENS 6 CONVERSATION HABITS 2% OTHER PAGE 25 - 30 490.000 CITIZENS
WARM GREETINGS “NI HAO” HOW TO SAY HELLO? Bow to say hello and goodbye say “ni hao”, and1 to be super polite ask if they have already eaten. 2 If they haven’t invite theme for a meal and you will make a great impression.Shake hands and bow both can. Bowing in general is a sigh of respect and humbleness. Many older Chinese lower their eyes during the greeting as a sign of respect. “HAVE YOU EAT ALREADY?”
“I GREET YOU FROM MY HEART”3 “SALAM” 4 LETS START SHAKING! HOW TO SHAKE HANDS? The traditional Javanese/Malay greeting or “salam“resembles a handshake, but with both hands outstretched and without the grasp. The man/woman offers both hands, lightly touches his friend’s hands, and then brings his hands back to his chest to mean, “I greet you from my heart”.
YOU CAN’T TOUCH THIS! TOUCHING SOMEONES SHOULDER? Do not tap people on the shoulder, also don’t touch theme in other way.This strongly applies to all Chinese in general, it is a big NO-NO to tap/touch someone on the shoulder. It is said that5 by touch/tapping one’s shoulder, you would put 6 “ONE OF THE out one of the 3 holy flames in the body. This will cause a lot of bad luck to that particular person. BIGGEST NO NO FOR CHINESE” “PUTTING OUT THE FLAMES WILL BRING BAD LUCK”
Never touch Javanese/Malay on their body or kiss theme in the face.The head is considered to be the home of the human soul.Only shake hands if they reach out for you to shake hands. The face is considered to be their proud part an cannot be touched or smudged by kissing theme.7 “DO NOT 8 TOUCH MY PRIDE” NOT MY HUMAN SOUL! THE FACE, A HOLY TEMPLE
“JAVANESE/MALAY WILL “BUSINESS CARDS ARE GIVEN GIVE THEIR CARD WITH WITH BOTH HANDS AND THUMBS UP, DO NOT DIRECTLY HIDE IT THEIR RIGHT HAND” AWAY, THIS IS RUDE”9 10 DO IT RIGHT THUMBS UP EXCHANGING BUSINESS CARD EXCHANGING BUSINESS CARD
11 12 “ACCEPT THINGS WITH BOTH HANDS, THIS TO SHOW YOU ARE FULLY INTERESTED AND DEDICATED” DO YOU REALLY WANT IT? HOW TO ACCEPT OBJECTS
“WHEN ENTERING SOMEONE’S HOUSE,YOU MUST TAKE THEM OFF” “DO NOT WEAR BLACK”13 14 Some colors have different meanings for Chinese, the most obvious being red which symbolizes prosperity/luck.This is important to take into account when publishing or design- SHOES OFF ing products. Black is a big taboo color. Don’t wear black especially full black during days like Chinese New Year, Birthdays and Weddings. PUT OFF YOU SHOES? COLOR MATCH WHAT COLOUR SHOULD YOU WEAR?
CHOPSTICK RULES Use the chopsticks well, don’t use theme as fork, and don’t stick both chopsticks in the meal! Chinese believe in the after life and by putting the chopsticks in the meal it will be like inviting the ghosts to eat your meal. HOW TO USE THEM?15 16 “A RITUAL OF INCENSE BURNING THAT SYMBOLIZES FEEDING THE DEAD AND DEATH IN GENERAL” Never place your chopsticks straight up in your bowl. By placing your sticks upright in your bowl “GHOST WILL EAT your will remind your host of joint sticks which is YOUR FOOD!” connected with death.
DON’T PAY THIS BILL! WHY NOT SHARE BILLS?17 18 “IT IS A SIGN OF RESPECT TO LET SOMEONE PAY THE BILL” Never ever share the bill while eating together, its a sign of respect to let someone pay the bill as long as you do it yourself the next time you have a meal. Chinese still practices this especially if you are going out for a meal with your boss or someone important.
FINISHED YOU MEAL? WHY LEAVE SOME FOOD?19 20 Cleaning your plate is fine but don’t clean the plate where the dishes are being serve on. Still it is a bit rude to finish everything. Leave a bit to show modesty. Also on certain day like Chinese New Year leaving a bit behind means you have extra to spare through out the year too. “IT IS OK TO LEAVE SOME FOOD BEHIND”
“NEVER PASS THINGS OVER “AVOID SAYING NO, IT IS THE HEAD OF PEOPLE IN RUDE AND SHOWS YOU ARE ASIA, IT IS REALLY RUDE NOT WILLING” AND BRINGS BAD LUCK”21 22 NO,NO,NO! PASS IT AVOID SAYING NO NEVER PASS OVER THE HEAD
RED LUCK “NEVER SHOW PEOPLE THE BOTTOM OF YOU FEET, IT IS AN INSULTING GESTURE” RED WRITING BAD LUCK?23 24 “NEVER WRITE A CHINESE PERSONS NAME IN RED COLOR,THIS WILL BRING BAD LUCK TO THE PERSON” BARE SOLES THE BOTTOM OF YOU FEET
“ASIANS WILL SMILE “DO NOT USE LARGE HAND WHEN EMBARRASSED. MOVEMENTS. CHINESE DO NOT SPEAK SMILE EMBARRASSMENT WITH THEIR HANDS. LARGE MOVEMENTS AWAY THEY SAY” COULD MEAN YOUR ANGRY OR PROVOCATING SOMEONE”25 26 SMILE! BIG MOVES EMBARRASSED? THEN SMILE! DON’T WAVE LIKE A HELICOPTER
“DO NOT USE YOUR FINGER “POINT WITH YOU THUMB INDEX TO POINT SOMEWHERE. AND FINGERS CLOSED TO IT IS CONSIDERED VERY RUDE” FORM A FIST.”27 28 DON’T POINT LIKE THAT HOW TO USE YOUR HANDS WHILE TALKING?
“HANDS IN YOUR “A LONG SILENCE IS ACCEPTABLE” POCKETS WHILE HAVING A TALK MEANS YOUR ANGRY”29 30 ANGRY? HANDS IN YOUR POCKETS Periods of silence are considered acceptable and are to be expected, especially after a question is asked. Avoid interrupting, showing displeasure through facial or eye movements and talking over someone. Be patient. SILENCE.... THINK FIRST, IT IS NORMAL