Are we basically meant to be “good” or “bad” as people? As we ponder the basic nature of humanity we may wonder whether it is better represented by the violence and cruelty we witness in our everyday lives or if there is something special about human nature that permits loving, considerate, and unselfish behaviour.
Love is not just liking someone in a greater quantity. It is a qualitatively different state. Love differs from like because it includes elements of passion, fascination exclusiveness, desire and intense caring. Two types of love are Passionate(romantic) love and companionate love.
Aggressively Prosocial Behaviour: Hurting to Help Others
Beatdowns, facesmashing and popping caps are just some of the examples of everyday violence and aggression. There are also many thoughtful and generous behaviours that suggest a more optimistic view of humankind. Think of things (g)you do everyday, like giving someone a cigarette or telling a friend that their pants make them look fat. These instances of helping are no less characteristic of human behaviour than distasteful but hilarious examples of aggression.
Getting in a bar fight is fine, turning someone’s lights out because
they broke your pencil is not okay.
Consider what is making you angry from the perspective of the other person. (OP: Oh man, I broke that pencil. Good thing it’s a tube of graphite and cheap wood, not something actually important.)
Minimize the importance of the situation. (Pencils are readily available. You can get another pencil. I have some in my bag, I will give you one.)
Fantasize about getting even – without acting on it. (Dream Sequence: OMG IM GOING TO STAB YOU TWICE! ONCE WITH EACH PIECE OF THE BROKEN PENCIL. Good. Now take a deep breath and see how ridiculous that is.
Relax – Take a few more breaths. Count to ten. Check out your new pencil, it’s totally sweeter and on the plus side, you aren't going to jail for stabbing someone with a broken pencil.
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