Writer's wednesday: the vulnerability of writing immensely social


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"We either own our stories (even the messy ones), or we stand outside of them- denying our vulnerabilities and imperfections, orphaning the parts of us that don’t fit in with who/what we think we are supposed to be, and hustling for other people’s approval on our worthiness." ~Brene Brown in Daring Greatly
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Writer's wednesday: the vulnerability of writing immensely social

  1. 1. Writer’s Wednesday: The Vulnerability of Writing Posted on August 28, 2013 0 Writers, Let Your Vulnerability Show Through… We either own our stories (even the messy ones), or we stand outside of them- denying our vulnerabilities and imperfections, orphaning the parts of us that don’t fit in with who/what we think we are supposed to be, and hustling for other people’s approval on our worthiness. ~Brene Brown in Daring Greatly I love Dr. Brown’s work, as it has been immensely needed for myself and my journey. I mentioned her first book The Gifts of Imperfection when I wrote my book, because I loved it so much. Dr. Brown dares to talk about the hard stuff. Any creator, writer, blogger, artist, etc. has to put some vulnerability on the line to get their vision out into the world. As Earnest Hemingway put it, There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed. Writing can be a scary and an intense process. It forces you to come to terms with who you are and what your heart speaks. As writers, we open ourselves to criticism in a way those of other professions rarely experience. We take something from deep inside and put it out into the world, like a newborn, with no idea of the reaction it will bring. No matter what anyone else says or thinks, to truly live our passion as writers, we must be brave, show up, and dare greatly… Immensely Social Resources for Writers, Bloggers, Social Media Enthusiasts, and Lovers of Life, Art, & Fun
  2. 2. It’s tempting, when wrestling with this decision of release, to put the heartfelt message aside and write a less gut wrenching post. I can’t judge you for doing that. Showing up is hard. But here is the thing…I’ve heard multiple writings and bloggers say that the post or prose that felt the closest to them, the one that was the scariest to share, is the one that brought the most fulfilling feedback. This is what I have often found to be true… People find it hard to show up themselves, but will respect your courage and vulnerability! I must admit, many times when I sit down to write, I think about the judgement. It is that bit of perfectionism in me. I think about the people that will judge the language I use, my point of view, my grammatical errors, etc., etc., etc., I think about all of that on occasion and then, thanks to Daring Greatly, I’m like “Who cares what they think, I’m in the arena!” I’m me, I’m showing up, I’m putting myself out there. Am I always my most authentic self in everything I write? Honestly, I would have to say no to that one. But, I’m working on it. I just came across this great quote by Katrina Monroe that says, Writing is like giving yourself homework, really hard homework, every day, for the rest of your life. You want glamorous? Throw glitter at the computer screen. I had to smile when I read that. The truth is, writing is rarely glamorous and often deep, messy, and
  3. 3. sometimes even painful. I believe that people don’t choose writing. Writing chooses people. We write for we have no other choice. It is something within, a fire, a drive that compels us forward. To write what matters, you must allow vulnerability. You must feel, you must brave the storms of judgement, you must get in the arena! It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly… Theodore Roosevelt Are you in? You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will. ~Stephen King Putting yourself out there in any form is scary and will likely always be so, but your growth and message are totally worth the risk. If one word, one piece of art, one video, one thought that you share, helps another on his or her path, isn’t that worth it? And remember this: Those who are judging you aren’t in the arena or they wouldn’t have time to do so. Let me know what you think in the comments below and share your favorite quotes about writing and daring greatly… May your writing be your sanity, your healing, and your happiness!
  4. 4. XOXO, Hil <3 For a bit more on that video and my experience with negative reviews, check out If You’re Not Getting Your Butt Kicked, I’m Not Interested This entry was posted in Writer's Wednesdays and tagged daring greatly, Dr. Brene Brown, vulnerability, writers, writing by Lori Hil. Bookmark the permalink [http://immenselysocial.com/writers-wednesday-vulnerability-writing/] . http://wibi.… CopyCopy