a normal inevitable and even healthy aspectof most relationships with friends, family, co-workersand even romantic partners.
Anger is a natural, healthy important emotionthat can lead to growth.
One key is knowing how to deal fairly with the issue at hand.
The very closeness and commitmentof a relationship (marriage)seems to lead inevitably to conflict – whether in small matters or major disputes.
COMMIT to readingLEARN about ways toimprove COMMUNICATION.
No yellingNo interruptingBe patient and persistent
The workplace, where we also invest so much of our lives,can also be a hotbed of negativity and conflict.Many people hate their jobs because of unpleasantco-workers more than because of the work itself.
Being RESPECTFUL isessential.Avoid name-calling and putdowns.Strive for mutualunderstanding by continuallyasking for clarification.
STUDY: 55% are estranged from at least one family member.
There is a high emotional price formaintaining a NON-RELATIONSHIP.Severed family ties cannot be replacedby lovers, children, friends or work. A part of your spirit remains buried. We must believe resolution is possible.
Committing to resolution,using establishedguidelines, will put us onthe path to healing.A willingness to forgive isvital to the process.
When we forgiveothers, we free not onlythem, but alsoourselves.This makes forgiving aform of healthyself-interest.
1. THINK through what you want to resolve.2. Don’t generalize. Avoid using accusatory words: You always… You never…3. Take time to cool off when necessary.
4. Try to remain calm and try not to attack during a conflict. Remember your goal is to seek a mutually satisfying outcome.5. Write down your concerns and share them in a letter.6. Don’t hesitate to turn to professional intervention when necessary.
Finding peace of mindbegins with forgiving yourselfand the people in your past.Forgiveness means letting goof the hurt, pain, anger, andfear that clutter your mind andharden your heart.
These unhelpfulnegative emotionskeep you frombeing the best you can be.They create doubts,not dreams.They break, not build.
When you are unable to findforgiveness, a dark cloudhovers over your life.The sun’s healing rays canonly shine through once theclouds part.Only love and the forgivenessyou find as a result of openingyour heart will part the cloudsand lift the burden of the past.
No wind or outside force willmagically erase the pain of thepast.Only faith, love, and forgivenesswill dull the pain of anyunpleasant memories stillharbored today.
To forgive unconditionally is to forgive all — yourself, parents, family, friends, old loves, bosses, co-workers, and others you have met along the way.Ask to be forgiven and, at the same time, forgive those who have hurt you.
Forgiveness unburdens your heart. A heavy heart knows no peace.Lighten your load and lift your spirits by not only asking for forgiveness,but also, and equally importantly, forgiving others for the hurt they may have caused you.
Forgiveness asks you to be big, to rise above the smallest of holding grudgesand harboring animosity, to be bigger than the hard-hearted ways of others, to be, in a sense, godly.
To forgive is divine. Forgive yourself. Forgive others.