Intimate Relationships and Communication Chapter Four
Developing Intimate Relationships <ul><li>Be willing to give of themselves </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Share their ideas, feelin...
Friendship <ul><li>Characteristics </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Companionship </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Respect </li></ul></ul><...
Love, Sex, and Intimacy <ul><li>Most basic and profound human emotions. </li></ul><ul><li>Encompasses opposites: </li></ul...
“ The Love Triangle” (Figure 4-1)
The Pleasure and Pain of Love <ul><li>Intense love has confused and tormented lovers though-out history </li></ul><ul><li>...
The Transformation of Love <ul><li>All relationships change over time. </li></ul><ul><li>At first, high levels of passion ...
Challenges in Relationships <ul><li>Honesty and Openness </li></ul><ul><li>Unequal or Premature commitment </li></ul><ul><...
Successful Relationships <ul><li>Realistic expectations </li></ul><ul><li>Mutual trust </li></ul><ul><li>Open communicatio...
Ending a Relationship <ul><li>Reasons why? </li></ul><ul><li>Guidelines of a breakup </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Fair chance </l...
Communication <ul><li>Nonverbal </li></ul><ul><ul><li>As much as 65% of face-to-face communication is nonverbal </li></ul>...
Conflict and  Conflict Resolution <ul><li>Conflict resolution skills are vital for maintaining intimate relationships. </l...
Pairing and Singlehood <ul><li>Choosing a Partner. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Similarities (to your own) </li></ul></ul><ul><ul...
Dating <ul><li>Different cultures have different rituals for finding a mate </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Centers on a mutually en...
Living Together <ul><li>Cohabitation </li></ul><ul><li>30 years old </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Half of all men and women have c...
Same-Sex Partnership <ul><li>Gay and Lesbian </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Sexual orientation </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Homosexua...
Singlehood <ul><li>Diverse group </li></ul><ul><li>180 million single individuals </li></ul><ul><li>Factors that contribut...
 
Marriage <ul><li>Benefits of Marriage </li></ul><ul><li>Issues of marriage </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Realistic expectations </...
Separation and Divorce <ul><li>High rates.. Why? </li></ul><ul><ul><li>50-55% chance of divorcing </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><...
Family Life <ul><li>Becoming a Parent </li></ul><ul><li>Preparation for parenthood </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Own stability and...
Parenting <ul><li>Parenting styles </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Authoritarian </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Authoritative </li></ul>...
Parenting and the Family Life Cycle <ul><li>Provide a balance of firm limits and clear structure </li></ul><ul><li>High le...
Single-parent Families <ul><li>Differences to a traditional family life cycle. </li></ul><ul><li>Difficulties experienced ...
Stepfamilies <ul><li>3 out of 4 women and 4 out of 5 men will remarry. </li></ul><ul><li>Should not be expected to duplica...
Qualities of Successful Families <ul><li>Commitment </li></ul><ul><li>Appreciation </li></ul><ul><li>Communication </li></...
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    1. 1. Intimate Relationships and Communication Chapter Four
    2. 2. Developing Intimate Relationships <ul><li>Be willing to give of themselves </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Share their ideas, feelings, time, and needs </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Self-Concept and Self-Esteem </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Feel good about ourselves </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Roots of our identity and self </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Developed during childhood </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Relationships with parents and other family members </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Gender roles </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Style of attachment </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Formulation of friendships </li></ul></ul></ul>
    3. 3. Friendship <ul><li>Characteristics </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Companionship </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Respect </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Acceptance </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Help </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Trust </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Loyalty </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Reciprocity </li></ul></ul>
    4. 4. Love, Sex, and Intimacy <ul><li>Most basic and profound human emotions. </li></ul><ul><li>Encompasses opposites: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Affection and anger </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Excitement and boredom </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Stability and change </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Bonds and freedom </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Love does not give us perfect happiness, but it does give our lives meaning. </li></ul><ul><li>Positive factors that draw people together </li></ul>
    5. 5. “ The Love Triangle” (Figure 4-1)
    6. 6. The Pleasure and Pain of Love <ul><li>Intense love has confused and tormented lovers though-out history </li></ul><ul><li>Passionate love </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Recognize the human emotions </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Two components: </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Physiological arousal </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Emotional explanation for the arousal </li></ul></ul></ul>
    7. 7. The Transformation of Love <ul><li>All relationships change over time. </li></ul><ul><li>At first, high levels of passion and increased intimacy </li></ul><ul><li>Reduction of romance and or passion leads to the transformation of deep love. </li></ul>
    8. 8. Challenges in Relationships <ul><li>Honesty and Openness </li></ul><ul><li>Unequal or Premature commitment </li></ul><ul><li>Unrealistic Expectations </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Expecting your partner to change </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Assuming </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Unsupported beliefs </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Competitiveness </li></ul><ul><li>Balance of Time together and apart </li></ul><ul><li>Jealousy </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Is not an element of love </li></ul></ul>
    9. 9. Successful Relationships <ul><li>Realistic expectations </li></ul><ul><li>Mutual trust </li></ul><ul><li>Open communication </li></ul><ul><li>Effective ways to resolve conflict </li></ul><ul><li>Ask for and give support </li></ul><ul><li>Agreement on religious/ethical values </li></ul><ul><li>Equal roles </li></ul><ul><li>Balance of individual and joint interests </li></ul><ul><li>Take Charge Box </li></ul><ul><ul><li>“ Strategies For Enhancing Support in Relationships” </li></ul></ul>
    10. 10. Ending a Relationship <ul><li>Reasons why? </li></ul><ul><li>Guidelines of a breakup </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Fair chance </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Be fair and honest </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Be tactful and compassionate </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>If you are the rejected person, make time for resolving your anger and pain </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Recognize the value of the experience </li></ul></ul>
    11. 11. Communication <ul><li>Nonverbal </li></ul><ul><ul><li>As much as 65% of face-to-face communication is nonverbal </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Ability to interpret nonverbal messages </li></ul><ul><li>Communication skills </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Self-disclosure </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Listening </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Feedback is a constructive response </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Gender differences in communication </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Men </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Establishing dominance/competitive </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Men talk more/listen less </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Women Establishing friendships </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Seeking advice </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Obtaining cues from listening and eye contact </li></ul></ul></ul>
    12. 12. Conflict and Conflict Resolution <ul><li>Conflict resolution skills are vital for maintaining intimate relationships. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Clarify the issue. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Find out what each person wants. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Identify various alternatives. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Decide how to negotiate. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Solidify the agreements. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Review and renegotiate. </li></ul></ul>
    13. 13. Pairing and Singlehood <ul><li>Choosing a Partner. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Similarities (to your own) </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Ethnic and socioeconomic background, educational level, lifestyle, physical attractiveness, and other traits. </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>First attraction – observable characteristics </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Communication. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Acceptance. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Most important question – How much do we have in common? </li></ul></ul>
    14. 14. Dating <ul><li>Different cultures have different rituals for finding a mate </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Centers on a mutually enjoyable activity </li></ul></ul><ul><li>American Culture </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Getting to know each other </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Traditional male-female dating pattern </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Dating of young people “Today” </li></ul></ul>
    15. 15. Living Together <ul><li>Cohabitation </li></ul><ul><li>30 years old </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Half of all men and women have cohabited. </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Factors of acceptance </li></ul><ul><li>Rarely continues indefinitely </li></ul><ul><li>Advantages </li></ul><ul><li>Liabilities </li></ul>
    16. 16. Same-Sex Partnership <ul><li>Gay and Lesbian </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Sexual orientation </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Homosexual relationships in relation to heterosexual relationships </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Traditional gender roles </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Societal attitudes </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Same-sex marriage </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Civil rights </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>“Homophobia” </li></ul></ul></ul>
    17. 17. Singlehood <ul><li>Diverse group </li></ul><ul><li>180 million single individuals </li></ul><ul><li>Factors that contribute to a growing number </li></ul><ul><li>Advantages </li></ul><ul><li>Disadvantages </li></ul><ul><li>Enjoyment depends upon: </li></ul>
    18. 19. Marriage <ul><li>Benefits of Marriage </li></ul><ul><li>Issues of marriage </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Realistic expectations </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Feels good about the personality of their mate </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Communication </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Conflict resolution </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Religious and ethical values </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Egalitarian role </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Good balance of individual and joint interests </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Role of Commitment </li></ul>
    19. 20. Separation and Divorce <ul><li>High rates.. Why? </li></ul><ul><ul><li>50-55% chance of divorcing </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Process of Divorce. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Emotional separation - First step </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Physical separation </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Greatest stress producing event next to the death of a spouse or family member </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Recovery from divorce. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Remarriage. </li></ul></ul>
    20. 21. Family Life <ul><li>Becoming a Parent </li></ul><ul><li>Preparation for parenthood </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Own stability and readiness to be a parent </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Physical health </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Teenage parenting </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Over the age of 35 </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Nutritional habits </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Genetics </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Financial </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Considered educational and career plans </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Emotionally ready </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Social support </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Attitudes and aptitudes </li></ul></ul>
    21. 22. Parenting <ul><li>Parenting styles </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Authoritarian </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Authoritative </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Permissive (or indulgent) </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Uninvolved </li></ul></ul>
    22. 23. Parenting and the Family Life Cycle <ul><li>Provide a balance of firm limits and clear structure </li></ul><ul><li>High levels of: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Warmth </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Nurturance </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Respect </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Grow of independence </li></ul></ul>
    23. 24. Single-parent Families <ul><li>Differences to a traditional family life cycle. </li></ul><ul><li>Difficulties experienced as a single parent. </li></ul><ul><li>Single Fatherhood. </li></ul><ul><li>Children from single-parent families. </li></ul>
    24. 25. Stepfamilies <ul><li>3 out of 4 women and 4 out of 5 men will remarry. </li></ul><ul><li>Should not be expected to duplicate the emotions and relationships of an intact family. </li></ul><ul><li>Healthy stepfamilies are less cohesive and more adaptable than healthy intact families. Allow for more individual differences. </li></ul><ul><li>More of a history they have the more of a family unit is built. </li></ul>
    25. 26. Qualities of Successful Families <ul><li>Commitment </li></ul><ul><li>Appreciation </li></ul><ul><li>Communication </li></ul><ul><li>Time together </li></ul><ul><li>Spiritual wellness </li></ul><ul><li>Coping with stress and crisis </li></ul>
    26. 27. Intimate Relationships and Communication Chapter Four
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