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  1. 1. Welcome to Alpha Leader Training!Introductions •Name •Church •What Alpha means to me •IcebreakerBe succinct – or we’ll be here till nextweek!
  2. 2. What is the Purpose of Alpha?Ultimate Purpose Everyone come to know Jesus
  3. 3. What is the Purpose of Alpha? Goal Gently,persuasively, caringly, sensitively,respectfully to listen andto love them
  4. 4. What is the vision of Alpha? To make disciples of Jesus from all walks of life to transform society one life, one church, onecommunity at a time.
  5. 5. What is the mission of Alpha?To supportthe local churchin its callto make disciplesof Jesus anddeepen relationships with Jesus and otherChristians by providing the tool of the Alphacourse.
  6. 6. Alpha HistoryBegan in England in 1976 in the living room of a clergyman of the Anglican Church
  7. 7. Alpha History • Most of its current form was developed by Nicky Gumbel, an Anglican priest at Holy Trinity Brompton in England • At HTB, more than 500 people participate in each of three courses held during the year
  8. 8. Alpha HistoryThe Alpha course isworldwide• 44,365 courses• 163 Countries• Over 13 Million Attendees• 72 languages – 5 major translations• 127 denominations
  9. 9. Alpha stands for…Anyone can come
  10. 10. Alpha stands for…Learning and laughter
  11. 11. Alpha stands for…Pasta
  12. 12. Alpha stands for…Helping one another
  13. 13. Alpha stands for…Ask anything
  14. 14. AlphaTrust the Alpha recipe!There is a reason for everything!
  15. 15. Alpha ScheduleIntroductory Dinner - Alpha #6 ―How Does God―Christianity: Boring, Untrue & Guide Us?‖Irrelevant?‖ – soon to be - ‖IsThere More to Life than This?‖ Weekend/Day AwayAlpha #1 ―Who is Jesus?‖ Alpha #7 ―How Can I Resist Evil?‖Alpha #2 ―Why Did Jesus Die?‖ Alpha #8 ―Why and HowAlpha #3 ―How Can I Be Sure Should We Tell Others?‖of My Faith?‖ Alpha #9 ―Does God HealAlpha #4 ―Why and How Do I Today?‖Pray?‖ Alpha #10 ―What About theAlpha #5 ―Why and How Should Church?‖I Read the Bible?‖ Celebration Supper
  16. 16. Alpha Small GroupsTable leaders are servant leaders - not self-serving leaders! – not teachers! Those attending are guests.
  17. 17. Alpha Small GroupsThe small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpha’s success across the world
  18. 18. Alpha Small Groups Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics) The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course
  19. 19. Alpha PrinciplesWhen I came to you, brothers, I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God. For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified. I came to you in weakness and fear, and with much trembling. My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words, but with a demonstration of the Spirit’s power, so that your faith might not rest on men’s wisdom, but on God’s power. 1 Corinthians 2:1-5
  20. 20. Expectations for Team• Continue to develop personal faith• Focus on Guests• Communicate with prayer partners and leaders• Prayer
  21. 21. Remember:It’s not about us. It’s about Him!!
  22. 22. Team TrainingBe fully present for Guests• Develop a community of trust and honest sharing• Create an atmosphere of comfort and confidentially
  23. 23. Table Leaders Heart of AlphaShould have:1. Faith in Christ – committed Christians2. Strong relational skills
  24. 24. Table Helpers• Potential leaders • Perhaps returning guests
  25. 25. Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up2 Leaders2 Helpers8 Guests
  26. 26. Aims of Small Group LeadersDiscussionYou are the host. They are your guests. Treat them as such.• Non-judgmental• Respectful• Honest• Authentic• Genuine
  27. 27. Aims of Small Group Leaders• Practical details• Common errors – weak leadership – too dominate leadership• Ask simple questions – What do you think? – What do you feel?• Be prepared for common questions
  28. 28. Aims of Small Group LeadersLeader is a referee anddoes not take sidesin discussions.There to ensure fair play.
  29. 29. Important to set up group expectations1. No question or subject is off-limits.2. Respect everyone.3. One person talks at a time.4. Be honest.5. What is said at table, stays at table.
  30. 30. Aims of Small Group LeadersThere to draw out thoughts, feelings, and ideas.Get Searching Issues and read it.
  31. 31. Aims of Small Group LeadersModel Bible study1. Only when the most reluctant person is ready2. Start with questions3. Prepare carefully4. Have group read Bible passage1. Give short introduction2. Get people talking3. Encourage everyone4. DON’T be like school!!!5. Pitch low
  32. 32. Aims of Small Group Leaders Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ Get to know each person well. Key – 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships.
  33. 33. Aims of Small Group Leaders Learn to minister to one another
  34. 34. Aims of Small Group LeadersTrain others to lead
  35. 35. Aims of Small Group LeadersShow skit.
  36. 36. Pastoral CareSummary of Alpha: LOVE!!1.God loves you – message of the Bible2.We love God – 1st commandment3.Love others – 2nd commandment Heart of Christianity
  37. 37. Aim of Pastoral Care• Love who God sends us• Lifelong process to personal spiritual maturity• Don’t hurry the process.• Small groups and relationships are KEY!!
  38. 38. Aim of Pastoral Care Be patient. Lots is going on. • Hearing the gospel. • Seeing Jesus Christ in your lives. • Experience Jesus Christ. • Experiencing Christian community. • Not just onerelationship.
  39. 39. Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests opportunities• Encourage growth in: • To study • To pray • Personal relationship with Christ • Relationships within the Body of Christ
  40. 40. Alpha General AttitudesBe an encourager• 1 Thessalonians 5:11 • Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. Understanding Affirmation Validation Appreciation Acceptance
  41. 41. Alpha General AttitudesBe a listener• James 1:19 • My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. No religious conversation during meals. Draw them out.
  42. 42. Alpha General AttitudesBe a listener• Listening empowers people.• Opinions are valued.• Gives dignity.
  43. 43. Alpha General AttitudesBe a peacemaker• Matthew 5:9 • Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.
  44. 44. Alpha General Attitudes Don’t argue. Diffuse arguments between guests. Validate points made by each. No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort.
  45. 45. Alpha CommitmentColossians 1:29 To this end I labor, struggling with all his energy, which so powerfully works in me.
  46. 46. Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility: Prayer Overcoming tiredness Hard work Loving everyone Effort Overcoming disappointment Late nights Concentrating on guests
  47. 47. Alpha Commitment •God’s Grace •Allow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments.
  48. 48. Alpha CommitmentAsk for the Holy Spirit to be present.Be ready to serve.
  49. 49. Some Listening Facts•We caneffectively hear125-250 wordsper min.•We caneffectively think1,000-3,000words per min.
  50. 50. Some Listening Facts•85% of what welearn is bylistening•45% of our day isspent listening•75% amount oftime preoccupied,distracted orforgetful
  51. 51. What does the Bible say about listening?Proverbs 18:13 He who answers beforelistening— that is his folly andhis shame.
  52. 52. What does the Bible say about listening?James 1:19 My dear brothers, takenote of this: Everyone shouldbe quick to listen, slow tospeak and slow to becomeangry,
  53. 53. What does the Bible say about listening?Proverbs 18:2 A fool finds no pleasure inunderstanding but delights in airing hisown opinions.
  54. 54. Invisible BarriersJumping to Conclusionsor Causes•Shuts down communication•Tell someone their motive•Make judgment about their relationship with Jesus
  55. 55. Invisible BarriersJumping toConclusions orCauses•Judging can makeguest frustratedand decide to notreturn•Guests don’t feelvalued
  56. 56. Invisible BarriersImpatience•Fidgeting•Interrupting•Finishing sentences•Guests don’t feel valued
  57. 57. Invisible BarriersHot Buttons•Cause emotionalresponses. •If they hit a hot button for me and I respond, it becomes about me.
  58. 58. Invisible BarriersHot Buttons•Focus shouldbe on guests.•Think soccerball.
  59. 59. Invisible Barriers Anxiety •Allows focus to shift to us again! •We worry about: •Questions we don’t know the answer to •Asking good questions •Domination •Dead air
  60. 60. Invisible BarriersDefensiveness•We becomepreachy andargumentative
  61. 61. Invisible BarriersDefensiveness•Key •Breath slow long and deep •Talk to self – NOT ABOUT ME! •Need to know what to say to them
  62. 62. Invisible BarriersInsensitivity•Must be aware of thefeelings of others•Must not ignore anysharing•Pay attention to themessage we are sending•Focus on us or guest?
  63. 63. Oswald Chambers said:We often represent Jesus ina spirit that is not his. Weharm Him by our advocacy forHim.
  64. 64. Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel?
  65. 65. Alpha Guest on First NightWhat are they looking for?
  66. 66. Greatest Gift•Listening ear, eyecontact, and goodbody language.•It gives themvalue.•Allows for sharing•Gives a place forJesus Christ totouch them.
  67. 67. Communication PieWhat you say 7%Tone of voice 38%Body Language 55%
  68. 68. 5 Keys to CommunicatingS ervant attitude
  69. 69. 5 Keys to CommunicatingE ye contact
  70. 70. 5 Keys to CommunicatingR elaxed posture
  71. 71. 5 Keys to CommunicatingV aluing differences
  72. 72. 5 Keys to CommunicatingE mbody Jesus’s love – Love them thru me
  73. 73. 5 Keys to CommunicatingS ervant attitudeE ye contactR elaxed postureV aluing differencesE mbody Jesus’s love – Love them thru me
  74. 74. If We Listen Effectively•Realize that the first thing out of ourmouth isn’t want they want to talk about.•Must make them feel safe.•Validate their feelings.•Understand.•Allow them to share at the deepest level.
  75. 75. Feeling Chart Nonverbal WarmthRemember: Also Consider:S – Sensitive Seating T – TouchO – Openness E – EnvironmentL – Leaning A – Accommodating AttitudeA – Appropriate eye contactR - Relax
  76. 76. Questions•Not a sales pitch•Not memorized set of questions•Putting caring for them intowords.
  77. 77. Basic Reflective Listening FormulaTentative Opening + Feeling + About/Because/When + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad aboutI hear you saying that you feel sad because ofIf I hear you correctly you feel glad whenYou seem to be saying you feel afraid aboutI think I hear you saying you feel confused because ofI’m not sure I am follow you feel ashamed aboutAm I hearing you say you feel lonely when
  78. 78. Basic Reflective Listening•Careful not to give advice.•Practice with others figuring out what they arereally saying.•Not being manipulative – just trying tounderstand•Hearing and understanding leads to compassion.•Compassion keeps us from trying to be rightand lets us sit with them.
  79. 79. Characteristics of Wondering Questions1. Non-threatening • No right or wrong • Only opinions
  80. 80. Characteristics of Wondering Questions2. Communicates humility3. Allows people to discoverthe truth for themselves • Caring for someone with no ulterior motive
  81. 81. Characteristics of Wondering Questions4. Causes people to ask questions • We are all seekers • Must listen first – but discern what people are wondering about
  82. 82. Characteristics of Wondering Questions4. Causes people to ask questions • Initiate a wondering dialogue – be curious about them • Search for underlying questions • Think Columbo
  83. 83. When they ask the hard question•Try to find out the underlying question•Don’t debate – that comes fromemotional base•Stay away from theology•―I was wondering why that question &why that question right now?‖
  84. 84. When they ask the hard question•Important to decide when & if to sendthe question back to the table.•End with ―I wonder if you can continueto participate in the course and if youdon’t find the answers you seek, we’lltalk.‖•Write the question down so they knowyou won’t forget to get back to it.
  85. 85. When they ask the hard questionYou have the privilege of meeting peoplewhere they are worried.That is the place where they long tomeet Jesus
  86. 86. It’s a Process• Conversion Process (Vision New England)• 86% of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time.• 32% over several months to a year• 54% journey to salvation took place over several years• 14% one point conversion ―Vision New England Recent Convert Study‖, Jan. 2007, Vision New England, Acton, Main.
  87. 87. Where are they on the path?Makes a differencein how we approach
  88. 88. The better we listen the better we can serve.
  89. 89. Knowing where someone ison their path can help us minister to them.
  90. 90. Distrust to Trust Self-righteous
  91. 91. Distrust to Trust Judgmental
  92. 92. Distrust to Trust Believe in fairy tales
  93. 93. Distrust to Trust Narrow minded
  94. 94. Distrust to Trust Naive
  95. 95. Distrust to Trust Think they are better than me
  96. 96. Distrust to Trust Have an agenda
  97. 97. Distrust to Trust Watch out!
  98. 98. Distrust to Trust Evangelists
  99. 99. Distrust to Trust Starting not on even playing field, but in a hole
  100. 100. Distrust to Trust Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the most precious gifts of life.
  101. 101. Distrust to Trust Coming to faith gains traction when trust isestablished.
  102. 102. Distrust to Trust Relationships,genuine friendships are currency
  103. 103. Without trust Lostness can feel like wise skepticism
  104. 104. Without trust No trust – no belief
  105. 105. Happened to Paul, too!Acts 17:18A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers began todebate with him. Some of them asked, ―What is thisbabbler trying to say?‖ Others remarked, ―He seems to beadvocating foreign gods.‖ They said this because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the resurrection.Philippians 2:6Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equalitywith God something to be used to his own advantage;
  106. 106. Jesus Built Trust, Too Jesus didn’t come and preach from on high, but to work along side us.
  107. 107. Jesus didn’t come and preach from on highto become friends and build trust.
  108. 108. Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  109. 109. 1. Pray
  110. 110. Intercede for them
  111. 111. Help me to see them as You do, God.
  112. 112. Feelingdefensive – pray!!
  113. 113. Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2. Learn
  114. 114. When they don’t trustus, we must choose tolearn about them.
  115. 115. Understand world from theirperspective
  116. 116. Sympathize with them
  117. 117. Learn about their distrust
  118. 118. Mark 5– story ofbleeding woman
  119. 119. Listen totheir whole story
  120. 120. Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3. Bond
  121. 121. When they don’t trust us, we must choose to bond with them.
  122. 122. Jesus came to liveamong usand share our lives
  123. 123. Share
  124. 124. Best tool – time
  125. 125. Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4. Affirm
  126. 126. When they don’t trust us,we must find something to affirm.
  127. 127. Not blind andindiscriminate affirmationof everything
  128. 128. Look for real good and affirm it
  129. 129. Acts 17 – to Athenians practicingidol worship
  130. 130. AffirmHow does Paul react?Acts 17:22Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said: ―People of Athens! I see that in every way you are very religious.
  131. 131. We fear affirming sinso we say nothing.
  132. 132. Find the positive aspect
  133. 133. Aloofness can come across as judgment
  134. 134. Build trust
  135. 135. Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5. Welcome
  136. 136. When they don’t trust us, we must assure them they are welcome.
  137. 137. John 1―Come and see.‖
  138. 138. Open the arms ofhospitality
  139. 139. Be Authentic
  140. 140. People can smell afake a mile away!
  141. 141. Become astudent of people
  142. 142. Practice giving your heart away
  143. 143. Antidotes to Christian Clichés
  144. 144. Pray • Not tell people you are praying for them. • Be like Nike –
  145. 145. Listen more Talk less
  146. 146. Stop trying to fix everything. • I love WD-40 and duct tape, too. But . . . • Listen • Just be present while they wrestle, grieve and reflect
  147. 147. See yourself in the ―Other‖• Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people, but to love them.
  148. 148. Quality over quantity• Invest time in people!• Not drive-by evangelism.
  149. 149. Share generously of yourself• Be willing to be vulnerable.• Share your story when appropriate.
  150. 150. Be open to the possibility that you’re wrong• Everyone’s faith is evolving• The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed.• Be open. Your guest could teach you something!
  151. 151. Apologize• A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians.• Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt.
  152. 152. Own your love• Saying, ―God loves you‖ or ―Jesus loves you‖ can feel impersonal.• Why not ―I love you‖?• But only if true.• ―You are loved.‖
  153. 153. Make sure your life reflects your faith• Don’t validate belief that Christians are hypocrites.• Don’t write a check with your mouth that your life can’t cash.
  154. 154. Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions• Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels• Answered only 3• Answered 307 questions with another question
  155. 155. Jesusdidn’t have Q & A sessions. He has Q & Q sessions!
  156. 156. Think about the box that the world puts―nice Christians‖ in
  157. 157. Be a catalyst of curiosity
  158. 158. Point the way
  159. 159. Choosingto change scary and difficult
  160. 160. Mark 10
  161. 161. Need to see the world in a whole new way
  162. 162. May haveto deal with issues that have been ignored for years
  163. 163. Can open a beautiful door, but can feel horrific
  164. 164. Be Patient as theJourney Unfolds
  165. 165. Need to know you are their friend.
  166. 166. Patience gives the gift ofspace andpermissionto explore
  167. 167. Let’s review . . .
  168. 168. 1. Unprepared Leaders: Toprepare for discussion times, TLand ATL can use:A. Their BibleB. Searching IssuesC. Prayer and the Holy SpiritD. Jay Leno’s monologuesE. ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D
  169. 169. 2. Allowing a Guest to Dominate: Toprevent a guest from talking toomuch:A. Gently redirect conversation.B. Offer to talk or pray with them later.C. Privately thank them for sharing andask them to help you draw others out.D. Use plenty of duct tape.E. ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D
  170. 170. 3. Letting discussion get off track: To prevent digressions:A. Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions.B. Refer back to the talk’s topicC. Offer to talk more about a guest’s concerns later on - during the break, if necessary.D. Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary.E. ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D
  171. 171. 4. Forgetting the Basics: Don’tforget to begin small groupdiscussions with:A. “What do you think?”B. “What do you feel?”C. Allowing the Spirit to move!D. Sumo wrestling.E. ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D
  172. 172. 5. Allowing ―bashing‖ or hurtfulcomments: If guests begin bashingother denominations, lifestyles,beliefs, etc.:A. Speak privately to them if you need to.B. Rely on ALT to steer the group back toproductive talk.C. Be peacemakers and pray for the“dividers.”D. Send them to the principal’s office.E. ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D
  173. 173. 6. PREACHING & TEACHING: Thisone is huge! Leaders should:A. Let the speakers, clergy and theHoly Spirit do the teaching.B. Guard the small group time so allGuests can share and participate.C. Lay down their pride and be willingto look “stupid” if necessary.D. Keep your sermons to the first 45minutes of group time.E. ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D
  174. 174. I Corinthians 1: 26-31Brothers, think of what you were when you were called. Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not – to nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before him. It is because of him that you are in Christ, Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God – that is, our righteousness, holiness, redemption. Therefore as it is written: ―Let him who boasts boast in the Lord.‖
  175. 175. 1 Peter 4:8-11Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.
  176. 176. Handouts Available• Prayer suggestions• Reminders for Leaders and Helpers• Common Small Group problems and possible solutions• Tips for overcoming challenging situations• Reflective Listening tips• Listening Skills tips, practice & self- evaluation• Training reviews
  177. 177. To get access to Lisa’s training materials:Send Lisa an email requesting thematerials. She will share a folder ofAlpha training materialselectronically. Feel free to downloadthem and modify to meet the Alphaneeds at your