The Human Person:Sexuality, Marriage, & the Family Liza Manalo, MD, MSc.
THE DIGNITY OF THE HUMAN PERSON• Rooted in his creation in the image and likeness of God (CCC, 1700).• God, in a plan of sheer goodness, freely created man to make him share in His own blessed life.• For this reason, at every time and in every place, God draws close to man. He calls man to seek him, to know him, to love him with all his strength. (CCC, prologue I.1.)
Dignity of Man• Man is called to communion with God.• This invitation to converse with God is addressed to man as soon as he comes into being.• For if man exists, it is because God has created him through love, and through love continues to hold him in existence.• Man cannot live fully according to truth unless he freely acknowledges that love and entrusts himself to his Creator. • Vatican Council II, GS 19 § 1.
The Trinity and the DivineFamily• “God in His deepest mystery, is not a solitude but a family, since He has in Himself fatherhood, sonship and the essence of the family which is love (John Paul II, 1979).1. God is family—not like a family2. Highest mystery of faith: Trinity, the Divine Family3. Earthly families are like the Trinity4. Reveals essence of family = love
Man‟s creation and vocation• “Then God said, „Let us make man in our image, after our likeness;• So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.• And God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply. . .’ (Genesis 1:26–28).
Man & Woman‟s Vocationto Love and Communion• "God is love, and in Himself, He lives a mystery of personal loving communion.• Creating the human race in His own image . . .. God inscribed in the humanity of man and woman the vocation, and thus the capacity and responsibility, of love and communion.“ – Familiaris consortio 11
“Humanity images God inthe family.”• “[God] willed man and woman to be the prime community of persons, source of every other community, and, at the same time, to be a „sign‟ of that interpersonal communion of love which constitutes the mystical, intimate life of God, One in Three.” - John Paul II • Letter to Families, 6 • Christifideles Laici, 52
Three Levels of LOVE• Agape, philia and eros refer to three levels of love - which could correspond to man‟s spirit, soul and body.• The third- which speaks of the highest level of love - is agape. – This is the love of God imparted to us by the Holy Spirit (Rom. 5:5).• This word has primary reference in marriage to the union of the spirit of one with that of the other.• It is a self-giving love - the love of Calvary‟s cross. Zac Poonen (1971)
Agapan (agape)• Means, "to value, to have a concern for, to delight in and to be faithful to"• In reference to the love that should exist between a husband and wife, this would mean that – each partner should value the other as of infinite worth; – they should have a concern for each other; – they should delight and rejoice in each other; – and they should be faithful to one another. Zac Poonen (1971)
TWO SHALL BECOME ONE• God made man alone first; and it is significant to note that He Who considered everything He created up to the first half of the sixth day as "good", (note the repetition of "God saw that it was good" six times in Genesis 1:4-26), now states that it is "not good" for man to be alone (Gen. 2:18).• As the poet John Milton (17th c.) said, "Loneliness was the first thing which God‟s eye named not good". Zac Poonen (1971)
TWO SHALL BECOME ONE• God then proceeds to make the woman, to be Adam‟s wife and helper. After this is done, He now looks at His creation and uses the superlative "very good" to describe what He now sees (Gen.1:31).• A married couple made all that difference to God‟s creation! Zac Poonen (1971)
Purpose of marriage (1) Companionship• God wanted Adam and Eve to live in constant recognition of their need of each other, and together recognize their dependence upon Him. Each of them was to live for the other, and both were to live for God.• God intended them to be spiritually strong through such a fellowship. Zac Poonen (1971)
Purpose of marriage (2) Procreation of Children and Establishment of a home• In Genesis 1:28, we see God‟s first words to this newly-married couple: – “They were to be fruitful.”• The procreation of children and the establishment of a home was another reason why God instituted marriage.• The sexual function was created by God primarily for this purpose. Zac Poonen (1971)
Purpose of marriage (2) Procreation of Children and Establishment of a home• The Bible places great emphasis on the home as a center of Divine worship and service.• The ordering of a home under the headship of God is a thing that brings much glory to Him. Zac Poonen (1971)
Purpose of marriage (2) Procreation of Children and Establishment of a home• God gives couples children not only to gladden their hearts but also that couples might bring the children up in His fear, so that the children can be faithful witnesses to Him in their generation.• This is stressed again and again in the Scriptures (Psa. 78:5-7). Zac Poonen (1971)
Purpose of marriage (2) Procreation of Children and Establishment of a home• To build a home that glorifies God and testifies to His faithfulness and His care is the calling of every Christian married couple.• The establishment of a home that glorifies God is undoubtedly one of the prime purposes of marriage. Zac Poonen (1971)
Purpose of marriage(3) Sexual fulfillment• The command to be fruitful (in Genesis 1:28) carried with it the implication that Adam and Eve were to have sexual union.• Marriage is the God-ordained means by which man and woman can find complete fulfillment of their sexual desires. Zac Poonen (1971)
Purpose of marriage(3) Sexual fulfillment• Sexual fulfillment in marriage involves far more than just physical satisfaction and pleasure. – If that was all there was to it, then man would be no better than an animal.• The physical aspect of sex is not despised in the Bible.• Sex as created by God is sacred and pure. Zac Poonen (1971)
Purpose of marriage (3) Sexual fulfillment• The sexual union of husband and wife must always be the symbolic climax and expression of a far deeper union that already exists between them in their inner selves. – It should be the physical expression of the agape-love that they have for one another. Zac Poonen (1971)
Purpose of marriage(3) Sexual fulfillment• The marriage-bed must be a sacred altar on which the husband and the wife, through sexual union, express their desire to give themselves in sacrificial service, each for the other, in every department of their life together. Zac Poonen (1971)
Symbolism of Marriage• One of the most glorious revelations of Scripture is that the husband-wife relationship is symbolic of the relationship that exists between Christ and the Church (Eph. 5:22-23). Zac Poonen (1971)
CONTRACEPTION:„A Lie in the Language of Love‟ EXCERPTED FROM SWEAR TO GOD: THE PROMISE AND POWER OF THE SACRAMENTS Reference: First Comes Love, 2006 By: Scott Hahn
Married love is a reflection of God‟s love• If married love is a sacramental sign of Gods love for His people-as both Old & New Testaments of the Bible testify-then the act itself must accurately reflect that love.• It must be faithful, monogamous, indissoluble, and fruitful.• This is the foundation of all traditional Christian sexual morality, though it will surely come as a surprise to many Christians today.
History of Artificial Contraceptives • Until 1930, Christian churches-without exception-condemned contraception in the strongest terms. • The Protestant reformers– Martin Luther, John Calvin, John Wesley, and all the rest – went so far as to call it "murder.“ • The anti-contraception laws-which were on the books in many states in the U.S. until the 1960s-were largely the work of evangelical Protestant legislators. • At present, only the Catholic Church continues to oppose RH bills promoting contraception.
Contraception:“A Lie in the Language of Love”• Pope John Paul II has rightly called contraception "a lie in the language of love:“• Sex, according to Catholic faith, should be an oath in action, a complete gift of self, an embrace in which a man and a woman hold nothing back from one another.
The Marriage Covenant• Marriage is a covenant, involving an exchange of persons.• Every covenant has an act whereby the covenant is enacted and renewed; and the marital act (sex) is a covenant act.• When the marriage covenant is renewed, God uses it to give new life. – Kippley, Sex and the Marriage Covenant
Life-giving Love inMarriage• The marital act (sex) demonstrates the powerful life-giving love of the covenant in a unique way.• All the other covenants show God‟s love and transmit God‟s love, but it is only in the marital covenant that the love is so real and powerful that it communicates life. – Kippley, Sex and the Marriage Covenant
Contraception: A Lie in the Language of Love• The innate language that expresses the total reciprocal self-giving of husband and wife is overlaid, through contraception, by an objectively contradictory language, namely, that of not giving oneself totally to the other.• This leads not only to a positive refusal to be open to life but also to a falsification of the inner truth of conjugal love, which is called upon to give itself in personal totality. - Familiaris Consortio 32.
Sex and Christian Morals• Sex, for a Christian, is a gift of an entire life, and so it belongs only in a lifelong, exclusive marriage.• Sex, for a Christian, is a covenant exchange, an exchange of persons: "I am yours, and you are mine."• Marriage is what makes sex sacramental and covenantal.
Sex and Christian Morals• The total gift of self rules out the possibility of divorce, adultery, premarital sex, and contraception.• For contracepting couples do hold something back, and its perhaps the single greatest power two human beings can possess: their fertility, the ability to co-create with God a new life, body and soul, destined for eternity.
Sex and Christian Morals• The sexual act says in its ecstasy: "I give you everything." But contraception renders that communication untrue.• For sex is a sign, a sacramental sign.
Sex and Christian Morals• The marital act (sex) is the act that consummates the sacrament of marriage.• And a sacrament is a channel of divine grace, which is the very life of God.• So when people mess with the "sign" of sex, were not just changing the way we talk about love; were ceasing to love.
Sexual union is an oath in action• The root of the word "sacrament" is the Latin word for "oath." When married couples make love, they place themselves under solemn oath: to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. (So help me, God.)• And what is the truth we tell under the oath sign of marriage? We say that God is one, and God is a Trinity.
Nuptial Love as a Sign of theTrinity • When God made man, male and female, the first command He gave them was to be fruitful and multiply. • This was to image God- Father, Son and Holy Spirit, three in one, the Divine Family. – Kippley, Sex and the Marriage Covenant
Nuptial Love as a Sign of theTrinity • So when “two become one” in the covenant of marriage, the “one” they become is so real that nine months later they might have to give it a name! • The child embodies their covenant oneness. • The two become one flesh, and soon they are joined by a third; yet they remain one family. – Kippley, Sex and the Marriage Covenant
Human Love: a Sign of God‟sown Life • By Gods design, marriage is the only relationship that reveals the life- giving power of love. • Human love, with its fruitfulness, vividly manifests Gods own being and inner life.
Marriage is a sign of God‟s Life here on earth• Marriage is a sacramental sign of the Trinitarian life we hope to share forever in heaven: "In the joys of their love and family life [God] gives them here on earth a foretaste of the wedding feast of the Lamb" (CCC, n. 1642; see also Rev 19:9).• All that is the truth the married couple tell with their bodies in the sexual act without contraception.
Marriage:Ends & Obligations• The spouses union achieves the twofold end of marriage: the good of the spouses themselves and the transmission of life. These two meanings or values of marriage cannot be separated. ..• The conjugal love of man and woman thus stands under the twofold obligation of fidelity and fecundity. - CCC 2363
Fecundity:An End of Marriage • Fecundity is a good, a gift, and an end of marriage. By giving life, spouses participate in the creative power and fatherhood of God (CCC 2398). • “It is necessary that each and every marriage act remain ordered per se to the procreation of human life.“ – Humanae vitae 11
Regulation of Procreation• For just reasons, spouses may wish to space the births of their children.• It is their duty to make certain that their desire is not motivated by selfishness but is in conformity with the generosity appropriate to responsible parenthood.• Moreover, they should conform their behavior to the objective criteria of morality. - CCC 2368
Responsible Parenthood• The regulation of births represents one of the aspects of responsible fatherhood and motherhood.• Periodic continence, that is, the methods of birth regulation based on self-observation and the use of infertile periods, is in conformity with the objective criteria of morality. – Humanae vitae 16
Contraception: an intrinsic evil• “Every action which, whether in anticipation of the conjugal act, or in its accomplishment, or in the development of its natural consequences, proposes, whether as an end or as a means, to render procreation impossible" is intrinsically evil (Humanae vitae 14).• Legitimate intentions on the part of the spouses do not justify recourse to morally unacceptable means (for example, direct sterilization or contraception) (CCC 2399).
Contraception: an intrinsic evil• The Church affirms that the illicitness of contraception is an infallible doctrine.• “The Church has always taught the intrinsic evil of contraception, i.e., of every marital act intentionally rendered unfruitful.• This teaching is to be held as definitive and irreformable.” - Vademecum for Confessors, 1997
Contraception• Gravely opposed to marital chastity• Contrary to the good of the transmission of life (the procreative aspect of matrimony), and to the reciprocal self- giving of the spouses (the unitive aspect of matrimony)• Harms true love• Denies the sovereign role of God in the transmission of human life - Vademecum for Confessors, 1997
Direct abortion is gravely contrary to the moral law• God, the Lord of life, has entrusted to men the noble mission of safeguarding life, and men must carry it out in a manner worthy of themselves.• Life must be protected with the utmost care from the moment of conception.• Abortion and infanticide are abominable crimes. - Gaudium et Spes 51 § 3