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Introduce the fundemental ideas from the book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Introduce the fundemental ideas from the book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People



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  • The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
  • Session 1: Problems and Solutions
  • I had a problem, a big one
    • I had a well paid job. My boss is really nice. I saw a bright career path in front of me.
    • I lived out of my own country and far from my family.
    • I failed multiple times in relationships. I felt lonely after I went home. I wanted to have my own family.
    • I am not happy!
  • In fact, everybody had one
    • I am having tremendous professional success, but it’s cost me personal and family life.
    • I know I’m overweight. I tried all the ways without success.
    • My employees are always waiting for me to give them orders. I am tired of that.
    • I am too busy. I feel pressured and hassled all day, every day, seven days a week.
    • My kid won’t listen to me anymore
    • There is no love in my marriage. We don’t feel it anymore.
  • What’s the biggest problem you are facing?
    • At work
    • In family
    • Relationship
    • Health
    • Time
    • Meaning of life
    • Death
  • What to do with the problem?
    • Put it aside, try not to think about it
    • Worry about it
    • Talk about it
    • Work on it!
  • Deal with the problem
    • Acknowledge the problem
      • A problem cannot be solved if we pretend that it doesn’t exist
      • A real problem cannot be hidden
      • A real problem won’t go away
    • Define the problem
      • What’s bothering me most? Why?
      • Write it down
    • Solve the problem
      • How?
  • New Level of Thinking
    • “ The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them”
        • – Albert Einstein
  • The way we see the problem is the problem
    • It’s “out there”. It’s the problem of the others.
    • We look at the symptoms and ignore the root cause
    • We expect some magic techniques and quick fixes. The real solution may be a long process and require significant efforts
    • Examples:
      • Employees lack of loyalty
      • Marriage without love
      • Always busy, but little accomplished
  • How to see differently?
  • Paradigm - How do we “see” things?
    • The “lens” we all wear
      • We all see things through our own “Paradigms”, which are our own ways of thinking.
      • We may not know the paradigm exists, like contact lens. We think what we see is objective. But it may not be.
      • Two people can see the same thing, disagree and yet both be right.
    • Our unique experience creates the “lens”
      • Family
      • Education
      • Environment
      • Culture
  • Power of the Paradigm
    • Paradigm is our map
      • Reality, the way things are, where are we now.
      • Value, the way things should be, where do we want to be
    • Paradigm determines
      • Our attitudes
      • Our behaviors
    • Wrong map
      • Try to find ways in New York using a map of Chicago.
      • Working on attitudes and behaviors won’t help.
  • What to do with our Paradigms?
    • Be aware of them
    • Take responsibilities of them, examine them, test them against reality
    • Listen to others, be open to their perspectives
    • Get the large picture
  • Paradigm shift - “See” things differently
    • Paradigm shift is powerful
      • Fundamentally change our attitudes and behaviors
    • The only way for us to make significant and quantum changes
      • Science
        • From Earth center to Sun center
        • From bloodletting to gem theory
      • Society
        • From Kings to Democracy
      • Life
        • Life threaten crisis
        • Step into a new role
  • Solve our problems
    • What are the “maps” we are using?
      • The way we “see” things
      • The way we “handle” things
    • Are the “maps” correct?
      • Can they explain our current situation?
      • Can we get to the destination using them?
      • Are we lost using the current map?
    • Change the map
  • Thoughts about my own problem
    • My old paradigms
      • There is only successful career path for me. I rely on my boss to promote me in the company ladder. To be successful in career, I have to live in United States.
      • My perfect partner will fall into my life from heaven. We will fall in love immediately and be happy ever after. I just need to wait.
      • Love is sweet and all about happiness.
      • As long as I have a family, every problem will be resolved.
    • My attitude and behaviors are solely based on those paradigms.
    • Are they correct?
  • What’s the “correct map”?
    • Principles
      • Real, unchanging, unarguable and self-evident as natural laws
      • Universally applicable among different societies and religions
    • Examples
      • Only if you are trustworthy, you can earn long term trust
    • Principles determine the results
    • “ Correct map” are Principle-Centered
  • Principles, Practices and Values
    • Principles vs. Practices
      • Guidelines vs. Activities
      • Universal application vs. Situation Specific
      • Always true vs. Work in some circumstances
      • Principle empowers people to create variety of practices to deal with different situations
    • Principles vs. Value
      • Objective territory vs. Map
  • How to change the “map”?
    • Inside-out
      • Start with yourself
        • Paradigms
        • Characters
        • Motives
      • Private victory precedes public victory
        • Keep Promise to ourselves before to others
        • Improve ourselves before improve the relationships
        • Work on our characters before work on personalities
      • Continuing renewal process
  • Inside-out examples
    • To have a good marriage
      • Generate positive energy
      • Sidestep negative energy
    • To have a pleasant, cooperative teenager
      • More understanding
      • Empathic
      • Consistent
      • Loving
    • To have more freedom, more latitude in your job
      • Be more responsible
      • More helpful
      • More contributing
    • To be trusted
      • Be trustworthy
  • Put the “map” inside us, permanently
    • Characters
      • Relatively permanent
      • Distinguishing features
      • Manifest when relates to others and reacts to various kinds of challenges
    • Examples
      • Courage
      • Honesty
      • Loyalty
    • Characters determine our destiny
      • Determine our actions and reactions
      • Determine how people see us and treat us
  • Characters Ethic vs. Personalities Ethic
    • Characters Ethic
      • The foundation of success come from the Characters like Integrity, Humility, Courage…
    • Personalities Ethic
      • Human and Public Relationship techniques
      • Positive Mental Attitude
    • Characters vs. Personalities
      • Inside-out vs. Outside-in
      • Permanent vs. Inconsistent
      • Natural vs. Artificial
  • The New Paradigm
    • The new level of thinking
      • Principle-centered
      • Character-based
      • Inside-out
  • Principles of Growth
    • Growth are sequential
      • Multiple Stages
      • The later stage is built upon the previous one
      • Each one is important. None can be skipped
      • Each one takes time
    • Example: Learning to run
      • Turn over, sit up, crawl, walk, run
  • The Paradigm Change Process
    • It’s a continuing renewal process
      • Learn the principles
      • Build the characters
      • Start with ourselves
    • Emotional Development Level
      • Listening to others requires Patience, Openness, Desire to understand
    • No quick fixes. No shortcut
  • Conclusion
    • Solution to your problem
    Change the way you see the it
  • What’s next?
    • We learned
      • Our significant problems are the fruits of our own paradigms, the “lens” we wear and the “maps” we use
      • Our problems can only be solved by paradigm shifts.
      • A correct paradigm is Principle-Centered, Character-based, Inside-out
      • Paradigm shift takes a continuing renewal process
    • What’s missing
      • A actionable process to guide us in making the paradigm shift
  • Next Session
    • Session 2
    • The Overview of The 7 Habits