When Negative Communication Rears Its Ugly Head                      October 18, 2012              Presented by Vici Koste...
About You                   Nationalities Works for a company   Austrian   European   Global Has their own company...
About Vici                    Communications Professional since 1980      The Coca-Cola Company      The Hearst Corpor...
Agenda & Objectives                                  Objective:Get an overview of the tools available to help you succeed...
Click here for YouTube Video by       InspiringWordz(c)       (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
Click here for YouTube Video by       InspiringWordz(c)       (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
• How do you feel? How does the other  person feel?   _________________________________________• What are the results? Wha...
• How do you feel? How does the other  person feel?   _________________________________________• What are the results? Wha...
Tools and guidelines to use when negative   communication rears its ugly head            (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
#1 Non-Violent Communication         –Marshall Rosenberg                                  Click here: Marshall Rosenberg ...
#1 Non-Violent Communication            –Marshall Rosenberg                                    Enjoy giving from the hea...
#2, The Four Agreements            –Don Miguel Ruiz                                Be impeccable with your word Speak w...
#3 The Power of Intention            –Dr. Wayne Dyer                               Choose not to be offended You don’t ...
#4 & 5 Integrity        –Henry Cloud & Gandhi                              What kind of "wave" do you want to leave behi...
#6 NLP Neuro-Linguistic Programming                               Are you getting the results you want? If not, change  ...
#7–Vici (not a guru)              Its always about the other person; it’s not about  you                   (c) Victoria ...
(c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
What now?                 1. Breathe2. Take care of your soul3. Eat well4. Exercise5. Cultivate relationships that are im...
GLOW              Gratitude + Love + Optimism + Wonder            (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
• Which guru spoke to you and why? How  could it help you?  ________________________________________            (c) Victor...
Resources Communication                                       The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey...
vkosterlenhardt@gmail.com    (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
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Presentation at the Women's Career Network on October 18, 2012 in Vienna, Austria at the Expat Center.

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  • Victoria Koster-Lenhardt is an American who moved to Vienna in 1987. She worked at The Coca-Cola Company for 21 years as a manager within the IT and Communications organizations. While based in Vienna the entire time, Vici grew as a leader in her company and in her profession, across Europe and within the USA. She will share tips and tricks that enabled her to grow and be a successful leader and mentor.
  • Staying Out of Harm's Way: When Negative Communication Rears Its Ugly Head

    1. 1. When Negative Communication Rears Its Ugly Head October 18, 2012 Presented by Vici Koster-Lenhardt An American, A Communicator, A Thought Leader (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    2. 2. About You  Nationalities Works for a company  Austrian  European  Global Has their own company “Individual contributors” Manages a team, department, organization (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    3. 3. About Vici  Communications Professional since 1980  The Coca-Cola Company  The Hearst Corporation  Gannett News  The New York Times Society for Technical Communication  Fellow, past member of Board of Directors, founded Central European chapter Disclaimer: I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    4. 4. Agenda & Objectives  Objective:Get an overview of the tools available to help you succeed and get the results you want __________________________________________________ Exercise: Defining what difficult means and why Exercises 1&2: When communication flows; when communication fails 7 communication guidelines from the gurus Exercise 3: What now? Resources (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    5. 5. Click here for YouTube Video by InspiringWordz(c) (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    6. 6. Click here for YouTube Video by InspiringWordz(c) (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    7. 7. • How do you feel? How does the other person feel? _________________________________________• What are the results? What worked? _________________________________________ (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    8. 8. • How do you feel? How does the other person feel? _________________________________________• What are the results? What failed? _________________________________________ (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    9. 9. Tools and guidelines to use when negative communication rears its ugly head (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    10. 10. #1 Non-Violent Communication –Marshall Rosenberg  Click here: Marshall Rosenberg on Non-Violent Communication (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    11. 11. #1 Non-Violent Communication –Marshall Rosenberg   Enjoy giving from the heart  Speak the language of life, feelings, and needs (not criticism, moral judgment, diagnosis)  Create quality of connection with other people in which everybody’s needs are met through natural giving (not through guilt, fear, shame etc.)  Learn to express what’s alive in you and what would make life wonderful; listen for the same and (hear only this) (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    12. 12. #2, The Four Agreements –Don Miguel Ruiz  Be impeccable with your word Speak with integrity Say only what you mean Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    13. 13. #3 The Power of Intention –Dr. Wayne Dyer  Choose not to be offended You don’t have to be angry What is your intention? Do you want to be right or happy? (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    14. 14. #4 & 5 Integrity –Henry Cloud & Gandhi  What kind of "wave" do you want to leave behind you? Be the change you wish to see. (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    15. 15. #6 NLP Neuro-Linguistic Programming  Are you getting the results you want? If not, change your approach. (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    16. 16. #7–Vici (not a guru)  Its always about the other person; it’s not about you (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    17. 17. (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    18. 18. What now? 1. Breathe2. Take care of your soul3. Eat well4. Exercise5. Cultivate relationships that are important to you and practice random acts of kindness6. Be thankful every day for three things7. Do something fun every day (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    19. 19. GLOW Gratitude + Love + Optimism + Wonder (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    20. 20. • Which guru spoke to you and why? How could it help you? ________________________________________ (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    21. 21. Resources Communication   The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey  The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz  www.cnvc.org, Marshall Rosenberg  www.iwordz.wordpress.com  The Power of Intention, Wayne Dyer  Introducing NLP – Psychological Skills for Understanding and Influencing People, Joseph O’Connnor & John Seymour Meditation  Search Inside Yourself –The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace), Chade-Meng Tan  The Silva Ultramind ESP System, Ed Bernd, Jr.  The High-Performance Mind, Anna Wise Leadership & Career  Integrity: The Courage to Meet the Demands of Reality, Henry Cloud  The Dip, Seth Godin Happiness  The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun, Gretchen Rubin (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012
    22. 22. vkosterlenhardt@gmail.com (c) Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, 2012

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