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Conflict strategy for nice people

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  • 1. Conflict Strategy for Nice People
  • 2. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Our Main Source Adapted from “Conflict Strategies for Nice People” HBR.org 13/12/25 by Dr. Liane Davey Knightsbridge Human Capital Solutions
  • 3. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Introduction - Main questions Do you value friendly relations with your colleagues? Are you proud of being a nice person who would never pick a fight?
  • 4. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Introduction - Main questions Unfortunately, if your answer is always „yes”, you might be just as responsible for group dysfunction as your more combative team members. That‟s because it‟s a problem when you shy away from open, healthy conflict about the issues. If you think you‟re “taking one for the team” by not rocking the boat, you‟re deluding yourself.
  • 5. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Important • Teams need conflict to function effectively. • Conflict allows the team to come to terms with difficult situations, to synthesize diverse perspectives, and to make sure solutions are well thought-out.
  • 6. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Conflict – Main benefit • Conflict is uncomfortable, but it is the source of true innovation and also a critical process in identifying and mitigating risks.
  • 7. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Conflict – Pulling your punches • Sure, pulling your punches might help you to maintain your self-image as a nice person, but you do so at the cost of missing the opportunity: – to share your thoughts and perception about a specific action or outside behavior, – to learn new life approaches and different point-of-views through conflict situations. – to identify high risk situations.
  • 8. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Conflict – What should we do? • To overcome these problems, we need a new definition of nice. • In this version of nice, you surface your differences of opinion, you discuss the uncomfortable issues, and you put things on the table where they can help your team move forward.
  • 9. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Strategy 01 – Use a question when disagreeing • When you need to disagree with someone, express your contrary opinion asking your teammate a question. • Asking a question will engage your teammate in a problem solving situation, which is collaborative instead of combative.
  • 10. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Strategy 02 – Use hypotheticals • When facing a conflict learn to use a useful tactic of asking hypothetical situations to let your teammate imagining. • If you are meeting resistance to your ideas, try asking your teammates to imagine a different scenario.
  • 11. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Strategy 03 – Ask about the impact • If you are concerned about a proposed course of action, ask your teammates to think through the impact of implementing their plan.
  • 12. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Strategy 04 – Discuss the underlying issue • If you disagree with a proposed course of action, instead of complaining about the solution, start by trying to understand what is behind the suggestion. • If you understand the reasoning, you might be able to find another way to accomplish the same goal.
  • 13. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Strategy 05 – Ask for help • If a situation is really difficult to deal with, ask another teammate to help you to find an alternative or an agreement that suits both involved parts.
  • 14. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Conclusion • Conflict is critical to team effectiveness. • Diversity of thinking on a team is the source of innovation and growth.
  • 15. Conflict Strategy for Nice People Our Business Contacts Feel free to send us an e-mail. Our Website: www.licoreis.com Our E-mail: licoreis@licoreis.com licoreis@licoreis.com.br Linkedin: Roberto de Paula Lico Júnior Skype: roberto.lico