• Save
Gilman School Bystander to Ally
Upcoming SlideShare
Loading in...5

Like this? Share it with your network


Gilman School Bystander to Ally



Bullying affects all of us, whether we are perpetrating, receiving, or standing by bullying. Understand the difference between conflict and bullying, how bullying mirrors societal injustices, and how ...

Bullying affects all of us, whether we are perpetrating, receiving, or standing by bullying. Understand the difference between conflict and bullying, how bullying mirrors societal injustices, and how we can transform from bystanders to allies so that we can help create safe schools. Practicing inclusion in schools will help us create a more just world as we leave schools.



Total Views
Views on SlideShare
Embed Views



0 Embeds 0

No embeds


Upload Details

Uploaded via as Microsoft PowerPoint

Usage Rights

© All Rights Reserved

Report content

Flagged as inappropriate Flag as inappropriate
Flag as inappropriate

Select your reason for flagging this presentation as inappropriate.

  • Full Name Full Name Comment goes here.
    Are you sure you want to
    Your message goes here
Post Comment
Edit your comment

Gilman School Bystander to Ally Presentation Transcript

  • 1. Bystander to Ally: Changing Yourself to Change the World Gilman School Middle School Students Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee Seattle Girls’ School Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 2. About Seattle Girls’ School Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 3. Agenda  Conflict versus Bullying  Why Should You Care?  Practicing for the Real Thing  Bystander to Ally  Questions  Resources Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 4. The Big Deal About Bullying Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 5. Definition of Conflict  A clash between two individuals or groups  A disagreement or argument about something important  Others? Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 6. When It’s Bullying  Power is uneven  Intent to harm  Repeated and sustained  Efforts to hide from adults  Advocacy not changing behaviors Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 7. Why Should You Care?  Health and Safety  Psychological Pain  Academic Risk  Explosive Release  Long-Term Scars Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 8. Bullying Hurts Everyone  Targets  Agents  Bystanders Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 9. Repeating Cycles – Agents, Targets, Bystanders Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 10. Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 11. Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 12. Put Downs and Isms “That’s so gay!” ----- heterosexism “You’re so ghetto.” ----- classism and racism “That’s retarded.” ----- abelism “Don’t be such a b**ch.” ----- sexism “Your name’s weird.” ----- ethnocentrism “That’s so lame.” ----- abelism “Sissy” ----- sexism, heterosexism “Trailer trash!” ----- classism and racism “Did you forget to take your meds?” ---- ableism “Your food stinks!” ----- ethnocentrism “Crybaby!” ----- adultism and sexism Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 13. Becoming the Adults We Want to Be Adolescent Brain Development Peer Pressure Backstage and Frontstage Spaces Path of Least Resistance Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 14. An Ally Is… “a person who is a member of the dominant or majority group who works to end oppression in his or her personal and professional life through support of, and as an advocate with and for, the oppressed population” Washington and Evans, Becoming an Ally Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 15. An Ally Is… “Someone who doesn’t have to stand up for someone else, who might even lose something if they do, but they do it anyway because they know it’s the right thing to do” Anna, 6th Grader Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 16. Bystander to Ally Agent Active Bystander Passive Passive Ally Active Karen Bradberry, PhD Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 17. Ally Skills  Don’t exclude, hurt, or bully  Speak up when someone else is being bullied  Assume positive intentions, but don’t let that assumption make you silent  Ask questions to clarify and to educate  Don’t make the person who is bullying into someone who is getting targeted  Actively include those who are easily left out  If you know someone is getting bullied, tell an adult at school or at home  Keep the climate healthy Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 18. Relationship Based Interruption Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 19. Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 20. I change myself, I change the world. -Gloria Anzaldua Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 21. Presenter Information Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee 6th Faculty and Professional Outreach Seattle Girls’ School 2706 S Jackson Street Seattle WA 98144 (206) 805-6562 rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org http://tiny.cc/rosettalee Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 22. Identity Resources • Carlos H. Arce, “A Reconsideration of Chicano Culture and Identity” • Atkinson, Morten, & Sue, “Racial/Cultural Identity Development Model (R/CID)” • Mindy Bingham and Sandy Stryker, “Socioemotional Development for Girls” • Vivienne Cass, “Homosexual identity formation: Testing a theoretical model” • William Cross, Shades of Black: Diversity in African American Identity” • Anthony D’Augelli, “ Identity development and sexual orientation: Toward a model of lesbian, gay, and bisexual development” Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 23. Identity Resources • Erik Erikson, “Eight Stages of Man” • J. E. Helms, Various Publications on Racial and Ethnic Identity Development • Jean Kim, “Processes of Asian American Identity Development” • James Maricia, “Four Ego and Identity Statuses” • Suzanne Kobasa Ouellette, “The Three C’s of Hardiness” • Jean S. Phinney, “Ethnic Identity in Adolescents and Adults: Review of the Research” • Ponterotto & Pederso, Preventing Prejudice • Maria P. P. Root, Various Works on Multiracial Identity Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 24. Identity Resources • Patricia Romney, Karlene Ferron, and Jennifer Hill, “Measuring the Success of Diversity Directors in Independent Schools” • Pedro Ruiz, “Latino/a Identity Development Model” • Chalmer E. Thompson and Robert T. Carter, Racial Identity Theory • Alex Wilson, “How We Find Ourselves: Identity Development and Two Spirit People” • Christine J. Yeh, “The Collectivistic Nature of Identity Development Among Asian-American College Students” Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
  • 25. Miscellaneous Resources • Karen Bradberry and Johnnie Foreman, “Privilege and Power,” Summer Diversity Institute, National Association of Independent Schools, 2009 • Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, Nurture Shock • Kevin Jennings, GLSEN (Gay Lesbian and Straight Education Network) www.glsen.org • Allan G. Johnson, Privilege, Power, and Difference • Johnnie McKinley, “Leveling the Playing Field and Raising African American Students’ Achievement in Twenty-nine Urban Classrooms,” New Horizons for Learning, http://www.newhorizons.org/strategies/differentiated/ mckinley.htm Michael J Nakkula and Eric Toshalis, Understanding Youth. Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)