Wheels Of Success


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If you haven’t been able to find your way to all you wanted to be as a person or to bring all that you want to yourself, then this book is for you.
I was in the same position as you, not knowing where my life was going.
I looked everywhere, read books, studied tapes, got degrees, went to groups and never could find what I needed to make my life work the way I wanted it to. I also was not able to develop myself into the person whom I pictured in my mind.
So, I decided to develop my own process of finding myself and making my life work the way I wanted it.
This book is an accumulation of years of my studying and researching as many possible books on religion, spirituality, psychology, philosophy and business. I took from all of them what I found ran true through all of them. It amazed me that there were principles that each and every one of these different schools of thought had in common and that they were exactly the same. Once I found this formula I went through each and every one and picked out the principles that they all had in common.
After years of doing this testing on myself, I decided to write this book which serves as a guide where a person could learn these principles and use them in every area of their own lives.
This book is for people who are unable to seek or take the time out to learn a complicated or totally foreign way of thinking and behaving. This process is also for adults and teens that are not able to afford personal or motivational programs. Yet you want to find out how to make your life work the way you want it to, how to deal with everyday issues, relationships, family problems and self issues. Again you make use of these principles on whatever you need and it will work.

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  2. 2. Page 2 Table of Contents PREFACE ..................................................................................................................................................... 3 INTRODUCTION ........................................................................................................................................ 5 FINDING YOUR PURPOSE ....................................................................................................................... 8 MAKING A DECISION............................................................................................................................. 10 START WITH A VISION .......................................................................................................................... 13 SETTING GOALS ...................................................................................................................................... 16 Prioritize Your Goals .......................................................................................................................... 18 TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE ........................................................................................ 20 Decide What You Want........................................................................................................................ 21 Develop a Plan .................................................................................................................................... 22 Take Action.......................................................................................................................................... 23 WHAT IS YOUR SELF-IMAGE? ............................................................................................................ 26 SELF-CONFIDENCE IS VITALLY IMPORTANT ............................................................................... 27 HAVE THE RIGHT ATTITUDE ............................................................................................................. 28 WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? ................................................................................................................ 30 NOTHING TO FEAR FROM FAILURE ................................................................................................ 32 POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND BELIEVING IN YOURSELF .............................................................. 34 BE COMMITTED ...................................................................................................................................... 37 FOCUS ON THE PATH AHEAD ............................................................................................................. 39 PRACTICE VISUALIZATION ................................................................................................................ 40 MEDITATE................................................................................................................................................. 41 PRACTICE AFFIRMATIONS ................................................................................................................. 42 BE PERSISTENT ....................................................................................................................................... 43 SUMMARY ................................................................................................................................................. 45
  3. 3. Page 3 Preface If you want success, you cannot sit and wait for it, you have to go out and seize it. You must take action and you must be ready to be successful. This book will help to show you how that is possible. It will show you how to be successful and how to realize success. This is the main purpose of this book. What makes a person successful, how does one person find success while another person does not? Is there something in that person that prevents them from realizing their dreams, while in another person there is a set of principles that allow them to achieve success? In this book, I will address that and show in examples from my own life how I was able to achieve success by having a certain number of success principles that I was able to implement and succeed with. Is there a trick to all this? Can only a few people achieve what I am talking about or can we all? Remember, there are two types of people in this world, there are those who do not try and achieve anything, hoping that something good will happen, and then there are those who do try and achieve things by having the right principles in place. These are the people who succeed and go on to great heights. If you want to have success, you need to know how to achieve it and to do that you need to know the principles that can make it happen. I will present these principles to you so you
  4. 4. Page 4 can use them in your own life, so you can achieve success and so you can live the life you always dreamed. The ability to change our lives is in all of us. We can change things and make things better for ourselves. We need to stop waiting for outside influences to come along and change things for us. This is not how things are done and it is not how I will teach you to find success. So, let’s begin putting together the wheels of success.
  5. 5. Page 5 Introduction Did you know that you have the power to change your life? Did you know that you can, right now, stop living in a life you don’t enjoy and change things so you can have a life you love? You can do it right now, the power is in you. The unfortunate thing is that so many people don’t even realize that they have this ability. They don’t know that they can change their lives at this very moment. You can change your life right now, and you need to tell the universe that you are going to. Whether you believe it or not, when you choose to make a change within your life, the universe stops and it takes notice of what you are asking. What you resist persists. What you fear perseveres. This is something you need to understand because when you don’t try and make a change, and you only let what you fear rule you, it will stay around. You need to say “NO!” and you need to stop it. You need to stand up, rise up and make the change in your life. The principles in this book will ignite a spark in you that will change everything about your life. Just a few of the things that will change are: 1. The way you live your life. 2. The way you look at your life. 3. The way you respond to challenges 4. The way you respond to problems
  6. 6. Page 6 5. The way you respond to events. 6. The way you respond to new circumstances in your life. You will notice that these life principles change the way you do things and the way you think. These principles will help you enter a new phase of your life where you begin to learn how to do things so you are successful, rather than how to complain about things not going your way. Throughout this book, I will assist you in helping your dreams come true by showing you a new way that you can look at yourself and life in general. I am excited for you because you are entering a new path in your life. You are going out on a new journey that I have already been on. Everything will be new to you now, and for that I envy you. This is the first day of the rest of your life and this moment when you begin to change is a sweet one, so you make sure that you enjoy it as much as possible. This book is going to create new things for you. It will create new directions for you, and it will create new habits for you. It will show you that you have to stand up and take notice of your life and make a change in it. So many people just sit around waiting to win the lottery or hoping that change will come and slap them in the face. This does not happen. You have to be the change you want to see
  7. 7. Page 7 in your life. You spend your life living in chains and you don’t even realize that you have the key to unlock them! So, we are going to begin and get you learning how to have the wheels of success under you. No longer are you going to drive your life on bald tires with no direction as to where you are going. You will have wheels of success driving you through life and you are going to use them to achieve things you never even thought possible. Good luck!
  8. 8. Page 8 Finding Your Purpose We all need a purpose. We all need a reason to get out of bed in the morning, but many of do not even realize what our purpose is. What is your reason for being alive? Do you have a reason? Do you simply exist without any force driving you? This does not mean making money is your purpose, or getting promoted. Those are false purposes that blind us to the real purposes in our lives. No, your purpose is something different. Your purpose is something that even if you did it for free, you would be happy to do it. Sports athletes get paid millions of dollars to do what they do, but if they were paid nothing, they will still play. Why? The reason is because the sport is their passion. It is why it is so hard for many of them to retire. They can’t leave their passion. It is who they are. You need to find your purpose of your life. Your purpose is why you start up in the morning and it is the foundation by which you base your entire life. Your purpose is something inside of you, a talent you have and a gift that you have that you can give to the world. To find your purpose, ask yourself these questions: 1. What do you love? 2. When you are not working, what do you enjoy doing? 3. If you had to do one thing your entire life, what would it be? 4. What did you want to be when you were younger? 5. What do you day dream about doing?
  9. 9. Page 9 6. If you were to be paid nothing for doing something, what would you do that would give you the most satisfaction? 7. What career would make you proud of yourself? These are very important questions to ask yourself because they will tell you what your passion is. Maybe your passion is traveling, writing, singing, sports or something like making crafts. We all have passions, but so many people don’t know what their passion is. They think they do, but they end up choosing something that is wrong. Remember, and this is very important, no one can tell you what your passion is, only you know the answer to that. Only you know your passion and if someone tells you what your passion is, they are probably going to be wrong. Now that you have begun to identify your passion and realize the importance of it, we can continue on.
  10. 10. Page 10 Making a Decision Decisions are important. When we make a decision, we are choosing a course for our lives. There is a theory that there are universes created for every decision that is made. The decision you make puts you on a specific path and you stay on that path. Once a decision is made, you cannot take the decision back. You can fix the consequences of the decision, but you can’t go back and not make the decision. This is why you need to be sure about your decisions. When you make a decision, you are looking to achieve a certain result. You are trying to achieve a result and you are making a promise. Who are you making a promise to? You are making a promise to yourself to achieve a result that you hope will be favorable. Right now, you are making a decision. You are making a decision that will change your life. Rather than be one of those people who makes a blind decision and hopes for a good outcome, you are making an informed decision to have a better life and that can only lead to a good outcome. If you are driving down the road and you come to a crossroads without a map, you need to make a decision as to where to go. You have three choices in front of you, but only one has a good outcome. Therefore, what do you do? You have to guess. You have a one in three chance of success and a two in three chance of failure. This is what happens when you make a decision without knowing where you want to go.
  11. 11. Page 11 Now, if you come to that same crossroads and you have a map, you can choose where you want to go based on information you have at your disposal. This is almost guaranteed to give you a better outcome because you will make a proper decision that will lead you to a proper result. You will know what to expect because you will have the map to guide you. You will know that you won’t run out of gas halfway down the road. You will know that you will make your destination easier because you will know the road is better. Without knowing where you want to go, there is no way to know if you are going to be successful. So, how are you going to make the right decision? A decision that comes from you and no other people? Well, here are just a few of the ways to keep you from being directionless, or a pawn for others and their own decisions: 1. Stop associating yourself with mediocre people who are only a drain on you. You want people who have big ideas and can inspire you, not people who keep you down by not making progress in their own lives. 2. Don’t have negative people around you because they will only criticize your decisions and make you second guess them. They will undermine your confidence and you need your confidence if you are going to be able to make a change in your life. 3. Surround yourself with winners because winners will encourage you. They are succeeding in their own lives and they want you to succeed as well.
  12. 12. Page 12 4. Think of a strategy for your decision-making and determine what it is you want to achieve. Some things you can decide on are: a. Do you want to increase your income in the next year? b. Do you want to have a second-income doing something you love? 5. You need to surround yourself with people who think like you and there are many things you can join to do that including: a. Business clubs b. Mastermind Groups c. Community Groups d. Toastmasters By choosing to make a decision now, you set the course for your future.
  13. 13. Page 13 Start With a Vision Remember what I said about having to have a map for your decisions? Well, you need to know where you want to go and to have that; you need to have a vision. Your vision is where you want to be and what you want to be. Your vision is the better life that you have been hoping for, whether it is financial, spiritual or personal. Your vision is the result of what you want and it is a way for you to get the new and better results that you have been hoping for. Your vision is what you want your life to be like in a certain amount of time. How is a vision created? Well, some would say that a vision is like the creation of a child. When a child is created through conception, it starts as nothing more than a seed and it grows into something more. • Like the child, there is a seed that begins the process of growth. Your vision begins the same way. You have an idea, “I want to be a writer” and from that you begin to grow the vision until it is born. • The more you think about your vision, the more it grows and the more it takes shape. Like a baby in the womb, over time it grows from being nothing more than a cell to a human being. Your vision starts as an idea and you begin to think, “To be a writer I need to do this, and this and this.” Now you have a growing vision because you are looking at how you are going to make it happen. • Finally, your vision comes to fruition; it is born, just like a baby is. While a baby takes nine months to go from nothing to something, your vision may only take a few weeks, or it could take a few years, it really depends completely on you.
  14. 14. Page 14 Your brain needs to be fertile soil for your vision. If your brain is full of doubts and worries, then it is like having poison in the soil. Your vision will die before it has a chance to flower, and that is wrong. Now, if your brain is full of confidence and thoughts of achieving your dreams, then it is completely different. Now your brain is fertile soil and the vision you create can grow quickly and flower, changing your life and changing you as well. How can you realize your vision then? 1. You need to be confident in yourself and your decision. 2. You need to ignore those people who tell you that you are wrong. Who knows you better than you know yourself? Why should they tell you what to do? 3. Have a vision of what you want and then all you have to do is figure out going from Point A (now) to Point B (the vision). 4. Think about your vision positively all the time. Do not think it won’t happen because once doubt comes in; it will spread like bad weeds in your brains’ fertile soil. Visions are very important if you want to be successful. They are what will allow you to realize your dreams. You have to know where you are going and you have to have a vision to do that.
  15. 15. Page 15 Without a vision, success is just a pipe dream.
  16. 16. Page 16 Setting Goals In the last part, I talked to you about having a vision. Well, many people will say that a vision is a goal, and in many ways it is. However, a vision is also more than a goal. It is a way of life, and to reach that vision you need goals. I prefer to think of goals as stepping stones towards a vision and that is why setting goals are so important. There are several factors that influence our lives, including: 1. Our environment – This can be the environment we are in at home, and our work environment. A positive environment can mean the difference between failed goals and achieving goals. 2. Where we live – If you live in an area that has a good economy, you may have higher goals than someone who lives in a poor area. 3. The school we attend – If you attend a good school, you will probably have a better life than if you attend a poor school. 4. Our friends and family – If you have a lot of support around you, it can be much easier to achieve goals than if you do not have much support around you. Throughout all of these factors, the biggest thing that dictates success in your life and the achievement of goals is the attitude you have. The better the attitude you have about your
  17. 17. Page 17 life and yourself, the better the chance that you are going to see success. Remember when I talked about purpose? Well, by knowing why you exist, you can create a vision for yourself. By having a vision, you can then set goals. Everything I talk about here is connected. It is not a matter of finding your purpose and doing it, or choosing a vision. All are connected together to form the roadmap for your success and your ideal life. So, how do you go about setting your goals? Well, the first thing you need to do is brainstorm. Too few people actually sit down and brainstorm and this is very unfortunate. When you brainstorm, you are not thinking, well you are but you are thinking in a different way. So, when you brainstorm you are thinking without thinking. Don’t understand? Well, when you brainstorm you write down every idea you have, good or bad. It is only after you are done this stream-of-consciousness idea generation that you go through and eliminate the good goals and ideas from the bad. The important thing is to not think about what you are writing down. When you do this, you will be shocked at the amazing ideas that come about because of your brainstorming. This brainstorming will not only help you create goals, but it will help you lay the seeds that will become your vision, like I mentioned in the previous chapter. Before I show you how to go about creating your goals, I want to tell you to remember that there are no limits in your life except the limits that you put on yourself.
  18. 18. Page 18 Prioritize Your Goals Okay, this is what you need to do in order to create clear and concise goals for yourself. 1. Brainstorm a list of as many goals as you can possibly think of. 2. When you are done brainstorming, select 10 goals from the list and write out the reasons why you want to achieve those particular goals. 3. Okay, now that you have your list done, select three goals that are the most important in your life and put those goals into point form based on the objectives you need to meet the goals. Remember, with your goals you need to: • Include all the information you need about the goal, no matter how small. The better you understand your goal, the better able you will be to visualize it. • What date do you want to achieve this goal by? • Is this a goal that will continue on for a long-time, or is it a one-time goal? For example, is your goal to create a business that thrives for 20 years, or is your goal to buy a new car?
  19. 19. Page 19 Okay, now that you have your goals done up and ready to go in your head and on a piece of paper, let’s make it a bit more official. What you are going to do now is take the goals that you created, there should be about three of them by now, and you are going to put them on index cards. Why are you putting your goals on index cards? Well, there is a very good reason for this. If you forget about your goals, you are not going to achieve your goals. Therefore, you need to find a way to remind yourself of the goals. So, you will put the goals on the index cards and you will do the following. 1. When you wake up in the morning, you will read the goals aloud to yourself. 2. If you work in an office, you will put the index cards up on the wall in front of you. 3. When you go to bed that night, you will read the goals aloud to yourself and think about how close you have come so far to achieving them. You can also have your goals put in your wallet so you always have them with you and can refer to them when you wonder why you are on a certain path. Another great thing to do is to have a chart that you put on the wall that lets you track your goals. When you have a quantifiable and visual representation of your goals, it can be much easier to achieve your goals.
  20. 20. Page 20 Take Responsibility for Your Life One of the biggest problem people have is that they do not take responsibility for their lives. They think that the problems that exist in their life are not their fault. They think that the reason they hate their life is because of things out of their control. Nothing is out of your control and the sooner you stop blaming others for your life, the sooner you will be able to start changing your life. You have to take responsibility for your life. This does not mean you take responsibility for part of your life, oh no. You need to take responsibility for 100 percent of your life and for who you are. Stop blaming people because you feel you fail and stop making excuses for why you fail. You fail because you believe you will fail and you have to think positively and know that you will succeed. Do not sit and complain about other people and be envious of what others have achieved. Be proud of who you are and choose to make the change you want in your life. Do you want other people criticizing you for your choices? Well, of course you don’t, so you should not criticize other people for the choices that they make. You need to take charge of your life and you need to do it now. Now, oddly enough many people ask how they are supposed to take charge of their life. Thankfully, I have an easy way for you to do it. 1. Decide what it is that you want. 2. Develop a plan for what you want.
  21. 21. Page 21 3. Take action on what you want. Now, let’s look at these in more detail. Decide What You Want You have the power to choose what you want in your life and that means you have to decide what you want in your life. This is why deciding what you want is the first step in taking responsibility for your life. Most people, oddly enough, never decide what it is that they want out of life. The reason for this is that they are afraid to take risks. They do not want to fail and there are so many people who are afraid to fail. Failure is only something to be afraid of if you do not have confidence in yourself. The people who are afraid to fail will sit around and hope that change comes to them, rather than making change happen. They wish for something to change their lives but of course that wish never comes true. What this is called is entitlement mentality. This is when people have no clear idea in their head of what they want to achieve in life, nor what they even want out of life. It is a horrible way to live and so many people all around us live this exact way and it is most unfortunate. You have to decide what you want in life and that comes from having a clear and concise vision, along with a purpose and goals. What do you want? What do you want to take responsibility for?
  22. 22. Page 22 Develop a Plan Once you have decided what you want, you need to plan for how you are going make that change. One thing you will find in my writing is that I do not expect you to simply make a decision to change your life and just go with it. There is planning involved and if you do not plan, you will be doomed to failure and that is something that you do not want. Failure is not an option at any point. Remember the goals you wrote down? Well, you have to have a desire to achieve those goals and that is why those goals are tied to your vision and why your vision is tied to your passion. To achieve your goals and take responsibility for your life, something you need to create is an action plan. You used brain storming to create your goals and you can use brain storming for your action plan to create a to-do list that helps you achieve your goals and take responsibility for your life. With your action plan, you will determine the following: 1. The people who you are going to need to talk to. 2. The information you will need to gather. 3. The deadlines you will be setting for yourself. 4. The steps you will need to take for each goal.
  23. 23. Page 23 Once you have brain stormed these ideas, you will need to put your to-do list into what I call a daily action list. Remember, this action list is important because it helps change your dream into a plan. The difference between a dream and a plan is that your dream opens up the desire in you to do something; while the plan helps you accomplish it. With your action list, you will have your items organized based on when you want to achieve them by, when you want to start them by and their priority in your life. Take Action All right, now we are in the meat and potatoes of this! You have planned everything to the smallest detail, so let’s get you ready to put it all into action. The most important thing here is to not delay starting your new action plan. You have to do it right away. The longer you delay, the more it is going to fade in your memory. When you first start out on your plan, you may want to concentrate on all the things that can go wrong and this is the absolute wrong thing to do. It’s like getting into a cold lake. You can tip-toe around it, and slowly get in while thinking of how cold it is, or you can just jump in. Jumping in gets you in the lake faster and gets you used to the change in temperature faster, so just do it!
  24. 24. Page 24 When you take action in your life, you are creating things that will help you move towards success. People will have similar goals as you and they will find you so they can work with you. From them you begin to learn things from your experience that cannot be learned from listening to others or from reading books. You begin to get feedback about how to do it better, more efficiently and more quickly. Things that once seemed confusing begin to become clear. Things that once appeared difficult begin to be easier. You begin to attract others who will support and encourage you. All good things begin to flow in your direction once you begin to take action. It’s true the defining moment of taking action always gets the miracles going - it’s magical. Try it. Open a special file marked ‘goals accomplished’ and file all the information you will gather on a specific goal including: • Your research notes • Minutes you took with companies • Notes you made with people you talked to • Dates of appointments • Dates of telephone calls you made.
  25. 25. Page 25 Once after a quarter, half yearly and year end, go through the list of your achievements no matter how small they may look in your eyes, this will inspire you to persevere when the going gets rough.
  26. 26. Page 26 What is Your Self-Image? How do you see yourself? When you look at yourself in the mirror do you see a confident person, or do you see a timid person? Do you know who you are? These are very important questions because they deal with your self image. Your self image is how you see yourself and it is the image that has been formed based on the past experiences of your youth. Once you have created an idea in your head of what you are, and the image has been formed, then you accept this as the truth of who you are. Now, what happens if your self-image does not lend itself to you being successful? Simply put, your self-image has a great deal to do with your success because if you have a poor self image, then you will not have the confidence to make the change in your life to be successful. You will not believe that you have unique talents, or that you will be able to be a success. The truth is that someone who feels that they do not deserve success will not find success in life. A healthy self-image is very important for creating the type of success we are talking about in this book. When you are able to take your self-image and change it to something that is more positive, then you will begin to find success in your life. There is a direct correlation between success and confidence and confidence comes from having a good self-image.
  27. 27. Page 27 Self-Confidence Is Vitally Important If you are going to have any sort of success in your life, then you need to have self- confidence. Self-confidence is important and the fact that you are reading this report shows that you are looking for self-confidence, or you already have the self-confidence to find success. Either way, it is good for you. Self-confidence is tied directly with how you see yourself. If you are not confident in yourself and your decisions, then you cannot be confident for success. You will doubt that success is going to come your way and you will think that success is something better left to successful people. If you don’t think you are successful before you start, then you won’t be successful and that is all there is too it. You need self-confidence for success. Thankfully, there are ways to get through low self-confidence. The first thing you need to do is look at yourself and do the following: • Identify the blocks to your confidence. • Defeat the blocks to your confidence. • Unlock the blocks to your confidence and find success. One of the biggest tell-tale signs of a low self-confidence is procrastination. If you procrastinate your decisions, then you will not be able to make the decisions. If you are not confident in your decisions, then this is the perfect scenario. You can get rid of low self- confidence by destroying procrastination through action.
  28. 28. Page 28 Have the Right Attitude Attitude is everything in life. Your attitude dictates how you see the world. If you have a good attitude, you see the glass as half-full. However, if you have a bad attitude, you see the glass as half-empty. Attitude determines if you are an optimist or pessimist. To succeed, you need to have a good attitude because you need to be optimistic about the success that you will have in your future. Your attitude influences everything you do, and when you talk to yourself, what you say to yourself is having a strong influence on which you are. Your attitude influences: • Who you are. • What you are. • Your actions. • Your behavior. • Your decisions. When you think about something in a good way, and have a good attitude about it all the time, then your thoughts will turn into true beliefs for you. This is very powerful because this right attitude will then get your subconscious mind working over time to make those beliefs into reality.
  29. 29. Page 29 Without even knowing it, your good attitude and your subconscious mind will begin to attract: • Events • Circumstances • Situations • People All four of these will help you reach the desired result that you want and it all comes through having a good attitude. If you are only thinking about success and what you will do when you are successful, then you will reach that success much easier. However, if you are sitting around thinking about how things can go wrong with your decisions, thinking about how the worst can happen, then you will create that worst case scenario. Remember, your thoughts become things and those things become reality. If you think with a bad attitude, then you will see bad luck, bad days and bad spirits. However, if you think with a good attitude, then you will see good luck, good days and good spirits. Your attitude is a driver for your destiny and the question is what destiny do you want for yourself? A good one or a bad one?
  30. 30. Page 30 What Are Your Values? Everyone has values. These values are created in our lives and they help to dictate what we do and who we are. Values can take a variety of forms including our ethics, but they are also what we value the most, hence the word. What values do you have? You will notice that the goals you set for yourself are based off your values, even if you do not even realize it. One of the most important things you can do is prioritize your values. For example: If you find that your values for monetary wealth ranks below that of your value of entertainment, and below the value of time with your children, then you will know what is most important to you. If your top value is your children, then your children are your wealth and you will therefore work to ensure that your career focuses on your children. This may mean more time with them, or a career that helps them in their lives. However, if your value for entertainment is the highest, then you will focus more on investing in entertainment and showing your friends and family that you are a good entertainer. Values are essentially habits, and like habits, your values can change. There have been many people who have valued money over everything but have eventually discovered that they value spirituality more. Hence, their value structure changes from one focused on monetary wealth to one focused on spiritual wealth. To know what you want to prioritize, you must know what is important to you. What will lead you to a better life? Will it be time with your family? Will it be a bigger house? Will it be traveling around the world?
  31. 31. Page 31 The choice is yours to determine what values are your most important and how you are going to change your values to get what you truly want out of life. Look at your values know and rank them to see where you stand.
  32. 32. Page 32 Nothing to Fear from Failure Franklin Roosevelt once said that there was nothing to fear but fear itself, and this is very true. If you have fear, which you may have as you go through the various stages of changing your life, it will hold you back. Fear and doubts will arise on a successful journey, and you cannot get rid of fear or doubt forever. There is no way to never be afraid again. However, there are ways for you to deal with fear and its evil twin, self-doubt. The important thing to understand is that you will experience fear when you are going into the unknown. This is natural. To beat fear, you must learn to take risks that you have calculated and to take that leap of faith with the trust that you will be okay in the end. Fear will only try and hold you back. This is why you have to stop it, push it aside and work through it. If you allow fear to block you, then you will never get anywhere. You need to be able to beat it. Some ways to do this include: • Building up your confidence so that fear does not take such a hold on you. • Trust in yourself. • Read books about conquering fear. • Attend seminars about fear. • Listen to audio CDs from others who have experienced fear and beaten it.
  33. 33. Page 33 Never let fear control you. You must control the fear and make it work for you. In Kung Fu, you are not fighting the person in front of you; you are redirecting their energy to defend yourself. You need to look at fear the same way. You are not battling fear head-to-head; it is very hard to win that way. Instead, you are redirecting the energy of the fear to work for you to your desired result. In a way, you are using the fear as a motivator to better yourself and to find success in your life.
  34. 34. Page 34 Positive Thoughts and Believing In Yourself You have to believe in yourself and you have to think positive. Just like how I talked about positive attitudes, well thinking positively is just like that. If you only think with a second- best attitude, then you will only become second-best. You have to believe that you are worth something and that you can achieve anything that you want. That way, you will actually be able to achieve what you want out of life because you believe that you can. This is why you need to change away from having a negative self image about yourself and why you need to trust your own instincts. Learn how to control your negative thoughts. When your mind says you can’t do something, refuse to listen to it. Don’t express your negative thoughts in words, tell your mind and say it loud that you are going to do what it takes to get the job done. Many people procrastinate because they have made up their minds that they are going to fail. If you are one of these people, the most important thing you can do today is to stop believing what the procrastination demon has been telling you. As human beings we are unique because of our ability to change to become more than what we are. Before we can change, we must be able to accept full responsibility for everything we do. All this comes down to believing in you. You have to believe that you will be able to achieve what you want. If you do not believe in yourself, how will you be able to achieve the goals that you want? A belief in you is a burning desire to be successful and to realize your hopes, dreams and goals. It is about realizing that vision for yourself that you created and putting
  35. 35. Page 35 yourself on the path to success. All this comes from believing in you. If you don’t believe in yourself, why would anyone else? That all being said, if you have lots of belief in yourself, but don’t have the will to act on it, then you pretty much waiting for nothing to happen. This is why you need to get out there and get your nose to the ground to make your dreams come true through a belief in yourself by doing the following: • Take action! • Make preparations for your success. • Make phone calls. • Do a business plan. • Research what you want. • Interview people who can help you on your path. • Talk to the people who will believe in you to help raise your own confidence. If you do not take action, then nothing is going to happen, it is as simple as that. You can have all the desire in the world but if you do not get up off the couch and believe in yourself to get the job done, then you will literally get nowhere. This is called laziness by some but a better term is low self-belief. The reason is that if you do not believe in yourself, even if you want success, then you won’t have the desire to get out and do what you have to.
  36. 36. Page 36 Many of us have the following in us: • Hate (for someone who has achieved more than you) • Jealousy (because someone else has more success) • Anger (at yourself for not doing anything) • Judgemental (of other people and their success) You need to replace these with: • Forgiveness (for yourself and those you hated for being successful) • Acceptance (of others who will achieve success) • Love (for yourself and what you can achieve) Your belief creates life and your faith is believing in something that has not happened yet, but which you know will eventually happen. Belief turns into being, so when you believe in success, you will start being successful. Your faith is an active belief and it is mixed in with expectation and action.
  37. 37. Page 37 Be Committed You have belief, you have self-confidence, you have a goal and you have a vision for something you are passionate about. You are ready aren’t you? Well, no, not quite. You have to be committed. Now we are not talking about putting you in a mental institution here, but rather that you have a commitment to getting on the path of success and following through on all of your goals. It can be hard to be committed to your goals when you feel you have nothing to help you, but you should remember that some of the most successful people in the world started with nothing but ideas and goals. This is why you have to be committed. If you simply think you won’t make it because you don’t have enough help, then you will never achieve your goals. There is another word for this and it is procrastination. Quit procrastinating! Get out of your comfort zone! Do things you have never done before! Remember, get people who are successful around you because their confidence will spread to you and you will feel better about yourself and your chances of being successful. If you surround yourself with people who just suck energy away from you, you will get nowhere. You have to be committed to changing your life by getting the right people around you.
  38. 38. Page 38 Be committed to learning and growing and trying new things. Don’t sit around hoping that something big will come to your mind to make you millions. Just keep trying new things! Work to do things you have never done and you will find that this commitment helps raise your confidence and makes you happier and more successful. You need determination, action and a never-give-up spirit if you are ever going to succeed in life. Commit to this.
  39. 39. Page 39 Focus On the Path Ahead It is important that you keep your eye on the prize so to speak. You do this through focus. When you focus, you are putting all your energies into a concentrated matter where you will get the most success out of the shortest period of time. Think of a laser. It is incredibly hot and powerful because it is light, concentrated into a small space. Well, when you focus your energy onto something you are essentially creating a laser beam to success. There are several ways to focus your energies including: • Develop and focus your skills. • Improve your skills every day. • Dedicate yourself to life-long learning, become a student for life. This means starting new hobbies, reading new books and trying new things to expand your horizons. Whenever you find something that intrigues you, focus your energy on it. Focus everything you have so you can learn everything you want. If you want to be a pilot, even of just your own small person plane, then focus all your energy on that until you reach your desired goal. If you want to speak five languages before you travel to Europe, then focus all your energies on this and don’t stop until you have reached your goal. Focus is a powerful thing, just look at how a magnifying glass focuses sunlight into a powerful beam.
  40. 40. Page 40 Practice Visualization Visualization is the key to success. Many batters in baseball will visualize hitting the ball before they go up to the plate. The reason they do this is because they want to visualize the positive outcome. Then, when they go for the positive outcome, it usually happens. Visualization is using your imagination to see yourself in a situation that has not happened and seeing yourself achieving that which you want. For a successful visualization, always visualize your goal as if it is happening now, make it real in your mind, and make it detailed. Visualize for three minutes at least twice a day in the evening just before you sleep and in the morning after waking up. Remember this equation as you visualize: I X V = R. • I = Imagination • X = Combined with • V = Vividness • = is create • R = reality
  41. 41. Page 41 So, with this equation you are saying that when you combine imagination with vividness, you are creating a new reality for yourself. Hence, by having the vision for a better future, you create that future for yourself. Meditate One of the best things you can do for yourself is to meditate. Meditation is something that helps you clear your head and helps you focus on what matters in your life. It is like spring cleaning your mind when you meditate because you are going through your mind and taking away the clutter. When you do this, you are creating a mind that is formed for success. You need to give yourself quality time and you need to give yourself attention because by taking personal time for yourself on a regular basis, you keep a balanced life and a positive outlook. What is a balanced life? A balanced life is a life that is both happy and stable. When your life lacks any sort of balance, then it will not function properly. You will find that there are problems with your life but you may not even know why. This is why you need to both meditate and pray on a daily basis. This will keep you balanced and it will keep your life from falling apart around you. When something is not balanced, it falls one way or the other. When you balance, everything is equal and calm.
  42. 42. Page 42 If your life is not balanced, you will begin to neglect important areas of your life. Pray and meditate to keep the balance and to keep your life from falling off the tracks before you ever get successful. Practice Affirmations What is affirmation? Well, affirmations are simple statements that you repeat to yourself throughout the day. You can repeat them silently in your head, or you can repeat them out loud. Often, affirmations are used in prayer, and these days there are many who use them in their lives for a variety of reasons. Now, it is important to note that there are two types of affirmations. There are the armchair affirmations which are people who say “I’m going to be a somebody” but then don’t do anything to make it happen. Then there are those who say they will be a somebody and they get up and do it. Those are the affirmations that you want. The former achieves zero results while the latter achieves great results. Don’t be an armchair affirmation talker. Your affirmations are based on your goals, the written list and plan you created and your vision. These affirmations are helping you reach a certain goal and they are helping you find your vision. Your affirmations should begin with the following words: • I can… • I am…. • I will….
  43. 43. Page 43 Remember to keep all your affirmations positive, as in I can do this, I am successful, I will achieve my dreams! Be Persistent Remember how we said that you needed to be consistent and committed to your goal of finding success. Well, you need to be persistent and persistence comes from doing everything I have said here, all the time. This includes: • Read books about being successful and to learn new things. • Listen to educational and inspirational CDs • Watch educational and inspirations DVDs • Pray • Meditate • Spend time around strong people. • Ask yourself daily where you want to go and what you want to achieve. This may not always be easy, and there will be times that it challenges everything in you, but it is important that you work hard to find success in your life.
  44. 44. Page 44 There will be times where you feel like you are getting no where, but you have to ensure that you stay on the path and keep positive. Success will come and the more you think about it, the sooner it will come for you. Soon you will begin to see a chain reaction of outward benefits because the process of inner- change is always followed by results in an outward expression. You will meet the right people and discover the right opportunities; you may even start to see opportunities that were right in front of you all along. Promise your self you will never give up. Begin your path to success now!
  45. 45. Page 45 Summary You have a purpose. You have a vision. You have goals. You have a plan. Now you have to go out and make all this happen. You have to go and bring success to you by believing you will be successful. You have to think positive, be persistent and be committed to your goals. You will have a hard road ahead in some parts, but in the end you will find success. You just have to believe that you will. Visualize your passion and see your vision achieved through set goals. Always affirm that you will be successful and you will find that success and everything comes quickly for you. Congratulations, you are ready to begin being successful! The wheels of success are in motion for you!
  46. 46. Page 46 Famous Quotes “There are two ways to climb an oak tree. You can climb it, or you can sit on an acorn and wait for it to grow.” It’s your decision, what will you do? “People with goals succeed because they know where they are going. It’s as simple as that.” Do you know where you are going? “First you jump off the cliff and then you build wings on your way down.” Are you waiting for the day you land a job before you start your life? The bible says “Faith without action is dead” Are you waiting for your wishes and luck to materialize? “Achievers simply refuse to give up. Persistence is the most common quality of high achievers.” Have you failed more than ten times in achieving your goals?
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  49. 49. Page 49 REFERENCES 1. The Monk who sold his Ferrari, By Robin Sharma 2. You will see it when you believe it, By Dr Wayne W Dyer 3. The Secrets of Success, By RC Allen 4. Awaken The Giant within, By Anthony Robbins 5. A Setback is a Setback for a Comeback , By Willie Jolley 6. Change your Thinking, Change your Life, By Brian Tracy 7. The Secret Door to Success, By Florence Scovel Shinn 8. The Magic of Thinking Big, By David J Schwartz 9. Think and Grow Rich, By Napoleon Hill 10. The Midas Method, By Stuart G Goldsmith 11. Mind Power into the 21st Century, By John Kehoe 12. The Power of your Subconscious Mind, By Dr Joseph Murphy 13. The Science of Getting Rich, By Wallace D Wattles 14. As A Man Thinketh, so is He, By James Allen 15. The Secret, By Rhonda Byrne 16. The Magic of Believing, By Claude M Bristol 17. The Psycho-cybernetics, By Maxwell Maltz 18. Your Destiny Switch, By Peggy Mc Coll 19. Attractor Factor, By Joe Vitale 20. Ask and it is Given, By Esther and Jerry Hicks
  50. 50. Page 50 Disclaimer This report was written as a guide only, and does not claim to be the final definitive word on any of the subjects covered. The statements made and opinions expressed are the personal observations and assessments of the author based on his own experiences and were not intended to prejudice any party. There may be errors or omissions in this guide. As such, the author or publisher does not accept any liability or responsibility for any loss or damage that may have been caused, or alleged to have been caused, through use of the information contained in this manual. Errors or omissions will be corrected in future editions, provided the publisher receives written notification of such.