Habit #5Seek First toUnderstand, Then to BeUnderstoodBased on the work Stephen Covey.
Listening Road BlocksSpacing Out:Your mind wanders when otherstalk.Pretend Listening:You don’t really pay attention tothe other person, but youpretend to. You say “yeah,”,“uh-huh,” and “cool.”SelectiveListening:You listen only to the parts thatinterest you.Selfish Listening:You always bring theconversation back to you andyour life. You say things like “Ihad that happen too” and “Iknow how you feel.”
JournalEntry orDiscussionStarter:We all have times whenwe are poor listeners.Which “Listening RoadBlock” do you mostoften use? Explain whythis happens.
Everybody wants to be listened to. When people feel like you listen, they aremore likely to like you. So, be a good listener, and you’ll have lots of friends.I’m All EarsWhat are some ways that youcan show people that you ARElistening?Who is a good listener? Createa list of people that you knowthat listen well.
Listen With YourEyes:Sometimes you have tolisten with your eyes asmuch as you listen with yourears. People say a lot withtheir body language andfacial expressions.
Emotion Charades:Find a partner. Practice ‘listening with your eyes”.Choose an emotion to try to express just with your faceand body. You can not use words.•Angry•Sad•Embarrassed•Tired•Happy•Thinking•Bored•Impatient•Scared•Worried•Relaxed•Frustrated•Surprised•Stressed•Confused•Flattered•Nervous•Annoyed•Interested
Mirror, MirrorTo be a good listener, mirror backwhat someone says. Repeat backin your own words what the personis saying. Use statements like “Youseem to be feeling…” and “So whatyou are saying is…”
Journal EntryorDiscussionStarter:Have you ever had a timewith your family or friendswhen you knew that youneeded to “zip it” and justlisten? Why is it importantto do this sometimes? Howdoes this help the personyou are listening to?
Are you a good listener?VeryGoodListenerNot Sucha GreatListenerHow could you bea better listener?
Credits:This slide show was created byRebecca Radicchiusing the following resources.1. The Seven Habits for Highly EffectivePeople by Stephen Covey2. The Seven Habits for Highly EffectiveKids by Sean Covey3. The Seven Habits for Highly EffectiveTeens by Sean Covey