Sexual Assault Sexual Assault – Sexual contact that occurswithout the explicit consent of the recipient ofthe behavior. Such contact can take the form of: Harassment Exposing/Flashing Forcing a person to pose for sexual pictures Fondling Unwanted sexual touching or penetration with anyobject
Rape Rape – forced sexualintercourse, includingvaginal, anal or oralpenetration. Penetration may be by abody part or an object. Rape may be forcedthrough threats, physicalforce, or psychologicalcoercion. Women, men, and childrenmay be victims ofrape, and victims may bestraight or gay.
Date Rape: It can happen toanyone Date rape is difficult to talk about Date rape is a serious crime Date rape is a violation of one’s body and trust Behaviors in date rape are the same as rapeby a stranger or by an acquaintance orsomeone in your family Date rape has nothing to do with love orpassion
If Date Rape Happens to You Remember that rape is rape. You are not toblame. Know that action against the rapist canprevent others from becoming victims. Get help immediately. Phone the police, a friend,a rape crisis center, a relative. Don’t isolateyourself, don’t feel guilty or ashamed, and don’ttry to ignore it. It is a crime that should bereported.
If It Happens To You Get medical attention as soon as possible. Donot shower, wash, or change your clothes.Valuable evidence could be destroyed. Get counseling to help you through therecovery process. Rape is a traumaticexperience and trained counselors can makerecovery easier and quicker.
Why Does It Happen? Although things are changing,society still frequentlyencourages men to becompetitive and aggressiveand teaches women to bepassive and avoidconfrontation. Men say they misunderstanda woman’s words and actions– the excuse, “She said no,but meant yes”.
Facts and Myths About DateRape Rape is onlycommitted bystrangers in darkalleys and parkinglots. As many as 84% ofwomen are raped bysomeone they know,such as friends,family or anacquaintance.Myth Fact
Facts and Myths About DateRape If a woman israped, then shemust have deservedit, especially if sheagreed to go to theman’s room or woresexy clothing. No one deserves tobe raped. Being in aman’s room orwearing revealingclothing does notmean a woman hasagreed to have sex.Myth Fact
Facts and Myths About DateRape Women who don’tphysically fight backhaven’t been raped. If a woman did not orcould not consent tohaving sex, it isconsidered rape.Forcing a woman tohave sex against herwill, whether shephysically fights backor not, is rape, plainand simple.Myth Fact
Facts and Myths About DateRape If there isn’t aweaponinvolved, youhaven’t been raped. Whether the manuses a weapon, hisfists, the weight ofhis body, verbalthreats, drugs, alcohol, or takesadvantage of awoman’s diminishedphysical or mentalstate to force her tohave sex, it is rape.Myth Fact
Facts and Myths About DateRape It’s not rape if theman is her boyfriendor husband or if theyhave had sex before A woman has theright to decide whatshe does with herbody at all times – ifshe does not wantto have sex, it is herdecision, even if shewillingly had sexwith the man before.Myth Fact
Facts and Myths About DateRape When a womanagrees to “makeout” with a man, sheis implying that shewill have intercoursewith him, too. Everyone has theright to say “no” tosexual activity,regardless of whathas preceded it, andto have that “no”respected.Myth Fact
Facts and Myths About DateRape Women lie aboutbeing raped,especially whenthey accuse menthey date or otheracquaintances. Rape really happens– to people youknow, by people youknow.Myth Fact
Facts and Myths About DateRape When men aresexually aroused,they can’t stopthemselves fromforcing sex on awoman. Men are still able tocontrol themselveseven after becomingsexually excited.Myth Fact
Facts and Myths About DateRape Only women areraped. Ten percent of rapecases involve menas a victim.Myth Fact
As A Woman, You Can Be clear with men inyour life about what,if any sexualbehavior you arecomfortable with. Do not use alcoholor other drugs. Trust your gutfeelings. Check out a firstdate or blind datewith friends. Leave social eventswith friends, not withstrangers. Always watch yourdrink and neverleave it unattended.
As A Man, You Can Realize that forcinga woman to havesex against her willis rape. Accept a woman’sdecision when shesays “no”. Do not use alcoholor drugs. Ask your self howsexual stereotypesaffect your attitudesand actions towardswomen. Understand that if awoman is drunk andyou have sex withher against her will,it’s still rape.
Date Rape: Staggering Stats For every 1,000 women attending college, therewill be 35 incidents of rape in a given academicyear. 51.8 % of rapes occur after midnight. 62% of completed rapes occur by classmates orfriends. 16 % of male students who committed rape, and10% of those who attempted rape, did so with atleast one other attacker 57% of rapes occur while on a date. Women are 10 times more likely than men to be
4 Major Types of Date RapeDrugs Gamma Hydroxyburtryate Rohypnol Ketamine Ecstasy
Gamma Hydroxyburtryate Also known as GHB. In high doses, the drug starts to work as ananesthetic and can result in sever adverse effects. These include: Slow heartbeat Decreased respiratory effort Unconsciousness Seizure-like activity The effects start to decrease after 3 or 4 hours. The health risks increase significantly when GHB ismixed with alcohol or other drugs.
Rohypnol Is used in some countries as a surgicalanesthetic and in the treatment of somepsychiatric disorders. Rohypnol is the most commonly used date-rape drug. It easily dissolves into all fluids and isodorless, colorless, and tasteless. It is a strong tranquilizer and is 10 timesstronger than Valium. It is easy to overdose on Rohypnol whenmixed with alcohol and can leave the victimunconscious after about a minute depending
Rohypnol When under the influenceof this drug, the victim is ina sedated state that is justthe way the rapist wantsthem. They do not have theability to fight off an attack. The effect of the drug canlast for up to 12 hours.
Ketamine Ketamine- A dissociative anesthetic,developed in the mid 1960’s, used primarily forveterinary purposes. It comes in the form of a clear liquid and canbe placed into any type of drink. The drug causes a combination of amnesiaand hallucinations. It also stops the feeling of pain and lowers theheart rate leading to oxygen starvation to thebrain and muscles. It can lead to temporary paralysis.
Ecstasy Ecstasy comes in a tablet that can come inmany different colors and usually has sometype of design on the surface. Ecstasy causes inappropriate and/orunintended emotional bonding, tendency tosay things you might feel uncomfortable aboutlater. It can also cause muscle tension, increase inbodytemperature, hypothermia, dehydration, nausea, and vomiting.
Signs of Being Dosed You feel intoxicated when you have beendrinking a non-alcoholic beverage. You wake up feeling fuzzy. You have injuries to your body that you cannotexplain. You start to feel dizzy or sick suddenly afterdrinking the beverage. You feel as if you aregoing to pass out.
If You Have Been Dosed Get to a safe place and tell someone you trust. Get someone to transport you to a hospital orcall 911. Try to obtain a sample of the beverage fortesting. Call the police immediately. Remember that you are not alone.
If It Happens To Someone YouKnow Believe the person Offer comfort andsupport Do not judge Go with him/her tohospital, police station,or counseling center Let him/her know thathe/she is not to blame Don’t take over forhim/her Don’t force him/her tomake decisions Don’t minimize his/herfeelings Do not blame him/her bymaking statements suchas, “I told you not to goto the party” Encourage him/her toseek counseling
Dating Safety Tips Open your ownbeverages Don’t share or exchangedrinks Never leave a drinkunattended Don’t drink anything thattastes unusual Never leave withsomeone you just met. Ifyou do, give the personsname and description to Always tell someone youtrust your plans for theevening and what to doif they don’t hear fromyou. Take your own car. Have money for a taxior phone call Be aware of yoursurroundings. Don’tallow that person toisolate you from others.
Facts About Teen DatingViolence Teen dating violence doesnot discriminate. It runs across race, gender,and socioeconomic lines. Teens who are part of aviolent relationship aremore likely to experienceviolence in their adultrelationships – violencethat’s often more severe.
What Does Dating Violence LookLike? Teens and young adults experience the sametypes of abuse in relationships as adults. Thiscan include: Physical Abuse: Any intentional use ofphysical force with the intent to cause fear orinjury, like hitting, shoving, biting, strangling,kicking or using a weapon. Verbal or Emotional Abuse: Non-physicalbehaviors such as threats, insults, constantmonitoring, humiliation, intimidation, isolationor stalking.
What Does Dating ViolenceLook Like? Sexual Abuse: Any action that impacts aperson’s ability to control their sexual activity orthe circumstances in which sexual activityoccurs, including rape, coercion or restrictingaccess to birth control. Digital Abuse: Use of technologies and/orsocial media networking to intimidate, harass orthreaten a current or ex-dating partner. Thiscould include demanding passwords, checkingcell phones, cyber bullying, sexting, excessiveor threatening texts or stalking on Facebook orother social media.
The Facts About Teen DatingViolence One in five high school girls has beenphysically or sexually assaulted by a datingpartner, significantly increasing their risk ofdrug abuse, suicide, and other harmfulbehavior. A current or former boyfriend or girlfriendvictimized 94% of the 16-19 year-old femalevictims of intimate partner violence. 40% of teenage girls between the ages of 14-17 report knowing someone their age who hasbeen hit or beaten by a boyfriend.
The Facts About Teen DatingViolence 58% of rape victims report having been rapedbetween the ages of 12-24; and, in 9 out of 10rapes in which the offender was under 18, sowas the victim. Both victims and abusers attribute theresponsibility for violent dating behavior tovictims, citing reasons like: provocation by thegirl; the victim’s personality type; the girl’sneed for affection; communication problems;and peer group influence.
Warning Signs While there are many warning signs of abuse,here are ten of the most common to look for: Checking your cell phone or email without permission. Constant put-downs. Extreme jealousy or insecurity. Explosive temper. Isolating you from family or friends. Making false accusations. Mood swings. Physically hurting you in any way. Possessiveness. Telling you what to do.
The Cycle of Violence Phase One: Tension Building Batterer experiences increased tension Victim minimizes problems Batterer increases threats Victim withdraws Batterer controls more Tension becoming intolerable Victim feels like they are walking on eggshells Poor communication
The Cycle of Violence Phase Two: Abusive Incident Batterer unpredictable; believes he is losingcontrol Victim is helpless; feels trapped Batterer highly abusive, incident occurs Incidence of violence or threat occurs Victim traumatized Batterer blames victim
The Cycle of Violence Phase Three: Honeymoon Period Batterer is loving, apologetic and attentive Victim has mixed feelings Batterer is manipulative Victim feels guilty and responsible Batterer promises change Victim considers reconciliation Victim often recants/minimizes abuse
The Facts About Teen DatingViolence If a teenage girl is physically assaulted duringan episode of dating violence while in highschool, she is statistically much more likely toexperience another physical assault during herfirst year in college. Male peer support for violence against womenis a constant predictor of male violence withinpost-secondary educational institutions. Between 1993 and 1999, 22% of all homicidesagainst females ages 16-19 were committedby an intimate partner.