Family By: Lindsey O’Brien CMS 332 April 7, 2012
Family Type: • A two-parent biological family consisting of my father, mother, older sister and myself.“Families are made up of bonded relationships. The bonds may be as binding as blood or as warming as a loving hug. What makes a family “family” is the sense of ‘home’ felt and shared among individuals” (Pg. 1). – Charles Wilkinson
Family Communication FunctionsIn my family weare able to shareour thoughts andlife stories witheach other. Bybeing open withone another aboutproblems thatarise, we are ableto keep a strong,loving andsupportive bond.It is an everchanging processthat consists ofhard work andmaintenance. “Communication may be viewed as a symbolic, transactional process of creating and sharing meanings” (pg. 24.
Functions Continued.. “The family is a system constituted, defined, and managed through its communication” (pg. 53).Cohesive: “Family members strive for emotional closeness, loyalty,and togetherness with emphasis on some individuality” (pg. 31).Flexible: “Family members experience high levels of change, shareddecision making, and shifting rules and roles” (pg. 32).
Family Images and Themes Like any team, each player plays a different position leading to the ultimate goal…WINNING! My family is like a team. We each play our different positions and share many of the same goals. Through love, support and teamwork we always win because no matter what we are there for each other. “Never give up and give it all you’ve got. If it was your best then you know you tried!”
Family RolesFather: (Husband/Father) Takes care of allfinances, providing a roof over our headsand comfortable, safe living. Worked tosupport our family.Mother: (Wife/Mother) Made sure thehouse was always clean, no one was everhungry and everyone was always healthy.Also worked to support our family.Both parents always took part in thedecision making within our household.They shared parental responsibilities whilewe were growing up and always providedlove and support to my sister and I.Sister: (Daughter/Sister) The academic andquieter one.Myself: (Daughter/Sister) The athletic andlouder one.
Family RitualsSome family ritualsthat we try to stayconsistentlyinvolved in include:• Family dinners.• Celebrating Birthdays.• Spending holidays together.• Apple picking and blueberry picking during the seasons.• Vacations (not as much now that my sister and I are older).
Rituals Continued..“Rituals are not just pleasurable routine events; rather, rituals serve central ongoing maintenance and relational functions” (pg. 113).
Family Typology My family would be categorized as consensual and open.“Consensual families are high in both conversation and conformity strategieswith their communication characterized by pressure for agreement ,although children are encouraged to express ideas and feelings” (pg. 173).Open Family: “boundaries tend to remain flexible when members areencouraged to seek experiences in the outside space and return to thefamily with ideas the family may use if group consensus develops” (pg. 175).
Power and Decision Making My parents share a syncratic relationship and share all decision making processes, negotiating lifes expected an unexpected events. Syncratic Relationship: “shared authority and joint decision making, implies that each partner has a strong say in all important areas” (pg. 185). “Decision making is the process by which family members make choices, reach judgments, or arrive at solutions that end uncertainty” (pg. 194).
Conflict Like all families, conflicts can arise. In my family conflicts never gounmentioned and must be resolved. I feel that depending on the conflict allstyles are used, including: competitiveness, collaboration, compromise andavoiding to get to a resolution. Regardless of how the matter is settled, it is always worked out.
ReferencesGalvin, K., Bylund, C., Brommel, B. FamilyCommunication: Cohesion and Change (8th Ed.) Allynand Bacon. 2012.