Wedding Vows - Traditional or Write Your Own?

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Wedding Vows - Traditional or Write Your Own?
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Wedding vows are essential in any marriage ceremony. More than mere words, whether you repeat traditional wedding vows or vows you’ve written yourself, these are oaths that each says to the other, a verbal commitment for life.

Writing Your Own Traditional Wedding Vows
For the last couple of decades, except with most Roman Catholic wedding vows, many couples write their own vows, using their own words or using verses from wedding poems. Sometimes these vows are simply variations of traditional wedding vows, adding a little personality into them.

Many couples even include some words of their vows as wedding invitation verses to share with their invited guests.

Preserving Your Special Words
Traditional wedding vows can be found all over the Internet and in books. But the words you create from your own heart and mind, and then embed into your memory for that special day, may be something you want to preserve as you would your marriage certificate.

If you wrote a special poem or verse, you can include it in your wedding program and your guests can read them later at the reception.

You can put a line or two of the vows onto personalized bookmarks and you’ll always have them with you. And, you can give these bookmarks to your guests as special wedding favors or tucked inside the programs.

Wedding Vows - Traditional or Write Your Own?
http://partyideasbuzz.com/traditional-wedding-vows/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0nAPvXZ47JU

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Wedding Vows - Traditional or Write Your Own?

  1. 1. Wedding Vows - Traditional or Write Your Own?creativepersonalizedkeepsakes.com/traditional-wedding-vows/Wedding vows are essential in any marriage ceremony. More than mere words, whether you repeat traditionalwedding vows or vows you’ve written yourself , these are oaths that each says to the other, a verbalcommitment f or lif e.Writing Your Own Traditional Wedding VowsFor the last couple of decades, except with most Roman Catholic wedding vows, many couples write their ownvows, using their own words or using verses f rom wedding poems. Sometimes these vows are simplyvariations of traditional wedding vows, adding a little personality into them.Many couples even include some words of their vows as wedding invitation verses to share with their invitedguests.Sometimes You May Not Be Permitted To Write Your Own VowsFor a traditional Roman Catholic ceremony, the Rite of Marriage doesn’t allow f or couples to write their ownvows. If you’re planning a Catholic ceremony, you may want to check with your priest bef ore you decide onwriting your own vows.Some ‘wedding of f iciates f or hire’ – i.e., ordained, non-denominational ministers who perf orm the exchange ofvows at a wedding as a paid service, may have pre-written words they pref er the couples to use. They might bemore like traditional wedding vows or the ministers might add their own words to them too.For example, when my husband and I were married, the minister who perf ormed our ceremony emailed us threeor f our versions of wordings we could choose f rom.We weren’t able to write our own, but the pre-written romantic wedding vows were so perf ect and beautif ul thatwe didn’t need to.And since her primary career was perf orming marriage ceremonies, having pre-written variations of traditional
  2. 2. wedding vows on hand made it easier f or everyone. She already knew what to say, and then we simply had to‘Repeat af ter me.’How to Find Just the Right Words When you do have theflexibility to write your own words, as long as you’re saying ‘IDo,’ the page is pretty much wide open.Personalized wedding vows can be extremely sincere, touching andinspiring, speaking of the true, undying love each has f or the other. Orthey can interject some humor into the moment.Think bef ore you decide to write humorous wedding vows though.Marriage is a commitment not to be taken lightly, so your wordsshouldn’t be so f unny that it seems you’re not taking your oathsseriously.Also, you may not want to make the vows too long if you’re planning onrepeating them f rom memory. If you’re nervous in f ront of crowds, youmay want to write vows that the minister or other of f iciate will read andyou’ll repeat.If you’re not sure where or how to start writing, you can do what I didwhen my husband and I renewed our vows – go online and Google it. If ound several websites that had several sample wedding vows, and so Iblended my f avorites into one set and gave it to the of f iciate to read to us.Dif f erent Vows f or the Bride and GroomSome couples choose to write their own vows separately, each speaking f rom the heart to the other in theirown words. Obviously, you want to discuss this with each other bef ore taking on this task.Again, if you’re going to be speaking in f ront of a lot of people and you’re nervous, you may f orget ‘your lines.’So you may want to write words that your minister will read and you’ll repeat.If I Write My Own Words, Are They Still Legal Wedding Vows?Actually, any vows are legal wedding vows. They’re simply the words of the oath that the couple repeats toeach other.A legal marriage ceremony is based on the laws governing the state orcountry where the couple is getting married. And the signature of theminister or person perf orming the ceremony must be licensed and havethe legal authority to do so.For example, if you say your wedding vows in Vegas at a Drive-Thru orDrive-Up ceremony, it’s still legally binding regardless of what vows yousay to each other. As long as the person who perf ormed the ceremonyis legally permitted to sign the marriage certif icate, it’s legal.Preserving Your Special WordsTraditional wedding vows can be f ound all over the Internet and inbooks. But the words you create f rom your own heart and mind, andthen embed into your memory f or that special day, may be somethingyou want to preserve as you would your marriage certif icate.
  3. 3. If you wrote a special poem or verse, you can include it in your weddingprogram and your guests can read them later at the reception.You can put a line or two of the vows onto personalized bookmarksand you’ll always have them with you. And, you can give thesebookmarks to your guests as special wedding f avors or tucked inside the programs.

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