2012 PAAVE Presentation Karoline KhamisC.A.R.E. Line Coordinator
Definition A pattern of assaultive and coercive behaviors in which an individual establishes and maintains power and control over another with whom he/she has an intimate, romantic, marital, or family relationship. Abusers often use threats, intimidation, isolations, violent acts and other behaviors to establish and maintain power and control which is the root of domestic violence.
1. Domestic violence occurs when a person commits one of the followingacts against or upon his spouse, former spouse, any other person to whom heis related by blood or marriage, a person with whom he is or was actuallyresiding, a person with whom he has had or is having a dating relationship, aperson with whom he has a child in common, the minor child of any of thosepersons, his minor child or any person who has been appointed thecustodian or legal guardian for his minor child:(a) A battery.(b) An assault.(c) Compelling the other by force or threat of force to perform an act fromwhich he has the right to refrain or to refrain from an act which he has theright to perform.(d) A sexual assault.Cont’d
(e) A knowing, purposeful or reckless course of conduct intended to harass the other.Such conduct may include, but is not limited to: (1) Stalking. (2) Arson. (3) Trespassing. (4) Larceny. (5) Destruction of private property. (6) Carrying a concealed weapon without a permit. (7) Injuring or killing an animal.(f) A false imprisonment.(g) Unlawful entry of the others residence, or forcible entry against the others will ifthere is a reasonably foreseeable risk of harm to the other from the entry.2. As used in this section, "dating relationship" means frequent, intimate associationsprimarily characterized by the expectation of affectionate or sexual involvement. Theterm does not include a casual relationship or an ordinary association between personsin a business or social context.Added by Laws 1985, p. 2283. Amended by Laws 1995, p. 902; Laws 1997, p. 1808; Laws2007, c. 40, § 1; Laws 2007, c. 318, § 5.
Emotional or Psychological Abuse:• Undermining a person’s sense of self-worth•Causing fear by: intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner/children, destruction ofpets and property, mind games, or forcing isolation from friends, family, school and/or workPhysical Abuse•Use of force against someone in a way that injures or endangers that person.•Denying medical care of forcing alcohol and/or drug use.Sexual Abuse• Any situation in which partner is forced to participate in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexualactivity.Economic or Financial Abuse• Making or attempting to make a person financially dependent.
Power and Control Despite what many people believe, domestic violence is not due to the abuser’s loss of control over his/her behavior. In fact, violence is a deliberate choice made by the abuser in order to take control over his/her partner.
-The victim realistically fears that the batterer willbecome more violent and even fatal if she attempts toleave.-Their friends and family may not support them leaving.-They knows the difficulties of single parenting inreduced financial circumstances.-There is a mix of good times, love and hope along withthe manipulation, intimidation, and fear.-They may not know about or have access to safety andsupport.
A Victim is the best expert at determining their own level ofsafety, and therefore are the best expert at determining how tosurvive a violent relationship, even if that means staying in the relationship
•FEAR•Lack of Resources • Financial Dependence • Isolation/lack of support•Institutional Responses•Traditional Ideology
•Leaving is not an event • Each time victims leave they learn a new part of the process so that when they know its time to leave for good- they know the systems they need to access in order to be successful•Leaving also means breaking free from someone who has establishedpower over you in many ways•Leaving will require strategic planning and legal intervention toavert separation violence and to safeguard survivors and theirchildren
Effects of DV on Children• Children who witness domesticviolence areaffected in ways similar to childrenwho arephysically abused.• They are at a greater risk forabuse and neglectif they live in a violent home.• Children exposed to familyviolence are morelikely to develop social, emotional,psychologicaland/or behavioral problems thanthose who arenot.• Some children show no negativeimpact fromwitnessing domestic violence.
• Children who witness domestic violence areaffected in ways similarto children who are physically abused.• They are at a greater risk for abuse and neglect if they live in aviolent home.• Children exposed to family violence are more likely to developsocial, emotional, psychological and/or behavioral problems thanthose who are not.• Some children show no negative impact from witnessing domesticviolence.
• Numerous somatic complaints• Nervous, anxious, short attention span• Tired, lethargic and frequently ill• Poor personal hygiene• Regressed behaviors or high risk play• Shame, guilt and self blame• Fears of abandonment• Anger• Depression and feelings of helplessness• Confusion about conflicting feelings towards theirparents.
• More aggressive/more passive• Behavior problems at school• Acting out or withdrawing• “Parentified” or overly mature behavior• Rigid Defenses• Excessive attention seeking• Lying to avoid confrontation• Out of control behavior• Hypersensitivity – to sound, movement• Bedwetting and nightmares
•Withdrawl from school•Becoming secretive, ashamed, or hostile to parents,family, or friends•Partner calls, texts, or using social networking constantly•Apologizes for partner’s behavior constantly•Stopped hanging out with friends
Signs of an Abusive RelationshipVictim’s inner thoughts Abuser’s Belittlingand feelings…. Behavior…..Do you: Does your partner: feel afraid of your partner much humiliate, criticize, or yell at of the time? you? avoid certain topics out of fear treat you so badly that you’re of angering your partner? embarrassed for your friends or feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner? family to see? believe that you deserve to be ignore or put down your hurt or mistreated? opinions or accomplishments? wonder if you’re the one who is blame you for his own abusive crazy? behavior? feel emotionally numb or see you as property or a sex helpless? object, rather than as a person?
Signs of an Abusive RelationshipAbuser’s Violence Abuser’s Controlling Behavior…..Behavior/Threats….Does your partner: Does your partner: have a bad and unpredictable act excessively jealous and temper? possessive? hurt you, or threaten to hurt control where you go or what or kill you? you do? threaten to take your children away or harm them? keep you from seeing your threaten to commit suicide if friends or family? you leave? limit your access to money, force you to have sex? the phone, or the car? destroy your belongings? constantly check up on you?
•Frequent injuries with the excuse of “accidents”•Frequent and sudden absences from work or school•Frequent, harassing phone calls from the partner•Fear of the partner; references to the partners anger•Personality changes (i.e. outgoing to withdrawn)•Excessive fear of conflict•Submissive behavior; lack of assertiveness•Isolation from friends and family•Insufficient resources to live (money, credit cards, car)• Depression, crying, low self-esteem
•Gently ask direct questions about the situation.•Listen without judging.•Tell your friend the abuse in not his/her fault.•Emphasize help is available.•Explain that relationship abuse is a crime and protection isavailable.•Work with your friend to identify resources that can provideassistance and support.
What protection does the order provide?By issuing a temporary protection order, the court may:Prohibit the adverse party from threatening, physically injuring, or harassing the applicant orminor children, either directly or through an agent.Exclude the adverse party from the applicants place of residence.Prohibit the adverse party from entering the residence, school or place of employment of theapplicant or minor children and order him/her to stay away from any specified place frequentedregularly by them.Prohibit the adverse party from having any contact with the applicant: In person By phone By mail (written or electronic) Through a third partyOrder such other relief as it deems necessary in an emergency situation.
Types of Protection OrdersEmergency Temporary An Emergency Temporary A Temporary Protection Protection Order (ETPO) may be issued if adverse party is arrested Order (TPO) may be issued for domestic battery or related for 30 days. charges and still in custody. An extension hearing may be This process MUST be started requested to extend the immediately upon the adverse Order up to one year partys arrest. If the request is delayed, the judge may not thereafter. consider it an emergency. A hearing will be scheduled within seven calendar days. The applicant must attend this hearing.
•The applicant will be required to complete an application, describing the need for aProtection Order.•Criminal charges do not have to be filed.•Police or medical reports of current or previous incidents may be included with theapplication.•Photos of any visible injuries may be taken in the Protection Order office.•Photo identification of the applicant is required for notarization of the application.•The application must contain specific information about recent physical, sexualand/or emotional abuse or threats of abuse that cause concern for the applicantssafety.•An advocate will review the application, discuss safety options and offer referrals toother services as needed.•The application process may take one to two hours.
The applicant MUST have a least one of the following relationshipswith the person against whom the Order may be issued:Related by blood (i.e. son/daughter, father/mother, brother/sister)Related by marriage (i.e. spouse, ex-spouse, or current in-law)Current or former roommatePast or present dating relationshipHave children togetherNOTE: The applicant’s, or any of the person’s listed above, minorchild may also be entitled to protection.
•A stalking order that is issued by a Justice of the Peace may do the following:•Order the adverse party to stay away from the home, school, business, orplace of employment of the victim and any other location specifically namedby the court.•Order the adverse party to refrain from contacting, intimidating,threatening or otherwise interfering with the victim and any other person,including a member of the family or the household of the victim, specificallynamed by the court.
The applicant must fill out an affidavit that describes in detail the actions or behavior of theadverse party that causes the applicant to believe his/her physical or mental well-being is at risk.The affidavit must be LEGIBLE, and it should include all relevant dates and times so that a properfoundation will be presented to the reviewing judge.In the affidavit, the applicant must show that the adverse party is acting in a pattern or "course ofconduct” consisting of a series of acts over time that shows evidence of a continuity of purposedirected at a specific person.The applicant may include any supporting documents such as:Documentation of phone callsNotes left by the adverse partyPictures of property damage etc.Answering machine tapes.The applicant will be contacted by a court clerk and informed of the judges decision. If granted,the Order will be in effect for 30 days and may be extended up to one year thereafter.
Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits(bathroom) or rooms with weapons (kitchen).Keep a bag packed in a safe place until you are ready to leave or if you need to leavesuddenly.Important items to have:IdentificationPersonal papers (i.e. medical, school, and legal papers)FundsKeysPhone and ContactsMedicationsThings to help cope (i.e. pictures, keepsakes)Change of clothesThink about and make a list of safe people to contact and places to go.
Know the resources in your community for emergency shelter, information andsupport.Carry phone numbers with you at all times. Memorize all important numbers.Inform friends, neighbors, school and co-workers so they can be aware of the situation.Keeping the abuse a secret could be dangerous for you and others.Establish a "code word" or "sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers knowwhen to call for help.Keep a written log, including date, time and witnesses, of any contact, harassment orabuse.Save written or electronic (voicemail, e-mail, text) messages, caller ID records and calltraces.Keep a copy of your protection order on your person as well as at all places listed.Give a copy to close friends, family, neighbors and co-workers too.
Get a new, unlisted phone number and screen incoming calls.Use a post office box rather than your home address.Change locks if you choose to stay in the same residence. Keep the outsideclear of foliage and well lit.Avoid staying alone.Vary your routine. Don’t make it easy to be followed.Plan how to get away if confronted by your abuser.DO NOT meet with the adverse party, even if he/she promises to returnbelongings or to resolve differences. Always ask for a police escort to retrievebelongs or return property.
Protocol for Victims on Campus Go to a safe place Seek medical attention immediately. University Medical Center (UMC) is the only hospital that will do a rape kit. You may be injured more seriously than you realize. Medical evidence will be needed, if you decide to press charges. Call University Police (895-3668) or CALL 911. Reporting is not the same as pressing charges. Call the Counseling and Psychological Services (895-3627). Do not blame yourself-you are the victim of a crime. Do NOT bathe, shower, douche, or change clothes until you have talked with the police or nurse. However, if you have already done these things, please do not let his stop you from seeking medical care. If you’ve changed clothes , place the clothes you were wearing in a paper bag and them to the hospital with you. Remember you may have an advocate to help every step of the way
Las Vegas Metro Police Department 311 or (702) 828-3111Domestic Violence Unit (702) 828-4451Henderson Police Department (702) 267-5000Victim/Witness Advocate (702) 267-4727National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)Nevada Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-500-1556SAFE House Hotline www.safehousenv.org (702) 564-3227Office (702) 451-4203Safe Nest Hotline www.safenest.org (702) 646-4981Office (702) 877-0133Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline (702) 399-0081Senior Protective Services (702) 455-8672Emergency Protective Orders (702) 646-4981Temporary Protective Orders (702) 455-3400Stalking/Harassment Orders (702) 671-3165