Being a parent is a major responsibility. You are in charge of raising an individual to the point of adulthood with the goal of turning him or her into a valuable member of the community. This undertaking requires care, love, understanding and the ability to keep the children on the right path. If done right, it is one of the hardest things you will do, but also, it will be one of the most rewarding.
“It’s terrific to be a mother; you’ll regret; your life will change” (pg. 311).
As stated in our textbook, becoming a parent is a personal decision one must take whether for religious reasons or personal choice. Yes becoming a parent and for most cases becoming a mother is such a big deal, but it is not a must.
Parents should not regret having a child because it was a decision they made not the child. The child should never feel she/he was a mistake.
It is a life changing experience because your whole world would revolve around your child. Your Childs needs and wants should and will always comes first. This experience should be a good life change.
Children from authoritarian homes are so strictly controlled, either by punishment or guilt, that they are often prevented from making a conscious choice about particular behavior because they are overly concerned about what their parents will do. No child should have to experience trap and fear from their parents. Outcomes of Authoritarian Style
Children from permissive homes receive so little guidance that they often become uncertain and anxious about whether they are doing the right thing. Without guidance, children will be completely lost in todays society. They will have no sense of where they belong or their sense of being. Outcome of Permissive Parenting
Less likely to be seriously disruptive or delinquent
Children whose parents expect them to perform well, to fulfill commitments, and to participate actively in family duties, as well as family fun, learn how to formulate goals. They also experience the satisfaction that comes from meeting responsibilities and achieving success. Outcomes of Democratic Style
Respect their privacy as you would want them to respect yours. Allow them to feel that once they enter their room they can know that no one will look through their drawers, or read their diary.
Instill in them, a sense of belonging by displaying individual and family portraits on the walls of the house.
Parents should not argue in front of their children. Modern divorce rates have children feeling insecure and fearful when they hear parents bickering. In addition, children will learn to argue with each other the same way they hear their parents argue with each other. Show them that when people disagree, they can discuss their differences peacefully.
Avoid favoritism. Surveys have shown that most parents have favorites, but most children believe they are the favorite. If your children are quarreling, don't choose sides.
Parents should up their vices: gambling, alcohol and drugs can jeopardize achild's financial security. Smoking almost always introduces health hazards to the child's environment. Second-hand smoke has been linked to several respiratory ailments in children. It could also contribute to the early death of a parent. Alcohol and drugs might also introduce health hazards or violence to a child's environment.
There have to be a lot if sacrifices does once parents decide to have a child.
Parents must set boundaries such as bedtimes and curfews, so they learn that they have limitations.
Encourage responsibility by assigning job like chores, to do and as a reward for those jobs parents should give their children some kind of privilege (money, extended curfew, extra play time, etc.).
Teach them what is right and wrong. Don't be hypocritical or be prepared for your child to point out that you are not practicing what you preach.
Explain that they will have to wait until they are old enough to enjoy a drink with friends and talk about the importance of designated drivers.
Failure to discuss these issues early sometimes contributes to sneaking and dangerous experimentation.
Avoid comparing your children to others, especially siblings. Each child is individual and unique. Celebrate their differences and instill in each child the desire to pursue their interests and dreams. Failure to do so may give your child an inferiority complex, an idea that they can never be good enough in your eyes.
Teach your children that it is okay for them to be different and they do not have to follow the crowd. Teach them right from wrong when then are young, and they will (more often than not) be able to make their own decisions, instead of listening to others.
Remember that your child is not an extension of yourself. Your child is an individual under your care, not a chance for you to relive your life through them.
When your child acts out in a harmful and spiteful manner, tell him or her that such behavior is unacceptable and suggest alternatives.
Be assertive yet kindwhen pointing out what they have done wrong. Be stern, but not cross, when you tell them what you expect.
Avoid public humiliation. If they misbehave in public, take them aside, and scold them privately.
Model the behavior and character you hope your children will adopt and live by the rules you set. Show them by example in addition to verbal explanations. Children have a tendency to become what they see and hear unless they make a conscious and concerted effort to break the mold.
Parents should not make decisions for their children all the time, they must learn how to live with the consequences from the choices they make.
They need to learn that their own actions have consequences (good and bad). By doing so, it helps them to become good decision makers and problem solvers so that they are prepared for independence and adulthood.
Parents must explain their options, and the consequences of each one, then live with whatever option the child select.
Allow them to experience life for themselves.
One of the most important things to remember as a parent is to be yourself. You can only use those methods with which you feel comfortable. A child can spot a fake a mile away. Children know if you mean what you say or if it is just another threat. Select the methods that you believe in, that you feel comfortable with, and then be consistent. No parents are perfect. Its matter of learning, understanding and putting it into practice to be a good parent. Summary
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